Dialing things down
We all have our own truth and what fits for you isn’t always going to fit with everyone else, it’s just a matter of respecting that without trying to change another’s outlook or point of view to fit your ideals. As passionate as you can become about trying to get others to see your point of view sometimes it’s best to let things be and allow people to have their own truth as they see it, even if you believe your way is better for them. How much is your peace of mind or serenity worth to you in the big picture? What does serenity mean to you?
Of course it is all about the quote in accepting the things you cannot change, having the courage to change the things you can and having the wisdom to know the difference but how do you really find that acceptance when you are trying to force someone to see your truth or point of view? It’s so important to be mindful about picking your battles and knowing what is really worth you pushing to be right when it comes to the more minor issues.
I find that the things that bothered me when I was younger don’t really carry as much weight now, not because they don’t matter but rather because if I dial it down a bit to be at the level I could have started from I wouldn’t have got myself so out of sorts. I think most times when you find yourself getting worked up about an issue that wouldn’t normally escalate to where you’ve brought it to that is the sign that it is not really the core of what is bothering you and a more in depth look within is needed to find out exactly what the core of that issue is.
I think you will be surprised at how far off the issue you actually are when you do that in depth look within and it usually stems from an unhealed wound from the past. These are just triggers, like signposts to remind you that you’ve gotten yourself off course from your destined path. The resistance you feel within is a manifestation of your soul trying to get your attention and guide you back onto your path. I think deep within you know when you are off course mostly because you feel frustrated and anxious about the things going on around you and how out of alignment they feel. Most times you are actually personally disconnected from your soul and need to re-build your inner power.
So what is your truth? Are you trying to pressure your thoughts or ideas onto someone else because you think you know better? Honestly do you really think you know more than your maker? I don’t think I would be so bold as to declare that I do. There is still much more for me to learn and when I dial things back to the level they should really be at it really helps me to keep things in the right perspective.
Your own personal soul work is a lot harder to look at than pointing out what others are doing wrong and I’m sure your ego would strongly agree. Are you letting your ego, the part of you that says but you just don’t understand, you’re not personally involved, you weren’t there and so many other excuses to support that argument? Your ego isn’t in it for you to evolve, not a chance, your ego is in it to win it and to serve the higher purpose of supporting being right. At all times being right isn’t as important as being kind which I’m sure you would agree if you were on the other end of being treated unkindly.
What part of dialing things down will help you live a much healthier and simplistic lifestyle for the purpose of peace of mind and/or serenity? How much is that state of being worth to you? To me it’s priceless! Nothing is worth the battle, it doesn’t mean you are surrendering, submitting or saying someone else is right, it means you are saying I value my peace more than the dispute. It means you are saying the benefits of continuing down a path of disagreement isn’t worth my peace of mind or the damage it can do to me within or my relationship with the other person.
Dialing things down and embracing simplicity in every aspect of your life allows you to find humility, gratitude, tranquility, serenity and an easier path. I would rather travel on the path of peace than that of anxiety and conflict. This doesn’t mean I am a doormat and never stand up for the things that matter but I have learned to determine what matters most for me and what doesn’t. Knowing and understanding what my truth is and developing healthy boundaries hopefully inspires others to find theirs as well.
Simplicity is simply that!
Shelley Hallmark 