Monthly Archives: November 2011

Who’s Got Your Back?

Quality Friends are Priceless

It can be so difficult to maintain the energy needed to deflect negativity if you have to deal with such behaviours on a daily basis or on any basis.  When negativity comes into our space it doesn’t just thrust the negativity at us but sometimes it takes up residence for a day or two within us.  It’s hard to determine how it’s going to affect us because that all depends on our current disposition.   If you are stressed or overwhelmed you are already in a vulnerable position.

It’s a similar feeling to being tired and run down and someone with a cold comes near you, it’s harder to fight off those germs then if you were well rested and feeling strong.

It can be difficult to rally up a positive state of mind and being when you’re at this point but it is so important for your health, mind, body and spirit.

In addition to journaling I also talk with my closest friends that I trust when I feel at odds with either someone or a circumstance that I feel helpless in and they do the same with me.

When I feel I can’t find the answers I need or I feel the urge for a little extra boost of inspiration I always find it within my friends.  I don’t think they always know how they’ve helped but sometimes it takes that one moment of understanding or those compassionate words of wisdom in their own special way and they’ve set me off in an entirely new and positive direction.

As single moms, as women, we need our girlfriends to keep us sane, to keep us grounded, and to keep us real.  If you’ve got great friends there isn’t anything you can’t battle, overcome or defeat.

Quality friends are Priceless!

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Posted by on November 29, 2011 in Blog


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The “aha” Moment

Peace + Balance = Contentment

It took me so long to get to the point of Contentment, Peace and Balance.  Not because it was something that takes a long period of time to achieve but because it takes letting go and allowing those “aha” moments to shine through.  It’s amazing how when you follow the path of least resistance how much it opens the doors to what your life should be.

Everyone has had those “aha” moments, and I personally love them.  I wish every day contained one because I always feel so elated internally when it happens.  It was one of those “aha” moments that sparked me to write my book, all of a sudden all the pieces of the puzzle come together in that very moment and it’s exhilarating!

What follows those moments is peace, balance and ultimately contentment because you’ve solved one of your own life’s mysteries, of course there are many more along our life path to come.

Contentment comes in many different forms but I believe that it’s all about connecting.  When you connect with others on a soul level they can inspire you in ways you didn’t know were possible.

Contentment, for me, came from letting go of things I thought were important and trimming back to the basics.  In today’s busy, material world we become so enmeshed with all these “things” that we think we need but really they clutter our minds, our life and ultimately our Contentment.  I’m not saying have nothing, I’m saying have what brings you contentment. 

When I am in a state of Contentment I find that I have gratitude and appreciation for all that surrounds me, everything is beautiful and wonderful.  I strive to make contentment a permanent fixture within my emotional psyche for all the days not just because it feels great but because it also feels great for everyone around me.  When we project contentment from the inside to outward we are spreading happiness with everyone we come into contact with.  Now this is an emotional “state of being” that is worth spreading around.

My favorite quote that I always strive to meet is one of the “states of being” that provide me with Contentment:

“To Laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.  This is to have succeeded.”  — Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Posted by on November 22, 2011 in Blog


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We’re All Human

Respect and Forgiveness for yourself first!

We all have many challenges and tests throughout our lives, some are much harder than others and when we are in the middle of the harder lessons it can sometimes be really difficult to find the light at the end of the tunnel.  Once you finally come through it though it’s important to recognize and honor how much you have learned and progressed from it.  Have gratitude for having the strength to make it through and all that you’ve learned about yourself along the way.

I always find that at the beginning of something difficult I try to find answers and solutions.  It’s hard for me to have patience and it challenges my faith in my own belief that “Everything happens for a Reason”. 

Whether you’re successful or not depends on how you view it.  Everything happens for a reason, success or failure could be exactly that reason.  I find that the expectations I have for myself are so high that I don’t allow myself any room for error, when I fail I am very hard on myself.  So it’s very likely that when I experience failure, that is the lesson – to allow myself to make mistakes and handle them with integrity and to know that NO ONE is perfect so why should I expect perfection from myself 100% of the time.  Eventually the understanding of each lesson will come at the time when you are ready to accept it for the greater purpose it serves.

It’s so important to acknowledge where you’ve come from, how you got there, and the person you have become along the way.

