Monthly Archives: March 2012

We All Matter

Wanting to be Heard

We’re all just looking to be heard, to be validated, to know that we matter.

Feeling alone in a world full of people seems almost ridiculous when thinking about it, but if you don’t feel like you are being heard or connecting with others than feeling alone and out of place is a likely emotion.

In reference to some of my previous blogs, this is also relatable to “The Voice of Reason”.  So many children of all ages are making decisions ( good or bad ) based on their feelings of self-worth.  I don’t believe that this is isolated to one age group but affects us all individually at one time or another and when making decisions from a place of low self-worth, low self-esteem and low confidence then those decisions tend to be bad ones or at least ones you wish you hadn’t made.

I only use our children as an example because who we become as adults has formulated from early childhood and has been enhanced by the environment with which we were raised.  There are many people I’ve come across that display a lack of self-worth and confidence.

NO ONE should have to feel that way.

It takes only a few moments of your time to sit back and give your full attention to someone and that shouldn’t be too much to ask, it should be an ingrained behaviour.

If something matters enough for someone to try to reach out, than it matters, and it should matter to you.  If they are reaching out to you, you should feel honored that they’ve chosen you to listen and honor them by giving your undivided attention.

This topic reminds me of a story I read in one of those “pass it on, feel good” emails.  I’ve condensed it to fit here but this is the jist of it.  The story was of a teen that felt so unheard, unvalidated and unseen, as he was on his way home from school some of the other kids at his school decided to bother him and knock all of his books out of his hands.

One boy, that also went to his school, saw this and came over to help him pick up his books, befriended him and the two eventually became great friends.  It caused this boy’s life to take quite a different turn then he had been living.

Upon graduation this boy, who had become Valedictorian, gave his speech and told the story of his best friend and how this best friend literally changed the course of his life, for the day that those other boys dumped his books all over was the day he had intended to take his own life.  This best friend of his offered him friendship at a time when he was feeling his lowest.

It only takes one moment to let someone know they matter, please always take that moment.

Everyone deserves to be heard, to be validated, to know that they matter!

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Posted by on March 27, 2012 in Blog


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Making the Connection

Finding the Path

We aren’t always open in the way we need to be to receive the signs or guidance we are seeking and of course that is because we can’t be in the same frame of mind all the time.  Our moods are tied to our emotional state and depending on what emotional state you are in it can determine whether or not you are open and able to make the connection.

I had a book that I bought quite a while before I finally read the whole thing.  I had started it but for some reason just couldn’t absorb any of it, after re-reading the first chapter three times I’d realized it just wasn’t the right time for me to read it.

After at least a year had passed I was looking for something to read, something that I could connect with and that would bring me the solace and understanding I was seeking at that time.  I picked this same book up again and read it cover to cover in a very short time and it contained all the answers to the questions that were currently on my mind.  What I could determine from this after was that the time before when I wanted to read it but couldn’t even remotely absorb it, I hadn’t been at the point of needing the information contained in this book.

We all have different phases in our lives when information given to us is received because it resonates with where we are at that moment.  If we aren’t on that conscious level then the signs or guidance can’t get in because we aren’t in alignment with them.  When I had picked up that book the second time it completely fit in with what I needed, which is why when I first tried to read it that it didn’t resonate because I hadn’t yet reached that point.

Not everyone is at the same point in their life at the same time, all the time.  So if you are wanting to share something that you find insightful with someone else it doesn’t mean they aren’t interested or don’t understand, it just means they either aren’t or haven’t reached a level in their life where what you find in alignment with your soul to be in alignment with theirs.

I believe in the divinity of this universe and when we are most in need of something that will calm or energize our spirit it is usually presented at the time when we are most open to acknowledging and receiving it.  If you’re not receiving a sign or guidance that you are asking for then it doesn’t mean that the universe isn’t listening, it means that you’re limiting yourself by looking in only one direction.

Signs don’t always come in the form we expect them to and sometimes in order to receive them you need to expand your awareness.  When a door closes, don’t just stare at it and believe that that’s it for you, turn around and keep looking for a window.  There is always a path to higher consciousness, it’s completely your choice on whether you want to step onto it.  Knowing how much control and power we actually have within our thoughts and imagination while on it, you can’t keep me off of it.  For me it’s the path to a much healthier and contented life, a life that I don’t want to live without.


