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Simplicity at it’s Best!

Dialing things down

We all have our own truth and what fits for you isn’t always going to fit with everyone else, it’s just a matter of respecting that without trying to change another’s outlook or point of view to fit your ideals.  As passionate as you can become about trying to get others to see your point of view sometimes it’s best to let things be and allow people to have their own truth as they see it, even if you believe your way is better for them.  How much is your peace of mind or serenity worth to you in the big picture?  What does serenity mean to you?

Of course it is all about the quote in accepting the things you cannot change, having the courage to change the things you can and having the wisdom to know the difference but how do you really find that acceptance when you are trying to force someone to see your truth or point of view?  It’s so important to be mindful about picking your battles and knowing what is really worth you pushing to be right when it comes to the more minor issues.

I find that the things that bothered me when I was younger don’t really carry as much weight now, not because they don’t matter but rather because if I dial it down a bit to be at the level I could have started from I wouldn’t have got myself so out of sorts.  I think most times when you find yourself getting worked up about an issue that wouldn’t normally escalate to where you’ve brought it to that is the sign that it is not really the core of what is bothering you and a more in depth look within is needed to find out exactly what the core of that issue is.

I think you will be surprised at how far off the issue you actually are when you do that in depth look within and it usually stems from an unhealed wound from the past.  These are just triggers, like signposts to remind you that you’ve gotten yourself off course from your destined path.  The resistance you feel within is a manifestation of your soul trying to get your attention and guide you back onto your path.  I think deep within you know when you are off course mostly because you feel frustrated and anxious about the things going on around you and how out of alignment they feel.  Most times you are actually personally disconnected from your soul and need to re-build your inner power.

So what is your truth?  Are you trying to pressure your thoughts or ideas onto someone else because you think you know better?  Honestly do you really think you know more than your maker?  I don’t think I would be so bold as to declare that I do.  There is still much more for me to learn and when I dial things back to the level they should really be at it really helps me to keep things in the right perspective.

Your own personal soul work is a lot harder to look at than pointing out what others are doing wrong and I’m sure your ego would strongly agree.  Are you letting your ego, the part of you that says but you just don’t understand, you’re not personally involved, you weren’t there and so many other excuses to support that argument?  Your ego isn’t in it for you to evolve, not a chance, your ego is in it to win it and to serve the higher purpose of supporting being right.  At all times being right isn’t as important as being kind which I’m sure you would agree if you were on the other end of being treated unkindly.

What part of dialing things down will help you live a much healthier and simplistic lifestyle for the purpose of peace of mind and/or serenity?  How much is that state of being worth to you?  To me it’s priceless!  Nothing is worth the battle, it doesn’t mean you are surrendering, submitting or saying someone else is right, it means you are saying I value my peace more than the dispute.  It means you are saying the benefits of continuing down a path of disagreement isn’t worth my peace of mind or the damage it can do to me within or my relationship with the other person.

Dialing things down and embracing simplicity in every aspect of your life allows you to find humility, gratitude, tranquility, serenity and an easier path.  I would rather travel on the path of peace than that of anxiety and conflict.  This doesn’t mean I am a doormat and never stand up for the things that matter but I have learned to determine what matters most for me and what doesn’t.  Knowing and understanding what my truth is and developing healthy boundaries hopefully inspires others to find theirs as well.

Simplicity is simply that!

 

 
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Posted by on April 13, 2018 in Blog

 

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Something’s Gotta Give!

When You’ve Gone Too Far Down the Rabbit Hole

Ever get to the point where you feel so overwhelmed in every area of life that the only resolve seems to be that “something’s gotta give?”

Life gets busy and sometimes you’re so hectic that you dig yourself so far down the rabbit hole you can’t see which way is up or out.

This kind of stress puts a significant strain on every part of your mental, spiritual and physical health which can manifest in a variety of ways producing outcomes that can challenge the state of your mindset. I’ve had experiences that have been extremely challenging and at times have caused me moments of what felt like extreme anxiety, finding an effective way to cope can be difficult but very necessary.

There are many areas of life that can cause stress; work, money, health, family, etc., and even though these are all valid stress points in life they can take a greater toll when you push back against what is meant to be. I believe that everything we go through happens for a reason, whether difficult or not, they are all there to help you gain a greater understanding and connection to your life and everyone in it.

The duress of this emotional baggage when constantly compiled on the soul eventually must find a way out and be purged, whatever outlet that may be through. For me, I write and that seems to be a great form or therapy because purging emotional stress is usually done through some form of communication to simply “get things off your chest”. Writing or journaling can be an effective outlet especially if you do not have someone to talk things through with to help you release it.

Alternatively it may not be that you don’t have someone there to talk to but rather some things just don’t feel like they can be communicated and/or articulated, sometimes you just have to find your own process for letting things go, put your faith in a higher power so that you can free yourself from that which is holding you back.

