Monthly Archives: October 2012

What’s On Your Mind?

Even if you Can’t See your Life Plan, It’s there!

We all have a life plan that has already been determined, it is called Destiny and I believe in it!  The reason our lives are referred to as a journey is because we are meant to discover and find our way towards it and if it was revealed to us too soon how would we go through all the challenges, tests and lessons that are meant to shape us into the person we are meant to be to fulfill that destiny?  Sure it would definitely be comforting and convenient to know what’s at the finish line, but learning to navigate your way on your own will build a reserve of strength and character that you may not have realized had you not had to rely on that faith.

What’s in your head can either help or hinder your journey, what are your thoughts about yourself and where you’re going on a daily basis?  What do you think of yourself, really?  What do you think of others?  Do you believe that you are worthy of all this life has to offer you?  What you tell yourself through your thoughts is very powerful whether you realize it or not and the most empowering words you can apply to all your phrases about yourself begin with “I Am”.  It’s a challenge at the beginning to incorporate this “I Am” ritual into your mindset but it’s well worth it and can be life changing.

–          I Am Healthy

–          I Am Worthy

–          I Am Happy

–          I Am Capable

There are so many “I Am” rituals to choose from that you can apply to your life and it really is all about you, the “I Am” thoughts need to be specific to you, whatever you want to attract into your life begins with changing that mindset.

I’ve been at work, been really tired, thinking “I Am” so tired and feeling even more tired because I’ve reinforced and enabled that mindset with my thoughts.  Now obviously if had only 2-3 hours of sleep, for whatever reason, and have to report to my daily grind, it’s definitely difficult to change that around with a thought, but I have been successful at it, although I didn’t realize it at the time.  I was thinking ahead to when it would get to the last hour of the work day and how great that was going to feel, somehow that created and energy that took me out of that really tired place.  Everyone is different so you just need to find a mindset alteration technique that works for you or one that works for someone you know and tweak it specifically to you.

When you allow your life to flow as it is naturally meant to, which I’ve done, not every single minute we all have our moments, but when I remain aware and cognizant of what my body is telling me and when I step out of that field of good energy it’s a matter of hitting the reset button on my mindset.

Create an “I Am” ritual for yourself, something specifically designed for you and where you want your life to go, what you want to experience along the way, what you envision as the final destination and always, always live in appreciation for every lesson, difficult or not, because they are all a part of the journey.


Posted by on October 30, 2012 in Blog


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I Got This!

Not a Dream, but my Reality

I know I’ve said this before but there isn’t anything that any of us can’t achieve as long as you have your heart and soul in it and truly believe in yourself!  This is true for an area of your life but my focus in this post is career because I believe that a lot of people out there aren’t truly doing what they feel passionate about and I don’t want anyone to ever have regrets.  Regret is really hard on the heart, it can deflate your spirit and it can invalidate your belief in yourself further then it may already be.

The biggest detractors that keep us from achieving our dreams come from these questions:

–          Am I worthy?

–          Am I capable?

If anyone in your life is questioning their self-worth in any area encourage them to believe in themselves because there is only one answer:  YES!

It’s imperative that you not allow anyone to encroach on your determination to achieve all that you desire.  Anyone at any time can consciously or unconsciously try to deter you from your dreams whether that is there intention or not.  As Wayne Dyer says put up the “Do Not Disturb” sign on your imagination and do not allow anyone else’s opinion in.

The real questions that you should be asking are:

–          Is this my true desire?

–          Can I envision it?

–          Does it feel effortless?

When I was younger I had lots of ideas of what I thought I wanted to do in life only to find that it wasn’t as ingrained as it needed to be for me to achieve it.  I only thought it was what I wanted and in making the attempt to try to attain that goal I discovered it didn’t fit or feel natural.  Your true desire or dream needs to feel like it is what you were meant to do, as effortless as breathing.When I was younger I really thought that I wanted to be a singer, I practiced, I dreamed and tried to chase that direction.  I never pursued it with the passion that I needed to because as much as it’s what I thought I wanted to do it didn’t fit or feel as effortless as breathing like writing does.  I hadn’t realized that I was in the right area, music is creative and my writing is creative but I was not as aware of the foundation of my true desires as I am now.  I don’t think it matters so much how you get there (finding your true desires in life) but rather that you do and remind yourself often that you can do it.  The people in your life that matter the most and care deeply for you will support and encourage you.

