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Serendipity is Magical!

Don’t Chase Destiny, Let it Find You

My interpretation of Serendipity is allowing destiny to unfold as the universe has intended and embracing those moments along the way.  Even if that Serendipity is not something you’ve had on your radar of desires I think it’s important to at least acknowledge and consider the possibilities.  I’ve attached the actual definition I googled below:

Serendipity:  an aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident

I experienced specific times when Serendipity was at play and I always used to refer to those times as Divine Intervention, although I don’t think it really matters how you personally interpret it, just that you recognize and/or allow it into your life to work its magic.

If you think back to the insignificant moments in your life that ultimately had a bigger impact then you had realized at the time, ask yourself, did you embrace those moments or resist them?  Or were they so casual at the time that you weren’t aware of their part in the bigger picture?  When you make these connections later it’s amazing to see how integral certain moments were and how different the direction of your life may have been had those casual encounters not occurred.

There are probably a lot of ways you can reflect and evaluate each and every occurrence in your life but I think mostly I’m asking about the moments that felt oddly familiar or significant in some way, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.  I’m sure there are many and there are a few for me that are still unanswered that I haven’t put the pieces together on yet and I’m looking forward to that moment of clarity.

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It’s a matter of trusting and believing that your destiny (whatever that may be) will present itself when the time is perfectly right and having faith that your destiny is in alignment with all the seeds you have sewn so far.  We are all meant to have good in our lives, it’s unfortunate that we can get too sidetracked by the negative aspects in our human existence but they are there to test our strength of character and sometimes tempt us down the wrong path.  These challenges can seem impassable but they are always valuable lessons that are necessary to our destiny.  I do believe that there is always hope to change a path that is causing any kind of turmoil in your life and I think the best way to interpret difficulty is to realize that these tests are tough because you are meant for greater things that require greater strength and that difficulty will shape you into the person you need to be to live your specific destiny.

My bottom line:

–          Don’t cut yourself off from embracing something just because it is unknown, have faith that “Everything happens for a Reason”, the reason will become clear to you when you are fully ready for it.

–          Don’t let negativity win, you are more powerful than you may think or realize at this time

–          Do try to find the silver lining even in the difficult times for it will lead to a more positive state of being, which is the kryptonite to negativity.

Serendipity occurs to remind you that there is still magic left in your life and when those moments occur; embrace them, allow them to play out without resistance and I bet it will lead you to a life you couldn’t have imagined or written for yourself.

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Posted by on April 24, 2013 in Blog

 

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What is More Important?

Being Right or Being Happy

In my opinion being right is not worth jeopardizing being happy!  It takes negative energy to hold on to the emotion that maintains the ego when it insists on “being right”.  Negativity in any form is not time well spent and being right will never be as fulfilling as being happy.

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I have been guilty myself of wasting my time feeding that emotion but thankfully I did not waste as much time as I could have because I value my happiness and positive state of being more than my ego.

I believe that the insistence of being right comes from a place of insecurity, feeling inadequate, invisible and invalidated.  “Being right” brings a feeling of being in control, respected and admired, something that an insecure person is not likely to feel on any given day so the insistence of being right is very necessary not only to the ego but to the psyche and state of being.  When someone feels invisible this may be the only validation they feel they have so it becomes very, very important.  My wish for those that feel the negativity of insecurity is that someone in their life is able to open up their world so they can see that it is this emotion of insecurity that is inhibiting their happiness more than anything else.

It takes more energy to feed negative emotions then it does positive.  All things negative feel heavy and draining, all things positive feel lighter and flow with ease, it is the resistance to the positive that drains the energy levels in our bodies and wears us out.

Have you ever noticed that when you have been resistant to something, regardless of whether you thought it was negative or positive, that it has been a draining experience just to fight it and when you run out of energy and give up, it’s like a weight has been lifted.  The release of that weight is the “letting go” of the resistance and I have found that when I have recognized I’m resisting and allow myself to “let go” I have later asked myself “why didn’t I realize this earlier?  I could have saved myself all the heartache that went with resisting.”

I have found it quite educational to observe how different each of us are, how that difference affects how we interact with each other and how that interaction reflects on each of us.  My observation of people that have insecurity is that they desire attention but that their behaviour and the way they interact usually offends others which has the opposite effect of what they desire.

I’ve observed people that are confident and have great social interaction with others and it seems obvious that the reason for these qualities they possess is because they are more concerned with being happy than being noticed.  When they communicate with others it is because they enjoy the social interaction and are interested in what others have to say.

I’ve observed people that are in between these two ends of the spectrum and I’ve found that I’ve learned something from everyone that has crossed my path.

The one thing we all have in common is that we are all trying our best with what we know to navigate our way through the tests, the lessons, the joys and the blessings, and if we are lucky we come out of each with more knowledge and appreciation then we went in with.

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Posted by on April 17, 2013 in Blog

 

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The Transitions of Life!

