Monthly Archives: October 2011

Get it, girl!

Just because you are a single mom doesn’t mean you can’t have everything you dream of.  I use the Law of Attraction in many areas of my life, and so far it has never let me down.  Our thoughts are very powerful and we can bring, to our lives and the lives of our children, everything that we need and desire.

I have always used a form of the Law of Attraction ( LOA ). There are a few different variances in definition, but the basis of it is visualizing and believing and remaining in a “State of Being”.  I have always been very good at visualizing what I desire, and being able to visualize makes it that much easier to believe in it.  “Seeing is Believing” and “Believing is Seeing”.

I’ve used the LOA all my life, one example I can give you to better illustrate the beautiful outcome that can be experienced is my daughter.  She was born 3 ½ months premature and weighed only 1 lb, 7 oz.  The doctors kept giving me the usual deadlines; the first 12 hrs are critical, the next 24 hrs are critical, and so on.  I could visually see in my mind so clearly that she was going to make it and come home with me.  She blew every doctors warning out of the water, and they were stunned but kept saying that my positive attitude would be very good for her.  Of course it would, I knew that, and I would just smile to myself and say to them again, “She’s coming home with me”.  They didn’t realize that I had the Ultimate Secret in my pocket: it was the Law of Attraction.

The same concept was what I used in getting that job I wanted, getting that car I wanted, writing my 1st book. I’m not done: more of my work will follow.  You can have anything you want as long as you believe in yourself and your dreams.

You can find motivation in other single moms who may be on a different path because we all have one thing in common.  We work hard to make our children’s lives be all that they can be.

There are so many times I could have just decided to give up and blame it on being a single mom, having a special needs child.  It’s definitely a difficult journey but we all deserve to have the life we desire.

Never stop chasing your dreams, don’t ever stop yourself because of a self-imposed limit that you can’t do it, or you’re past the age of achieving, there is no such thing as “too late”.  I think you deserve it!

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Posted by on October 26, 2011 in Blog


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Who’s the adult here?

Who’s the adult here?

I may be the parent of a special needs child, but without her I might never have known or fulfilled my true potential. She has taught me so much about myself and has helped shape me into the person I am today. I am truly blessed to have her in my life and especially blessed to be her mother.

When it comes to our children we all want to help guide them, but with special needs children I believe they guide us.
My daughter guides me in little ways like showing me that she will be ready to try or do something, in a way that’s better for her, in her own time. I think we all get caught up in the timelines of what’s expected and try to apply these to our special needs children; however, they have their own timelines, and they will remind us that we need to slow down and appreciate the journey. The phrase “everything in due time” captures that perfectly.
The most significant lessons I have learned because of my daughter are patience and tolerance. I can honestly say I had very little of either before she came into my life. I have learned to have a greater appreciation for the bigger picture. It’s the little things in our lives that become the most significant as we progress through life.

I started to write for a few reasons:
1) The need to have a career that was better suited to the lifestyle needed when you have a special needs child. They require a significant amount of hands-on care, and it’s best for them progress-wise if that care is provided by one of their pillars (parents are our biggest support and strengths, so I refer to our parents as pillars). Our children have the most success with progressing through life when their pillars are very present in the process.
2) I have always loved writing and have always written in a journal. Writing helps to alleviate the everyday things that happen in our lives. The phrase “getting things off your chest” is exactly what writing does for me, and I wanted to encourage others to try that outlet and know they always had options through my book. I want to make a difference in this world, and what better way to do it than on a more global scale? Books reach many different people at various times in their lives.
I found that not only did my writing provide me with a stronger sense of inner peace, but it also gave me a greater appreciation for my journey. This inner peace has given me an even stronger connection with my daughter, and the two of us have come to a form of contentment together.

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Posted by on October 19, 2011 in Blog


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