The very first step of putting yourself out there and being vulnerable will definitely be scary, but I think sometimes you need to scare yourself that way.  I’ve found that’s how I know I’m on the right path and that experience has provided me with personal insight into my true passion and purpose that I might not have discovered had I not taken the chance.

Do something for you, give yourself the gift of believing in yourself, allow no one to take that away from you and pursue all your dreams with pride and passion!


Posted by on October 23, 2012 in Blog


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Lessons, Lessons, Lessons!

Embracing Them All

I really believe that everything happens for a reason and as it should in the right time, although I’ve had my faith significantly challenged in these beliefs at times which has led me to question certain occurrences in my life.  I’ve come to the conclusion in the last little while that regardless of how difficult it may be, embracing the lesson may be the answer.  Even the lessons that don’t seem like there is a conclusion to, I think sometimes, embracing the lesson is the conclusion.

I have both resisted and accepted different lessons I’ve experienced, and so far resistance has been the most harmful to me and has caused the negativity attached to the lesson to drag on for much longer than it needed to.  As well, I noticed when resisting that the lesson has continued to appear in my life, whether I liked it or not, through different scenarios and/or people, until I was finally able to acknowledge, understand and progress from it. 

On almost every lesson I’ve had so far I’ve discovered that there was a need that I wasn’t aware of and wasn’t allowing to be fulfilled because my ego was quite sure it knew what the need was and was searching in the wrong place.  With my ego venturing off believing it knew best, I’ve wondered if it is possible for those in our circle to get caught in the middle of a lesson that is not part of their path simply because of their placement and vice versa.  When you are emotionally attached to someone it can be hard to sit back and let them lead, especially if you feel you can help, but ultimately it is their lesson and not our place to invade.

What does one do when they find themselves in this situation?  I believe that our awareness and inner voice (gut instinct) will let us know when that is the case and guide us to step back, the challenge is whether or not we listen to it.  The best I’ve found is to offer but not insist, you can’t steer someone else’s ship but you can help guide them through the rocks.

My thoughts have started to sway towards an understanding in the divinity of it all, are these really mistakes?  Or are they guided interventions that the universe is arranging to help us move in the direction of the path we are meant to be on?  I’ve realized that without some of the more challenging lessons I’ve had there may have been so many areas of thought, intention, passion and purpose I may not have discovered.

My curiosity is these different areas of thought are strong and I like investigating all the options, if I don’t I leave myself without possibilities.  It’s the possibilities that create the energy I need to sustain myself through the difficult times and it helps me to find a way to dance when it rains.

I’ve found that embracing all the lessons is providing me with a calmer sense of being, energized intention and a stronger insight into enjoying the journey.


Posted by on October 16, 2012 in Blog


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Thoughts for Thanksgiving

Thanks and Gratitude

As we all celebrate Thanksgiving in Canada or look forward to Thanksgiving in the U.S. I wanted to acknowledge the many things in my life with honor, thanks and gratitude:

Thank-You for my Beautiful Daughter and Family:

Even though we don’t all always agree for short or even too long of periods at times, I do remember and recognize whether we have agreed or not that there are some very good moments I will always cherish and appreciate.  Everything in our lives happens for a reason, some of our family members are meant to love us, challenge us and/or help us to grow.  There is a specific purpose for their placement in our lives whether we want to acknowledge it or resist it will determine what we are blessed to learn.  I have spent time resisting (and by that I mean being emotionally stubborn) only to discover that once I let things be as they are (give up the fight to be right, whether I was right or not) it became significantly easier on my heart and spirit.   

