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Just Say No!

16 Aug

The Dark Can’t Live in the Light

When it comes to relations with others it is the positive that is most enjoyed and of course the negative is not something you seek but sometimes what you fall into. No matter which of these that may occur in your life I believe that all relations can teach you something. In finding the lessons and/or wisdom you will end up gaining much more than you might initially think you’ve lost. I am well aware that toxic relations bring personal and emotional pain but through the havoc comes a greater desire for understanding and connection.

Negativity can be passed on through continued interaction and/or exposure to a negative and unhealthy energy, it’s a breed all on its own and these energy vampires can multiply over time. I don’t know that there is a fix-it solution or cure to rehabilitate negativity that has been conditioned over a long period of time but I wouldn’t say there is no chance because I think everyone has a shot at changing their life and behaviour around, it starts with the individual and what that personal choice in life is.

The dark can’t live in the light, negativity requires that others allow it, enable it, don’t question it but unfortunately that comes with a personal price. Your integrity, your soul, your sense of well-being is affected by your personal choices so it’s important not just for those you care about but for yourself to choose and follow your best life. Any or every time you make this compromise, even if it is for the sake of not ruffling any feathers, you are causing damage to your inner soul. When it comes to the times of processing your thoughts, sometimes at the end of the day or maybe in the silence, pay attention to how these choices affect your overall well-being, especially when you know deep down that you’ve made this kind of compromise?

what are you doing for others

Intention is everything and karma is the result and/or potential outcome of that intention. When you do something positive with the intention of creating good karma it won’t have that desired effect. When you do something positive with the intention of enriching the life of another without thought of karma, you are in effect at that moment creating good karma. Alternatively if you do something negative with the intention of hurting another you are also creating karma and it won’t be good. The wheel of karma is always spinning and your intention (good or bad) will always be connected to it.

The best actions are those inspired by good thoughts and the desire to elevate joy in the lives of others not for any other purpose but to bring happiness.

Sometimes in an effort to not be hurtful to another by being genuinely honest you end up extending your personal boundaries past your acceptable line, a line that will continue to recede until you stop it. Everyone’s boundaries matter and anyone who has respect for you and for themselves won’t attempt to push past those boundaries.

I can understand the emotions that motivate thoughts of revenge when something like this happens and as much as you might think you will enjoy it chances are you really won’t. Negativity’s only purpose is to consume, feed, destroy, control and contain your life lessons by derailing the positive. When you allow it, enable it or don’t question it you are willingly giving up your life lesson opportunities that are meant to help progress you to living your best life.

None of us are so great that we are above our life lessons, we are not above the challenges or the joys and when you try to prevent (enable) another from learning a hard life lesson, you aren’t doing that person or yourself any favors. You are preventing that person from experiencing life, we all have to feel everything, without it how would any of us develop genuine humanity.

If you have strong enough faith in the positive aspects and life force of the Universe you will find that they are working together to help you reach your goals. Things don’t happen instantaneously in any direction, everything is a process and takes time and as long as you can maintain enough patience to see yourself through then you can affect change.

be the change

 
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Posted by on August 16, 2015 in Blog

 

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The Strength of Energy

29 Jun

There are No Limits!

Everyone carries their own energy and that energy feeds whatever thoughts you embrace the most. If you are embracing the negative than the Universe will respond by bringing to you more negativity. If you embrace the positive than the Universe will respond by bringing to you all things positive.

It seems like a no brainer to me, why would anyone choose to let negativity run their life, it doesn’t make you happy that’s for sure. In fact anyone negative that I’ve ever encountered I can’t get away from them fast enough because the energy feels heavy, sickening, dirty and dark. We all have good energy but when you let negative experiences define and cripple you the cloud of negativity cloaks it until you throw it off.

Negativity grows in the environment that feeds it best and that environment is bad thoughts, attitude or outlook on life. These areas feed how your future is going to play out so if you feel stuck in any way in any area of your life just know that that is negativity’s way in. As far as I’m concerned there are no limits to what you can achieve, only options. When you don’t see those options it’s because they are clouded by your ego, the ego that tells you “you can’t do it”. Your ego works in conjunction with negativity and with those two running the show you will never be in control of your life or steering it in the direction you hope and want it to go.

