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They May Be Just Words To You, but…

What Were You Thinking?

Consider the impact you have on others when speaking the words you choose.

They are words; there are meaningful words, pointless words and words that just hurt. Which words do you use the most? What is your intention when you use your words? When you realize your words have affected another negatively do you take ownership of it and atone right away or do you sweep it under the carpet and expect them to do the same? Do you overreact and become spiteful or consider that there may be outside and/or extenuating circumstances?

Communication isn’t just saying “hey man, how are you doing” but rather delving deeper to understand the true nature of those around you, how you can make your communication with them be more than just surface conversation and how that communication can connect you on deeper levels.

We all have many layers which are revealed over time through the feelings of true connection, validation, and understanding. If you really want to make an impact it is the words you choose through communication that can either peel those layers back to bring you closer or seal them up tight to protect your vulnerability.

They may just be words but your influence and intention with these words can greatly affect those around you.

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When you Change the way you look at things, the things you look at change – Wayne Dyer

Such a true statement and in relation to your choice of words when in specific situations, a simple adjustment to the way you look at things also changes the way you respond. I think a lot of times many of us may react as a result of it essentially being the straw that broke the camel’s back because our plate is already overloaded with too many things that are stressful and draining on the patience of your spirit. There is more chance of overreaction when in this state and I think it can be exacerbated by the energy of the environment you keep.

Alternatively it may not be overreaction but that the intention of another is to hurt you with their words and if that is the case then that is truly not your path but the fork in the road, there to help re-direct you away from the drama and karma that will eventually dispel.

How people treat you is their karma, how you react is yours – Wayne Dyer

Regardless of how someone has treated you, regardless of how damaging it may have felt or been and regardless of how much you may want to inflict or encourage redemption it is better to distance yourself from those thoughts. The karmic wheel spins in alignment with the Universe and makes adjustments accordingly, your influence is not necessary, in fact it will only inhibit you from your best life.

It will always prove to be utterly frustrating to get yourself caught up in the why’s and what if’s of experiences that are out of your control, sometimes you will never know the answers and sometimes you will but at all times it is best for your spirit to take the higher road and continue on your path as it is the one that is for the higher purpose of you!

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Posted by on January 19, 2015 in Blog

 

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The Many Faces

What Human are You Being?

You have the opportunity to change the face you may have misrepresented during a bad moment through awareness, understanding, honesty and atonement but are you up to that task?

Do you have the personal honesty to acknowledge and take ownership of an action that that didn’t display the best side of you and the courage to admit a wrong?

They say “you never get a 2nd chance to make a 1st impression” but what about impressions that come along well after that? While you may have made a great 1st impression if you can’t keep the integrity flowing it’s going to be difficult and tiring just trying to keep up appearances.

How others treat you is their karma, how you react is yours – Wayne Dyerthoughts, word, actions

Your reaction to adversity is going to be the best look at who you are as a person for others and the best insight for you on how to change it. By developing your awareness through observation of your own reactions or overreactions you will learn how to control and prevent them from affecting your life negatively.

Allow the human and spirit that reside within you to commune often, it is very necessary and important to promote the growth of this bond. Their common ground will provide and enhance peace, balance and harmony within which is an essential part of your being.

Connection is not unique to one aspect of life it is the foundation of all aspects of life so that they can work together harmoniously. Connecting with others will help to build your relations with them into whatever direction you desire. Connecting with your spirit will enhance and empower your human life toward the destiny it has always been meant for.

Finding your way when you don’t know where to look or begin can be a daunting thought and I’ve found that it begins with connection:

Be Still:  Quieting the mind is the best way to find the answers you seek to specific issues or problems that arise in your life. There is a lot to be said for the quiet, it allows you to hear the solution more clearly than you would ever expect. It also allows your spirit and inner voice a platform to be heard, to be acknowledged and to be embraced. Your spirit has only one purpose and that is to guide you into your best life.

Be Alert:  Awareness of how you affect others is the spirit assistant in your life poking you in the side and saying “that’s not right!”, and being tuned into that is very important. When you open yourself up to that awareness you allow other emotions to feed and fuel your inner knowledge and outer behaviour so that the two can work together and balance each other so you don’t dip too far on the either side of the scale.

Be Conscious:  It’s really important to be present in the moments that matter. There’s no measurement of importance, if you can’t spare a moment of space for someone else then don’t pretend to. When you are consciously aware of your actions, overreactions or inactions I think you will find that you become more aware of how others respond and that awareness will ultimately change your interactions for a more positive trend.

You get in life what you prepare and make room for and there are internal and external aspects that can either enhance or inhibit the abundance you seek. You could end up blocking the space you created for your abundance just by having an attitude that isn’t in alignment with what you are making room for. It’s not just about making the room but also adapting your lifestyle and attitude to be consistent with what you envision.

If you are holding onto anything negative (anger, grudge, resentment, spite, etc.) they will all block that room from ever being filled with your dreams and the more you embrace them the further you get off your path until one day you find you don’t recognize where you are.

Success isn’t just about achieving something but achieving it with integrity and not stepping on anyone along the way. When I envision anything in my future it always contains a level of happiness, peace and balance but if my attitude now doesn’t contain those aspects then I won’t be in alignment for what I seek to come into my life until that changes. Karma has a way of balancing the scales.

Life at times can be difficult and there may be times where you end up blocking yourself simply because a day, week or month has worn itself on you for too long and brought you down but bringing yourself back to connection can lift the heaviness of that adversity and light the sky so you can see again where you need to be.

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Posted by on October 27, 2014 in Blog

 

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Who’s the adult here?

Who’s the adult here?

I may be the parent of a special needs child, but without her I might never have known or fulfilled my true potential. She has taught me so much about myself and has helped shape me into the person I am today. I am truly blessed to have her in my life and especially blessed to be her mother.


When it comes to our children we all want to help guide them, but with special needs children I believe they guide us.
My daughter guides me in little ways like showing me that she will be ready to try or do something, in a way that’s better for her, in her own time. I think we all get caught up in the timelines of what’s expected and try to apply these to our special needs children; however, they have their own timelines, and they will remind us that we need to slow down and appreciate the journey. The phrase “everything in due time” captures that perfectly.
The most significant lessons I have learned because of my daughter are patience and tolerance. I can honestly say I had very little of either before she came into my life. I have learned to have a greater appreciation for the bigger picture. It’s the little things in our lives that become the most significant as we progress through life.


I started to write for a few reasons:
1) The need to have a career that was better suited to the lifestyle needed when you have a special needs child. They require a significant amount of hands-on care, and it’s best for them progress-wise if that care is provided by one of their pillars (parents are our biggest support and strengths, so I refer to our parents as pillars). Our children have the most success with progressing through life when their pillars are very present in the process.
2) I have always loved writing and have always written in a journal. Writing helps to alleviate the everyday things that happen in our lives. The phrase “getting things off your chest” is exactly what writing does for me, and I wanted to encourage others to try that outlet and know they always had options through my book. I want to make a difference in this world, and what better way to do it than on a more global scale? Books reach many different people at various times in their lives.
I found that not only did my writing provide me with a stronger sense of inner peace, but it also gave me a greater appreciation for my journey. This inner peace has given me an even stronger connection with my daughter, and the two of us have come to a form of contentment together.

 
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Posted by on October 19, 2011 in Blog

 

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