Even to this day I struggle to not internalize the shortcomings of others. Those shortcomings do not belong to us in any way, shape or form. People act out for many reasons and even though it’s difficult to do this you have to remind yourself constantly that what they are projecting at you comes from a place of their own insecurities and has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Regardless of this it can still be emotionally upsetting and hard to take.
I’ve found that one of my remedies for such a disheartening encounter is to think about and acknowledge the positive things I have in my life and how lucky and blessed I am because of it.
Even with this response there is still much anguish involved when others are harsh towards you. It’s obviously not a desired encounter but sometimes the positive effect is that it might have helped you to establish healthy boundaries that should have been there to begin with. Boundaries you might not have otherwise invoked if such an encounter had not occurred.
In most relationships there are usually expectations, some are unrealistic and some are in keeping with the Golden Rules of Respect, Trust & Loyalty. Regrettably some have higher expectations on others then they put on themselves when dealing with their relationship.
Not all relationships are meant to last forever, some are there to teach us lessons, build strength or develop a more balanced and healthy lifestyle.
Everything happens for a reason!
Trust in that, have faith that everything works out as it should. We can’t always see the end of the tunnel but we need to keep walking towards the light. Even when you can’t see it, have faith that it’s there.