Posted by on March 20, 2012 in Blog


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Envisioning Your Future

Seeing is Believing, Believing is Seeing

For myself, the beginning of this process was to first determine what it was that I really wanted out of my life.  This wasn’t something I was able to do instantaneously, it definitely took some serious reflection on where I’ve been, where I wanted to go, how I wanted to get there and who I wanted there with me.  In making that determination I had to remain true to my inner desires without compromising my inner self.  The course that I wanted to chart felt like a very natural progression and I knew I could easily fit into it without having to alter myself in any way.

When trying to figure out your ultimate calling these factors are very important, it should be a natural fit with who you already are.

Once I had it all figured out, it then transitioned so easily and so naturally that I wondered why I hadn’t discovered this path before.  I knew that I wasn’t living up to my true potential, I knew that I didn’t feel fulfilled.  There was always something that I felt I was supposed to be doing but couldn’t quite put my finger on it.

What I had been doing that prevented this natural transition, was resisting, although I didn’t know it until I had stopped.  The foundation of the resistance that I was creating was due to my indecision about what I wanted to envision for my future.  I couldn’t begin to believe if I didn’t know what it was that I wanted to see. 

Once you allow yourself to imagine the life you want, it becomes that much easier to create it.  I wrote out my own little “To Do” list with the steps in an order that would best help me to reach my ultimate goal.  Making this list was the easiest part of preparing for my future all I had to do was follow the steps I had planned out, if one didn’t work out as expected, I would re-organize my steps.

Visualization isn’t easy for everyone if you are having a tough time with it, then create a vision board and make sure you have it in a place where you will see it every day.  After a while you will be able to see your vision board in your mind without being in front of it, you can make mental alterations if you want to.  At that point you are now Visualizing, and doing it on your own.

There’s a reason why we go through the events we do and it is because they are the necessary steps that shape us into the people we need to be so we have all the tools we need for the future we are destined for.  Each event is designed to teach us something and the victory is when you’ve identified the lesson and used it to enhance your own personal growth.

I have used the Law of Attraction for many years and I can honestly say that everything I’ve ever really wanted and put my conscious and subconscious mind into I’ve achieved.  Anytime that something hasn’t worked for me wasn’t because the Law of Attraction wasn’t working it’s because I was blocking it in some way.

Keep your mind and heart open, see what you want and believe in it.  The more you believe in it, the more you will see it. 


Posted by on March 14, 2012 in Blog


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Living Your Authentic Life

Be True to Yourself

The best way to be true to yourself is to live your life authentically.  Be defined only by what you say and what you do.  Everyone has an opinion and ideas but when either of those don’t align with how you feel then you don’t need to accept it, it’s just one of the many differences that makes each of us individuals.

When you are living your authentic life you are not likely to have any regrets later because you are being true to your inner spirit, it’s that inner spirit that holds all your wishes, desires and dreams.  If you allow those whispers into your consciousness then you will be helping yourself to get onto the path you were meant to be on.  Everything we dream of and envision, as individuals, of being the ultimate life is tied to our authentic selves.  It’s only when you listen and follow those whispers  that you will find contentment, peace and balance. 

What is perceived as the ultimate life for one person won’t always be the ultimate life for everyone.  In order to maintain living your authentic life you can’t allow anyone else’s ideas or opinions to alter or impede being true to yourself.  Don’t think of anything as being unattainable or impossible to reach.  You can reach and achieve whatever you want out of your life, there’s no such thing as impossible. 

 Most of the restrictions we place on ourselves are based out of fear:

–          Fear of what others may think

–          Fear of not being deserving

–          Fear of failing

If you can identify with any of these fears then what restricts you comes from within and will require reflection and honesty about what is really preventing you from living your authentic life.

 Awareness is power!

Once you are able to identify the source of your fears you then have the opportunity to overcome them so you can begin to live your own charmed life.


Posted by on March 7, 2012 in Blog


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