The overall tone of each day is a conscious choice to either allow the little things to get to you or not, that is really how it all begins.

Like when you wake up late and you’re in a panic to get moving as quickly as possible and everything you do keeps interrupting your flow and setting you further back on the clock. I’ve had this occur and in retrospect I’ve realized that it’s not necessarily that my movements are set back any further than any other day but rather that I’m racing against a time that isn’t going to stop moving and there’s no way I’m going to make the deadline I had planned. My best option for the day is to embrace that I’m late, pick a new time frame a little farther ahead for my goal of getting myself together and on with my day. Think about it you’re already late, you’re not going to get that time back no matter how much you race around. So how the day goes (good or bad) depends on your choice to embrace the lateness or to let it define the rest of your day.

Negative or Positive is a choice, one that is probably the single most important decision determining the outcome of your well-being on a daily basis.

If you are feeling like you have no options take a few moments to recognize that these are not the thoughts of truth from your inner spirit, they are the negative cell(s) in your body that are fighting with your gut instincts to be in control. Your gut instincts knows your truth and that is why you always need to listen to them, it’s not just for direction but for your emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.

Have you ever felt like you belong in an area of life different from where you currently are but can’t get there because you feel stuck or trapped? That is the cloud of negativity doing its thing, working your thoughts to make you believe you have no options and your instincts (that you’ve quieted to a dull whisper) know the truth but you won’t allow them to have their say.

The cloud of negativity absolutely loves to be in control and if you are feeling bad about yourself in any way then negativity is in the lead. The first step to changing that around is making the decision to do so, step by step to get to where you want to go, like checking off the “to do list” and fitting the pieces of a puzzle together. Everything in life worth having is worth building and everything that has been built has steps to get to the end result. Write it out in 5 or 10 steps to start, if you can do the small steps, next thing you know you may be halfway through to your goal.

Your inner spirit and personal truth is the untainted, unbiased area of that which is you, your subconscious is the default zone of your conscious thinking. Altering just your conscious thoughts are not enough, the area of your true beliefs lie within your subconscious. So basically, you can tell yourself something and plan that is going to change an area of your life but if in your sub-conscious (in the back of your mind), you are telling yourself something else, it will never work. The thoughts you say to yourself on a daily basis are the ones that determine your emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.

There are certain things I read that just don’t make sense in my mind and I like the use of analogies to further explain so here’s mine for this thought. I’ve had this conversational debate with a few people, it’s to do with food and weight because of course everyone wants to find a better way to boost their physical health and of course why not? I’ve had many people comment on my appetite with food and honestly I do eat a lot but their comments are to do with the lack of excessive weight that they feel I should gain based on my intake. Every single time I say “I’m not worried, nothing sticks to me”, now I do take into consideration that genetically my family has always been big eaters without issue but I do not believe that this is the sole reason. I can tell you I honestly, honestly believe that statement “I’m not worried, nothing sticks to me” with every fibre of my being, consciously, subconsciously, everywhere!

I’ve talked with friends who say “ok, yes I’m going to try that” and then they say “but I know it’s not going to work”. Right there!   That’s the statement they are firmly planting in their subconscious and the universe responds “as you wish”.

This is where it all starts, this is the key to all things you want to change for the better, it starts in your subconscious. Pay very close attention to what you tell yourself, you may think it’s insignificant but when you put it into this context it becomes very significant and very important!

Surrounding yourself with like-minded souls will elevate your own in ways that motivate you to break down the barriers that are placed on your path by both yourself and those that want to hold you back.

The best choice you can make for yourself is to seek out those that nurture and inspire your spirit positively and unconditionally. When you find this place in your life you will realize that there are no limits to what you can do!

BY_CHO~1

 
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Posted by on June 29, 2014 in Blog

 

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Putting On Your Poker Face

14 Aug

Or Calling Your Own Bluff?