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Not everything difficult is there to bring you down, maybe sometimes to humble you a bit if your ego gets a little too inflated, but ultimately there is some form or wisdom attached and if you don’t embrace it you’re going to keep going through it until you finally do. I don’t believe that these lessons are meant to break you but rather break you open so not only are you vulnerable but there are no walls left to resist what you are meant to learn and grow towards.

I think everyone has the moments of feeling despair but those moments are only part of the process and not supposed to continue on forever. At some point if you aren’t transitioning toward the next phase it means you are resisting and I know that resisting feels like the natural response and for a while it serves its purpose by allowing you the armor that protects while you digest and adjust.

Once you reach the point of when you are no longer able to continue your resistance this is when the lesson breaks through, it is the emotional equivalent of “rock bottom for the soul” because there is finally nothing more standing in the way of the healing that is now able to come through. Following healing comes enlightenment, “aha” moments and a stronger feeling of connection to not only the universe but all the people in it.

The humbling aspect of lessons is that they teach you gratitude, appreciation, compassion and empathy for others, what is released is judgement, anger, entitlement and egotistical rule.

Sometimes I think you can see what phases of these kinds of processes (experiences) others are in because it’s almost like those that are at the most wound up are almost at the beginning and on the verge of being broken open and those that breathe love and lack of judgement are just coming through the end.

Whatever phase you may feel you are in during a dark or difficult experience know that the only way to get through is to let go of your resistance. Know that there is wisdom, clarity and peace of mind on the other side of the storm but only if you allow it to crash and bang when it needs to, take cover and when the light starts to come back know that you won’t be the same person that went in.

All things happen when they are meant to and how they are meant to, you will never miss something that is truly meant to be in your life it will always finds its way to you and in the right time.

same person from the storm

 
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Posted by on June 1, 2015 in Blog

 

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The Universe Knows More Than I

Resistance is Futile!

There is no point in challenging the Universe!  I have learned to accept this because the Universe knows more than I do about what is on the horizon and my life always adjusts accordingly, my resistance is futile!

Change happens and how well the transition goes depends on how well I adapt to it and how willing I am to accept it.  One thing I’ve noticed, for myself especially, is that change is just about to happen when I feel like I’m at a low point.  Like the calm before the storm, it’s that quieter moment when it feels like nothing is happening or is going to happen and then all of a sudden it does and how I respond determines how many opportunities arise as a result.

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If I resist, then the amount of opportunities diminish, not for any other reason than my resistance has squelched the momentum.  They are called opportunities because they require your call to action; some of them are fleeting moments and you need to act right away and some hang around available for a longer period of time.  I’ve found that the bigger opportunities involve bigger risks and by risks I mean vulnerability, when I’m scared of that moment I’ve found it’s usually a big opportunity and one that advances me much farther in my personal development and goals.

If I embrace, then more opportunities arise because I am keeping the momentum on an upward swing and embracing is a positive responsive action, positive actions create positive results, always!  Opportunities have a way of expanding if you give them the room to grow and evolve and the more room you give them the wider the spectrum becomes which equals more options.  The more options I have or create for myself the easier my life becomes.  Without options I feel stifled and trapped, unable to have the room to breathe that I need and that feeling prevents other options from arising, it can also manifest in other ways through physical or emotional well-being.

Learn how to inspire yourself when needed, not every day is a fantastic day, down time is essential to keep life balanced but finding the things that can change how your day is going in a positive way when you most need it is an important skill to develop.

Learn to recognize when change is on the horizon for you, what it feels like, how it affects you and how to utilize all the positive aspects to increase your opportunities. 

–          Be aware but don’t be afraid.

–          Take chances but know your limitations.

–          Be realistic but believe in your dreams.

Always know that you can do anything you want as long as your heart and mind are truly in it.  The only person that ever stands in your way is you, not the Universe.

The Universe supports your path even if you haven’t yet realized which path that is, it will constantly lead and inspire you to move in that direction.

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Posted by on February 6, 2014 in Blog

 

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What is More Important?

Being Right or Being Happy

In my opinion being right is not worth jeopardizing being happy!  It takes negative energy to hold on to the emotion that maintains the ego when it insists on “being right”.  Negativity in any form is not time well spent and being right will never be as fulfilling as being happy.

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I have been guilty myself of wasting my time feeding that emotion but thankfully I did not waste as much time as I could have because I value my happiness and positive state of being more than my ego.

I believe that the insistence of being right comes from a place of insecurity, feeling inadequate, invisible and invalidated.  “Being right” brings a feeling of being in control, respected and admired, something that an insecure person is not likely to feel on any given day so the insistence of being right is very necessary not only to the ego but to the psyche and state of being.  When someone feels invisible this may be the only validation they feel they have so it becomes very, very important.  My wish for those that feel the negativity of insecurity is that someone in their life is able to open up their world so they can see that it is this emotion of insecurity that is inhibiting their happiness more than anything else.

