Monthly Archives: April 2012

Feed Your Purpose First!

Does Your Cup Runneth Over?

It took me so long to learn and actually understand the true meaning of this phrase?  I’d heard it many many times before but didn’t really know what it meant and I wanted to share a point of view that I recently learned relating to this.Your cup, essentially, is your lifeline, and as long as you feed and maintain your level in this cup then what spills over the edge is what you have to offer to those who are in your life.  If I let my cup go below level then how can I possibly feed the lifeline of those that I take care of or those that depend on me if I’ve depleted it so much that nothing can spill over.

In feeding my purpose first it allows me the energy, inspiration, creativity and motivation to keep that cup full and overflowing.  This is a cycle that continues and will continue to gain momentum as long as I am feeding my purpose first.  It’s when I start to put others ahead of my LIFE NEEDS that I end up depleting myself and that is a cycle that I cannot afford to let happen.

There is nothing more motivating for me then to have my cup full and overflowing, and what I have running over is the spread of positive light and energy, which of course becomes more and more motivating for me.  The cycle of the positive gains speed just as well as the negative, except for one big difference.  To me the negative is cancer and I have no intention of spreading that in any way, shape or form.

My observations of the differences between positive and negative energy are that they show up physically on a person.

 Someone who is experiencing negative thinking and energy has a darkness about them (the equivalent of the sad person walking around with a cloud of rain over their head).  They sometimes look pale or gray, tired, gaunt and unhealthy.  Their body language can almost seem angry and uninviting.

Someone who is experiencing positive thinking and energy has a glow about them (the equivalent of the happy person with the rosy cheeks and big smile).  Their appearance is that of infectious radiance and the picture of health.  They are exuding confidence and are usually quite energetic and open.

I have always been very interested and intrigued by the many unique personalities that are in this world and the only way I can truly understand how some people work is to make sure that I listen and observe fully with an open mind.

My goal is to always have my cup running over, spilling out positive light and energy to all that come into or through my life.   That is not only feeding my purpose but it is what I believe my purpose in this life is.


Posted by on April 24, 2012 in Blog


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Leading a Life of Integrity

It’s not what you do, It’s how you do it!

This is a topic that came to me late in the day today and not for any specific reason but I started thinking about my place in this world and what I wanted it to be.  I know I want to make a difference, have a positive impact and hopefully leave this world with at least one, but hopefully a few more than that, lives changed for the better.

I believe that Integrity is at the top of the rung, if your word doesn’t mean anything you’re not going to have many people that trust you with important parts of their life. For me it’s the important parts of mine and other’s lives that connect us to each other.  Everything you do has either a direct or indirect effect on those around you and I find it to be an important factor in everything that I do.  It also shows your consideration and respect for those people and there’s no greater gift you can give them than that.  I’ve found that my deepest connections with others have been rooted in either one or many shared experiences.  It’s these shared experiences that validate both our thoughts and feelings on any given situation and help us to understand that we are not alone or off the wall in how something or someone affects us.

Remember this:  People are only as important to you as you make them feel.

Our feelings and emotions drive everything we do and when we feel hurt or betrayed emotionally then our reaction can be to either disconnect or shut down all together from that source of hurt.  As well it can emotionally stunt us from any growth we are meant to experience.  Our feelings and emotions are very strong and unless you are able to tune them out or control them ( I’m not ) then you either have to deal and move on or you become stuck.

There is no doubt in my mind that becoming stuck is not an option for me.  I choose to deal and move on, not only for myself but so that I don’t pass on this negativity to anyone else in my life.

My favorite method is to write it out and I want to encourage anyone and everyone out there to try this, it’s been extremely successful and healing for me.  I’m sure anyone who’s ever written an email or letter to someone has written it and then re-read it, made adjustments, read it again, maybe make another adjustment and then send.  I think the reason we make the adjustments is so something doesn’t come off sounding bad ( that’s our consideration and respect ).

Imagine this, you write out your letter to someone, something or even an organization giving it your all and getting everything off your chest, leaving nothing unsaid.

Don’t actually send it! 

Every time and I do mean every time I’ve done this I’ve felt better after and it’s because I got to put in my 2 cents about how something made me feel and once I’ve done that it’s released from weighing on my mind and emotions.  This is my therapy, my release and my way to keep myself sane and prevent that negative cycle from continuing.  It’s like my own little personal assertiveness training and it helps me to draw my line in the sand without losing my own dignity or integrity.

The main thing I’ve got that is entirely in my control is my Integrity – my respect, my consideration, my compassion and my empathy for not only myself but for others.  My word definitely means something!

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Posted by on April 17, 2012 in Blog


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Positively Empowering!

