Wanting to be Heard
We’re all just looking to be heard, to be validated, to know that we matter.
Feeling alone in a world full of people seems almost ridiculous when thinking about it, but if you don’t feel like you are being heard or connecting with others than feeling alone and out of place is a likely emotion.
In reference to some of my previous blogs, this is also relatable to “The Voice of Reason”. So many children of all ages are making decisions ( good or bad ) based on their feelings of self-worth. I don’t believe that this is isolated to one age group but affects us all individually at one time or another and when making decisions from a place of low self-worth, low self-esteem and low confidence then those decisions tend to be bad ones or at least ones you wish you hadn’t made.
I only use our children as an example because who we become as adults has formulated from early childhood and has been enhanced by the environment with which we were raised. There are many people I’ve come across that display a lack of self-worth and confidence.
NO ONE should have to feel that way.
It takes only a few moments of your time to sit back and give your full attention to someone and that shouldn’t be too much to ask, it should be an ingrained behaviour.
If something matters enough for someone to try to reach out, than it matters, and it should matter to you. If they are reaching out to you, you should feel honored that they’ve chosen you to listen and honor them by giving your undivided attention.
This topic reminds me of a story I read in one of those “pass it on, feel good” emails. I’ve condensed it to fit here but this is the jist of it. The story was of a teen that felt so unheard, unvalidated and unseen, as he was on his way home from school some of the other kids at his school decided to bother him and knock all of his books out of his hands.
One boy, that also went to his school, saw this and came over to help him pick up his books, befriended him and the two eventually became great friends. It caused this boy’s life to take quite a different turn then he had been living.
Upon graduation this boy, who had become Valedictorian, gave his speech and told the story of his best friend and how this best friend literally changed the course of his life, for the day that those other boys dumped his books all over was the day he had intended to take his own life. This best friend of his offered him friendship at a time when he was feeling his lowest.
It only takes one moment to let someone know they matter, please always take that moment.
Everyone deserves to be heard, to be validated, to know that they matter!