It takes more energy to feed negative emotions then it does positive.  All things negative feel heavy and draining, all things positive feel lighter and flow with ease, it is the resistance to the positive that drains the energy levels in our bodies and wears us out.

Have you ever noticed that when you have been resistant to something, regardless of whether you thought it was negative or positive, that it has been a draining experience just to fight it and when you run out of energy and give up, it’s like a weight has been lifted.  The release of that weight is the “letting go” of the resistance and I have found that when I have recognized I’m resisting and allow myself to “let go” I have later asked myself “why didn’t I realize this earlier?  I could have saved myself all the heartache that went with resisting.”

I have found it quite educational to observe how different each of us are, how that difference affects how we interact with each other and how that interaction reflects on each of us.  My observation of people that have insecurity is that they desire attention but that their behaviour and the way they interact usually offends others which has the opposite effect of what they desire.

I’ve observed people that are confident and have great social interaction with others and it seems obvious that the reason for these qualities they possess is because they are more concerned with being happy than being noticed.  When they communicate with others it is because they enjoy the social interaction and are interested in what others have to say.

I’ve observed people that are in between these two ends of the spectrum and I’ve found that I’ve learned something from everyone that has crossed my path.

The one thing we all have in common is that we are all trying our best with what we know to navigate our way through the tests, the lessons, the joys and the blessings, and if we are lucky we come out of each with more knowledge and appreciation then we went in with.

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Posted by on April 17, 2013 in Blog

 

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Change is Inevitable!

Let Go and Embrace It

Sometimes when we are forced into actions it’s because we should have found the way ourselves, sometimes when change occurs it’s because it’s long overdue, and sometimes we make the transition effortlessly.  Whichever way it happens is something that will be specific to each of us as individuals but the circumstances surrounding any change will be determined by either your resistance or acceptance.  I have travelled both paths at different times in my life and I can definitely say that acceptance is the easier of the two.  Resistance has always brought me disappointment, hurt, frustration and overall a heavy dose of unnecessary stress.  For some individuals change can be very challenging for reasons other than just resisting or accepting. 

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There are many reasons why we resist:

–          We think we know better

–          It’s unknown and we feel vulnerable and/or a little scared

–          Others are advising us to go that route

Of course the ego always thinks it knows better and it’s easy for you to convince yourself that you do know better, that ego is connected to you.  I’m not saying you have no idea what’s going on, I’m just saying that every time I’ve allowed my ego to run the show it hasn’t been a good idea because as much as the ego may think it knows better, ultimately it doesn’t.  The ego isn’t tapped into the same frequency as the universal mind so it can’t possibly know everything.

When things are unknown they can leave you feeling vulnerable and a little scared of what’s to come as well as hesitant to take that step forward.  When I’ve had this feeling it’s been because I was on the verge of experiencing a major change and positive growth that I couldn’t have possibly foreseen.  Every time so far it has been a positive step forward for me so I’ve learned to recognize when that moment comes around that I definitely want to go in that direction, experience has taught me that.

I don’t mind constructive criticism, it helps me to learn and grow as an individual but I don’t usually welcome being told what to do.  Somewhere in my psyche I find that in those times I become resistant because I feel pressured to go in the direction that someone is advising me.  Now that person may not actually be pressuring me but I may be receiving it that way and reacting because of that sense.  Some people will actually go in an entirely different direction simply because someone is advising them one way and even if they know it’s the right way to go they go in another direction because they are so resistant to the direction and/or assistance.

Regardless of what reasoning you have behind it chances are your resistance is causing you more stress overall than if you were to just let go and let things happen as they are meant to.

Change overall is the universe’s way of transitioning us into the direction we are meant to go and when you ignore the signs and resist the change you are only causing yourself more difficulty and stress.  When you are resisting change, the universe sometimes responds with a jolt in the direction you’re supposed to be going so if your life suddenly changes I believe it’s because you’ve been ignoring the signs for so long that this is the only way the universe can alert you.  Sometimes this alert can cause you to experience hurt emotions and I don’t believe that this is any sort of payback or karma, it’s just that if you get too far off your path there’s only one way for the universe to get you back on it in time.

Be mindful, stay aware and tuned in to what’s going on around you, pay attention to your path, the signs and those in your life.  We are all here to bring meaning to each other’s lives, teach, learn and grow.  Let your desires help lead you to your passion and purpose, don’t be in too much of a rush, it will find you when the time is right.

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Posted by on December 11, 2012 in Blog

 

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Lessons, Lessons, Lessons!