When we hold on to resentment or anger ultimately we are hurting ourselves, not the people we have these feelings toward, and what we are really holding onto is the hurt.  In forgiving you are allowing yourself to move on and away from the terrible feelings, you’re allowing yourself to no longer hurt and to move forward to a happier life.  It’s such a hard thing to do but I can assure you, you can’t even imagine how much better life will be when you do.  Make the shift , forgive and move on to happiness, the LOA (Law of Attraction) will increase that state of being.

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Posted by on November 17, 2011 in Blog


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Dream Soup for the Soul

Your deepest desires and dreams are what feed your soul. Don’t ever give up on trying to achieve something because of a self-imposed limitation or the limitations imposed by others. There is no shortage of desires, but there is a shortage of people with the determination to achieve them.

The only one who can hold you back is You!

Every person out there who has achieved their dreams always shares the same messages:

  1. Don’t give up!
  2. If someone had told me a couple of years ago that I would be here, I would have never believed it.

My theory is that it’s half fear (not believing in yourself) and half lack of faith (not believing in the higher power of the universe). Everything we do ties into the LOA ( Law of Attraction ); we are actually always operating in that state of being. The question is whether you want to make it work for you or against you. When we are fearful of the prospect of change or failing, this will have the LOA operating against us because what you are giving your most energy to will increase. When we are faithful to our hearts’ desires and positive thoughts are abundant, then the LOA operates with us and increases that energy.

My biggest moments of fear have also been my greatest moments of positive change. Change that has taken me into a much more beneficial area of life then I could have ever predicted or imagined. Every time something great has happened for me has been when I have let go of the reigns and believed. It’s difficult to do and sometimes scary, but I can honestly say I have never been disappointed, and I’m always happily surprised. It actually takes more energy to resist than to go along with destiny. Everything always works out as it is supposed to. Why make it difficult for yourself along the way?

I could have easily given up so many times and blamed circumstance, timing, etc. but my will (maybe I mean stubbornness) is far stronger than my fear.

I fully believe that we all can do anything we need to or desire to, against the odds that others may throw at us or our own.  We all have a strength within us to achieve. Just tap into it, don’t let anyone ever discourage you, and don’t accept anything less than you deserve.

Truly Believe in yourself!  You won’t be disappointed.

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Posted by on November 9, 2011 in Blog


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Time Out! Working Moms

Finding balance in today’s world is a challenge, to say the least, but extremely necessary to a healthy lifestyle.  Our health depends on our physical and mental well-being.  If we don’t feel good physically or mentally it dims our eternal light.  It’s important for everyone to take a “time out” every once in a while to enhance your life.  It’s during these “time outs” that we recharge ourselves and experience motivation, personal growth and inspiration.

I’ve even had a tough time of it myself this week.  It’s really important to include yourself in the list of people you have to take care of.  How we feel on the inside reflects on the outside and that directly affects the people in our lives.  As much as I want to inspire positive thinking, sometimes I too get affected by negativity when it comes into my realm and find myself unnecessarily snapping at others and that is one of my biggest indicators that I need a “time out”.

If you burn yourself out by not paying attention to your needs then you leave yourself wide open for negative energy to get in and wreak havoc.  When we are well rested, we are strong, resistant and powerful enough to ward off any negativity that could possibly come our way.  Negativity, like everything else, travels in a cycle and our own personal awareness is the beginning of its defeat!

It can be really difficult to find a little or a lot of time for yourself and whatever it is that provides you with what is needed to refuel and recharge your soul is what you need to do.

Because my life is so busy I prefer anything that is quiet and peaceful and hopefully without interruption.  Now this can be a tall order at times, but even a few moments can sometimes help.  It’s like that catnap when working a graveyard shift that gives you the extra boost needed to make it through.

If I could pick and choose, that’s easy – a Spa day! – of course that could get kind of pricey on a regular basis.

So on a smaller scale I could choose 5-10 minutes of listening to a CD of the ocean or a waterfall or anything with nature, for me that is what resonates balance and peace within.  It’s really important to listen to your inner voice. It won’t lead you astray, and if it’s telling you that you need to take a “time out”, then take one.

For myself I need more than 5-10 minutes here and there, but if that’s all you can accommodate to begin with at least it’s a start, an important start.


Posted by on November 2, 2011 in Blog


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