Being Right or Being Happy
In my opinion being right is not worth jeopardizing being happy! It takes negative energy to hold on to the emotion that maintains the ego when it insists on “being right”. Negativity in any form is not time well spent and being right will never be as fulfilling as being happy.
I have been guilty myself of wasting my time feeding that emotion but thankfully I did not waste as much time as I could have because I value my happiness and positive state of being more than my ego.
I believe that the insistence of being right comes from a place of insecurity, feeling inadequate, invisible and invalidated. “Being right” brings a feeling of being in control, respected and admired, something that an insecure person is not likely to feel on any given day so the insistence of being right is very necessary not only to the ego but to the psyche and state of being. When someone feels invisible this may be the only validation they feel they have so it becomes very, very important. My wish for those that feel the negativity of insecurity is that someone in their life is able to open up their world so they can see that it is this emotion of insecurity that is inhibiting their happiness more than anything else.
It takes more energy to feed negative emotions then it does positive. All things negative feel heavy and draining, all things positive feel lighter and flow with ease, it is the resistance to the positive that drains the energy levels in our bodies and wears us out.
Have you ever noticed that when you have been resistant to something, regardless of whether you thought it was negative or positive, that it has been a draining experience just to fight it and when you run out of energy and give up, it’s like a weight has been lifted. The release of that weight is the “letting go” of the resistance and I have found that when I have recognized I’m resisting and allow myself to “let go” I have later asked myself “why didn’t I realize this earlier? I could have saved myself all the heartache that went with resisting.”
I have found it quite educational to observe how different each of us are, how that difference affects how we interact with each other and how that interaction reflects on each of us. My observation of people that have insecurity is that they desire attention but that their behaviour and the way they interact usually offends others which has the opposite effect of what they desire.
I’ve observed people that are confident and have great social interaction with others and it seems obvious that the reason for these qualities they possess is because they are more concerned with being happy than being noticed. When they communicate with others it is because they enjoy the social interaction and are interested in what others have to say.
I’ve observed people that are in between these two ends of the spectrum and I’ve found that I’ve learned something from everyone that has crossed my path.
The one thing we all have in common is that we are all trying our best with what we know to navigate our way through the tests, the lessons, the joys and the blessings, and if we are lucky we come out of each with more knowledge and appreciation then we went in with.