Embracing Them All

I really believe that everything happens for a reason and as it should in the right time, although I’ve had my faith significantly challenged in these beliefs at times which has led me to question certain occurrences in my life.  I’ve come to the conclusion in the last little while that regardless of how difficult it may be, embracing the lesson may be the answer.  Even the lessons that don’t seem like there is a conclusion to, I think sometimes, embracing the lesson is the conclusion.

I have both resisted and accepted different lessons I’ve experienced, and so far resistance has been the most harmful to me and has caused the negativity attached to the lesson to drag on for much longer than it needed to.  As well, I noticed when resisting that the lesson has continued to appear in my life, whether I liked it or not, through different scenarios and/or people, until I was finally able to acknowledge, understand and progress from it. 

On almost every lesson I’ve had so far I’ve discovered that there was a need that I wasn’t aware of and wasn’t allowing to be fulfilled because my ego was quite sure it knew what the need was and was searching in the wrong place.  With my ego venturing off believing it knew best, I’ve wondered if it is possible for those in our circle to get caught in the middle of a lesson that is not part of their path simply because of their placement and vice versa.  When you are emotionally attached to someone it can be hard to sit back and let them lead, especially if you feel you can help, but ultimately it is their lesson and not our place to invade.

What does one do when they find themselves in this situation?  I believe that our awareness and inner voice (gut instinct) will let us know when that is the case and guide us to step back, the challenge is whether or not we listen to it.  The best I’ve found is to offer but not insist, you can’t steer someone else’s ship but you can help guide them through the rocks.

My thoughts have started to sway towards an understanding in the divinity of it all, are these really mistakes?  Or are they guided interventions that the universe is arranging to help us move in the direction of the path we are meant to be on?  I’ve realized that without some of the more challenging lessons I’ve had there may have been so many areas of thought, intention, passion and purpose I may not have discovered.

My curiosity is these different areas of thought are strong and I like investigating all the options, if I don’t I leave myself without possibilities.  It’s the possibilities that create the energy I need to sustain myself through the difficult times and it helps me to find a way to dance when it rains.

I’ve found that embracing all the lessons is providing me with a calmer sense of being, energized intention and a stronger insight into enjoying the journey.

 
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Posted by on October 16, 2012 in Blog

 

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Trusting in the Divine

Having Faith in What is Meant To Be

What a tough one this really is, especially for me because I am a planner, I like to know what’s coming down the road.  Even though I know that what is meant to be, will be, no matter what, it’s still difficult at times to trust in that faith.  I like change, I like the variety and I only like routine in specific areas of my life.  Unfortunately having such distinct and particular ideas can make acceptance and trust hard to manage and something I still work at to this day.  I have found that Wayne Dyers’ quote of “change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” has been significantly helpful when I remember to remind myself.  Please click on the link I’ve just attached to view his you tube video, he is an irreplacable source of wisdom.  When I’m in a state of being that is blocking my positive energy I find that sometimes I can’t summon the thoughts to carry me out of it.

My two biggest detractors have been trust and faith that what is meant to be, will be, no matter what.  My resistance to this, for whatever reason, will not change anything except to prevent me from finding resolution and peace sooner rather than later.  In resisting I cause myself to stay in that state for longer and there is absolutely no benefit.  I need to continually remind myself to let go, trust, have faith and stop trying to steer the course that is all part of the divine plan, a plan that I don’t know the outcome of.  The moment I remind myself of this quote is the moment that everything shifts into the perspective it should have been in all along.  I don’t think I could really explain it further, it’s something that you need to embrace to experience and something you can’t experience unless you embrace it.

When I do embrace it and accept that “everything happens for a reason” I find that things don’t seem to have as much power over me anymore.  It’s not that it’s no longer important it’s just that I’m reducing the impact it has on my life by changing the way I’m looking at it and in doing that what I’m looking at changes.  It’s amazing how one little alteration of perception can change so many things, like mood, disposition, attitude and outlook.  This could be the difference that determines what direction your life goes in.

As much as I inherently know all of this it really is a “work in progress” to apply it to my life, especially when I allow my emotions to overrule my mind.  I think it depends on where we are at physically, emotionally and mentally as to if certain circumstances are given more power than they should be at certain times in our lives.  We’re not expected to be strong and resilient every single day, sometimes things can get to you and my reminder phrase when they do is such a powerful tool to have with me.

I don’t believe that there is any one person that has all the answers we can only hope to learn from one another or through shared experiences.

I have to allow myself to let go and trust in the higher power that I have faith to, and know that regardless of whether or not I like or dislike a situation that it is there to teach me something and in time that reason will be revealed as long as I have faith.  Allowing that faith doesn’t mean I’m giving in or giving up it means I’m letting go of what was to allow what is.

Sometimes when you’re looking for answers, letting go is the only way to find it.

 
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Posted by on July 10, 2012 in Blog

 

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