Thank-You for my Good Health:

I have the physical capabilities to take on any task or challenge that I wish to like participating in sports or parking my car at the furthest area of a parking lot because I am more than capable to walk the distance to the door without getting tired, having trouble breathing or experiencing pain.  I do not have any visual impairments or neurological delays that could inhibit me in any way.  Even though we see our abilities as being a part of our everyday lives it’s important to acknowledge and appreciate that things could be much different and much more challenging and honor those that power through them with true determination and courage.

Thank-You for my Irreplaceable Friends:

Friendship is one relationship that transcends barriers on so many levels, I think especially so for women, because our most meaningful connections are preferred to be at a very deep level and we are innately more tuned to that desire.  I have a select few of friends that are easily the most invaluable because like family, they can also love, challenge and help us to grow but from a different perspective.  Unlike family that are born or married within the lineage, friends are drawn to each other because of similarities in our faith, hopes and desires in life.

Thanks You for my Opportunities:

I have had so many great opportunities so far and I know that there are many more to come.  Opportunities haven’t always come in the form I have expected but luckily I’ve had fantastic signs and in the last 10 years I’ve been blessed to learn how to recognize them for what they are.  It wasn’t always easy for me to recognize even the most obvious sign but once I tuned into my inner spirit (my gut instinct) and starting listening and allowing it to guide me the signs became more abundant and easier to read.

I have had a lot of changes through the last 15 years, some have been difficult, some have been easy, but all have been necessary.  Regardless of whether they were desired or not I am thankful that they came at all and recognize that in the bigger picture they serve a purpose.  Even if I don’t see or understand what that purpose may be in the now, I have faith that eventually the wisdom will come whether it is through my Family, my Health, my Friends, or my Opportunities.

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Posted by on October 9, 2012 in Blog


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Keeping Your Eye on the Prize!

Finding Your Motivation & Inspiration

My biggest motivation is “keeping my eye on the prize” when times are difficult, upsetting or somewhat depressing.  My prize is what’s ahead, the bigger picture, and that helps me to put the little things into perspective.  Sometimes I can give the little things way too much emphasis and in doing that I am allowing it to change my outlook and attitude and it’s that simple little change that can severely alter my path.  If you trace back to see how you got so off course at times you may find the same thing I have.  It’s hard to believe that some experiences, that are insignificant in the bigger picture, can change your entire direction in life.

It’s not that there are categories in life of what matters the most it’s just what category they fall into for each of us as individuals determines how much of an effect it may have on us.  Something that bothers or disrupts one person may not bother another at all and vice versa.  We are all so different and of course we are not all meant to mesh together perfectly, this scale of yin and yang is necessary for balance.

So when you are experiencing difficulty what helps you get you out of the rut?  It’s obviously healthier for each of us to find a positive way to manage in the middle of a storm, whatever that method may be, but recognize that you need to be able to weather it in a way that doesn’t damage you.

Besides focusing on where I’m trying to get to, I find it necessary to maintain some sort of healthy humor in my life.  If you can’t laugh at yourself at times, I believe you are really missing out, and thankfully I have some great friends that take joy in laughing at me and with me.

My inspiration is in many areas but mostly it comes from appreciating that I have who I need and what I need in my life.  Appreciating what you have rather than thinking about what you don’t have is the key to increasing your happiness, and for me happiness is very motivational and inspirational.

Sometimes it’s in the little moments that you find great inspiration.  There are many people and moments that I find inspirational, I don’t think I could really articulate it well except to say that it’s a feeling, a sense of connection to others and that it is very powerful and uplifting.  I find it to be similar to an “aha” moment, because it can feel that powerful.  Like the “aha” is the moment of greater insight, the “inspiration” is the moment of greater passion and purpose.  Inspiration helps to drive the motivation and at times when you have a difficult time sustaining the motivation try using “the prize” as that assistance.  Below is one of “my prizes” and I keep this visual picture and others in my mind and in front of me when I need it.

I don’t think it takes a lot of searching to find out what your “prizes” are, I believe everyone has them.  Finding your inspiration and motivation to create the reality is definitely worth it!

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Posted by on October 2, 2012 in Blog


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