It’s Never Too Late to Re-Write Your Life Story

It’s been a very contemplative week for me, a lot of deep thinking and it’s all due to the power of the positive.  I’ve had the benefit of watching Oprah’s Lifeclass Tour which began just last week and I’ve found it to be a huge opportunity for expanding my own personal growth.  I don’t think anyone is ever really done when it comes to expanding your awareness.  I definitely don’t think that I have things all figured out and I absolutely love that Oprah is putting on this tour and broadcasting it worldwide.  I am so excited to see positive thinking and personal empowerment being spread on such a global scale.  The opportunities we can all create for ourselves have no limits and this tour is a huge reminder of that as well as an opportunity for anyone looking to experience personal growth, empowerment, awareness, motivation and inspiration.  So far there have only been 2 shows of this tour televised and it has already amplified my own thirst for personal growth and empowerment.  It has helped me to continue to remind myself that what I want to project outward at all times is a healthy and positive attitude and that no matter who or what the circumstance is I am going to be strong and not allow anything to interrupt or change that in any way.

If something is bothering or interrupting my personal flow of life I find that the best thing I can do is try to find the ultimate reason behind it, look for the positive lesson.  Sure, I could shrug my shoulders, give in and scream out “what’s the point of this?” or say “it’s not my fault, it’s theirs”, but for me I don’t see any benefit in doing that ever!  It doesn’t solve anything, it doesn’t make you feel any better and it certainly doesn’t change things.  So if you’re going to say “what’s the point of this?” make sure that question is directed to “what’s the point of me giving this any energy?”.

One of the key things on the first show that I believe to be a very significant factor in a lot of people’s lives is “what story are you telling?”.  If the reasons you aren’t succeeding or moving forward are because of a difficulty you’ve experienced in your life ( in your past ) then you need to stop telling that story.  It’s something that has caused you pain but by continuing to use that as your story (your excuse) you are the one holding yourself back from being all that you are meant to be.

When you continue to re-tell your story of the obstacles that have prevented you from having the life that you wanted, you are reinforcing that story and giving it more energy to grow and become an even bigger obstacle.  Close off the old story – “Life was tough before now, some of it was very painful, but now I’m going to take charge and I’m going to change it, it’s going to get better.  It’s going to be the life that I want and that I was meant to live”.

You need to re-write that story to suit you better to who you are now and who you want to become.  A good beginning, that I have used, is to simply change my perspective and attitude, it doesn’t cost a thing.  Maybe at first you may not see the changes and it’s not because they aren’t there but it does take some time to learn how to recognize your newfound awareness but it won’t be long before you are able to fully embrace it and begin to move forward.

Start your new story now, don’t wait, don’t leave it for another day.  If inspiration, motivation or both strike you, then you need to strike back while the iron is hot.  I know you are totally worth it to re-write your new story, one that is more positive and of more benefit to the direction you want to see your life go.   The only way to grasp a new way of life is to let go of the old one.


Posted by on April 10, 2012 in Blog


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Changing Your Thoughts

Changes Your Reality

One of my favorite quotes was said by Wayne Dyer:

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”     –  Wayne Dyer

I’ve actually tried this and it really worked, the circumstance I was applying it to was at my workplace.  It wasn’t that I had a huge dilemma with a co-worker we just kind of rubbed each other the wrong way.  Much time has passed since changing how I was looking at things with this particular situation and I’ve come to realize that maybe the reason for my co-workers disassociation was caused by the disassociation I was projecting.  Oddly enough now, this co-worker is someone I really like, admire and respect and all it took was to change that around was to change how I was looking at things.

When you first try this it may feel odd ( I think mostly because it takes more energy to resist the natural flow ) but you will find that whatever you are projecting outward is what you will receive back so it makes sense that if you change that projection then what you get back will also change.

What I have to throw into the mix this week is  – “what if I am emotionally connected to the circumstance, how do I then change how I am looking at it?” 

When I am emotionally connected to a situation it can be very difficult to shift my thinking because it’s clouded by the emotional attachment.   The only way I can think of is to take away the emotion factor by disconnecting at the source, and this is not easy to do and I’m not so sure that is something I am able to do or if it’s the right thing to do.  It sounds simple in theory but when you get right down to it, it’s a lot harder to take on.  The way we really connect with others is emotionally based and if you’re already connected then how do you disconnect.  We aren’t robots, we don’t have switches we flip, we are energetic beings that sense and feel but if a circumstance is causing you stress or hurts you emotionally then removing yourself from it is the only solution.

My usual approach to any dilemma is to weigh out my options, kind of a like a pros and cons list.  This gives me a visual and when I write things out it makes it easier for me to come up with the best solution or plan.  This is an ongoing process for me, I’m not sure that I’ve found the best solution yet for myself or for anyone facing this dilemma.

The only solution I have is when a situation or circumstance is causing you stress or hurt then sometimes the answers are to look within.  As in the circumstance above, I was initially causing the discrepancy I was having and had I realized that sooner I would have changed my thinking around much earlier and saved myself the discomfort.  What I know now is that when I do have any issues, I start with me.

If you need to search further then maybe the answers can be found by talking things over with a close friend who can help you to find the answers you need individually.  Sometimes in doing that you will find the answers much easier than trying to figure it out on your own.

I’m going to leave you with Wayne Dyer’s daily affirmation which is a very significant ending to this blog.

Monitor Your Inner Dialogue

Recognize that what you think about, expands. Monitor your inner dialogue, and match your thoughts to what you want and what you intend to create.

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Posted by on April 3, 2012 in Blog


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