Without Change We Wouldn’t have Growth

I’m watching another installment of Oprah’s Lifeclass with Pastor Rick Warren, author of “The Purpose Driven Life” and one thing in particular he has just talked about is something that sparked my interest immediately:

change is a process

“The Transitions of Life”

“There is no growth without change, no change without loss and no loss without pain and that is Grief.”  “Fear and Resentment are the things that will hold you back.”

Pastor Rick Warren’s definition of the difference between success and significance:

–          “Everybody’s life is driven by something. 

–          There are a lot of successful people whose lives are driven by guilt. 

–          There are a lot of successful people who are driven by the approval of others.”

“If you live for the approval of others, you will die by their rejection”

“The two biggest barriers to you fulfilling your purpose in life is envy and people pleasing. 

–          Envy is, I must be like you to be happy. 

–          People pleasing is, I must be liked by you to be happy.

Those two things will cause you to miss God’s purpose for your life! 

You have to live for an audience of one!

I found that these statements are very powerful because our emotions, like fear and resentment can become so ingrained within us that it can start to control us whether we want it to or not.  These two emotions especially can keep you from experiencing and progressing through your life as you are meant to.

Fear can be paralyzing, it can prevent you from taking the risks that may improve your life in more ways than you can imagine and can cause you to doubt your own capabilities.

Resentment can be imprisoning because it can cause you to replay, over and over, events in your life that were damaging to your emotional state of being and by continuing to hold on to that resentment you will likely feel the hurt of those memories often, possibly even daily.

Loss, whether someone has passed on or a relationship has run its course transitions us to grief and during that grief process is the opportunity for healing.  All things change even if we don’t think we want them to but every ending is the beginning of something new.

These transitions, once recognized for their true meaning, can change your entire life if you let it, especially when you allow yourself to have faith that “all things will work out as they should, and when they should”.  I believe in that statement and even when things feel unknown I am very confident that at some point it will all make sense and usually it does!  I don’t challenge the timing of when that light bulb will go on and I’ll figure out how all those pieces of the puzzle fit together, I would drive myself crazy if I did that!  I just know that whatever the outcome is it will be what is best for me and that it’s all part of the bigger picture of my life that I will eventually come into.

When looking back 5 or even 10 years I couldn’t have possibly guessed that I would be where I am at now and I have such anticipation for what the next chapters of my life hold.  I’m excited and hopeful for a future that is fitting of the transitions that I’ve had in my life so far.  Of course I have ideas and dreams of where I want my future to go but so far everything I’ve thought had in my sights has turned into something completely different and better so I know that whatever direction is mapped out for my future is one that I will fit into comfortably.

faith in god, faith in timing

 
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Posted by on April 10, 2013 in Blog

 

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The Moment of Truth!

Victim or Victor?

We all have a choice!  That choice is to live your life as either the victim or the victor.  Which side of that moment of truth is affecting your life?  We all have challenges that change us, what defines us is how we make it through those challenges and whether or not we come out on the other side with more wisdom than we went in with.  We are meant to learn and grow, use the wisdom we acquire to assist us on our journey and not let the hard times defeat us.

We all have a story that we tell over and over either internally, out loud, or both and that story can either inspire great change or imprison you.  It is difficult to have challenge after challenge, especially when those challenges feel so defeating that you don’t think you have the energy or will to keep going.  I always view the harder challenges as defining moments for myself and believe that there is a reason within the greater picture for them to be presented in my life.  Even though some are very difficult on my emotions I embrace them as blessings and believe that their magnitude only translates to a greater destiny for myself.  This personal theory allows me to get through them faster and helps me to maintain my faith and develop a stronger sense of hope for the future.

I find that much later after going through something challenging that in reflection I can finally see the difficulty in the degree it actually was and usually we view things as being worse than they actually are when we are in the midst of them.

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I recently came across some wisdom imparted by Deepak Chopra from the Introduction in his book “Creating Affluence” that I thought was such a great concept, one that I intend to incorporate into my daily thoughts.

A spiritual teacher once said “There are two Goddesses that reside in the heart of every human being.  Everybody is deeply in love with these supreme beings.  But there is a certain secret that you need to know, and I will tell you what it is.”

“Although you love both Goddesses, you must pay more attention to one of them.  She is the Goddess of Knowledge, and her name is Sarasvati.  Pursue her, love her, and give her your attention.  The other Goddess, whose name is Lakshmi, is the Goddess of Wealth.  When you pay more attention to Saravati, Lakshmi will become extremely jealous and pay more attention to you.”  The more you seek the Goddess of Knowledge, the more the Goddess of Wealth will seek you.  She will follow you wherever you go and never leave you.  And the wealth you desire will be yours forever.”

Honestly this makes sense because the more you pursue knowledge, the more it changes your focus and intention.  Sometimes our attention to the lesser gratification can impede us from discovering the greater manifestation.

Embrace your moment of truth, listen to the Universe’s whisper as it guides you to your destiny.

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Posted by on April 3, 2013 in Blog

 

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