We all have our own ideas when it comes to our expectations in all areas of our lives.  I know I’ve made decisions (good and bad) based on my own expectations of others and emotional feelings but the bigger questions to ask myself are:

  1. Do I hold myself to that same level of expectation?
  2. If I fail to meet that expection do I hold myself accountable or do I justify it?
  3. Am I open and willing to honestly find resolution or peace?

I think that only those closely involved in my life could answer the first question for me, I believe I do, but then again I’m not on the other side of that expectation.

I do tend to disect situations and events down to the very last detail, that is just who I am.  When it comes to evaluating things I don’t like to leave any question unanswered, or any theory unexplored, which can at times lead to frustration for those participating in the conversation of evaluation.

I have gone down the road of justifying a bad decision, one of the most significant reasons being that I had been too stubborn to find a middle ground and the other because the emotional hurt felt like it was at such a high level that finding middle ground seemed near impossible.  I don’t think anyone is mistake free, I know I’m not, but self-reflection in this area is a great opportunity to learn the capacity of your own character and integrity.  To find out what you are really made of and whether or not you have the courage to look in the mirror and take ownership for how you’ve done so far.

In failing to meet that same expectation and going down the road of justifying it, the opportunity to turn it around and make it positive lies within acknowledging your own part and sincerely trying to find resolution or peace.  How each individual finds their resolution or peace will be a process that is unique only to them but I think the main thing, is to be true to who you are deep down and know that any action conflicting with that is ultimately harmful to you the most.  I believe that if you go against the grain of your own spirit it will be such an inner conflict that problems will arise, whether that manifests itself physically, emotionally or both.

I can’t say that all physical issues “I don’t have the credentials”, but I believe that most arise because somewhere within we are causing ourselves an emotional distress that creates the physical manifestation in our health.  This does not mean that once you dissolve the emotional distress that the physical issue will go away, sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t.  I think that depends on how far along the physical issue has progressed.  Once an emotional issue manifests to physical in your body it may take a lot longer to make it go away.  The time it has taken to manifest physically and how long it has carried out for will determine how far the roots of it extend and it may take A LOT of hard work to try to overcome it.

In my case the physical health issue I had experienced, which was created from an emotional issue, manifested in the form of stress, and stress can cause a variety of mock symptoms for various health issues, and luckily mine disappeared when I resolved the stress.

Regardless of how emotional or physical issues manifest within us self-reflection is always a positive step in the right direction, which may turn out to be the first step in changing your well-being for the better.  When you are willing to look in the mirror and measure your progress by the same level of expectation that you have of others you are choosing to build yourself positively.

Sometimes our own expectations of resolution cannot be found, sometimes the olive branch extended is not accepted, sometimes bridges burned cannot be repaired or reconstructed, sometimes the resolution is accepting the lesson, learning from it for the future and moving forward.

I do believe that there isn’t an issue out there that can’t be resolved, however it does take a significant amount of honesty, sincerity and willingness to find resolution.  Things may not ever be the same but they could end up being better, anything is possible!

 
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Posted by on August 14, 2012 in Blog

 

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Emotional or Physical?

15 Feb

Healthy Living

Our own personal health is dependent on how we are feeling both physically and emotionally.  We always pay attention to our physical health but sometimes neglect ourselves emotionally and our emotions can directly affect our physical health.  You can go to the doctor when you don’t feel right but if it’s something emotionally based that is affecting your overall health the doctor won’t be able to find what is wrong.  Our emotions are connected to everything we do whether it’s positive or negative. 

–          When we are feeling happy it is reflected in our faces, our speech, our aura and we usually feel warm and lightweight inside.

–          When we are feeling unhappy it is also reflected in the same areas but we don’t feel warm inside, depending on the source of the unhappiness and our own unique bodies that feeling inside can range anywhere from stress to depression.

Awareness of your overall health and state of mind is the key to battling any emotional setback that may be trying to inhabit your body.

 

I think we all know when something is wrong or doesn’t feel right.  Whether you go to the doctor to treat something that is physical or you identify the emotional predator trying to wreak havoc, still, the key is awareness.

I’ve actually had the experience of having something emotional (stress) affect my life in a physical (medical) way.  I can tell you the doctors were completely stumped, as was I.  It was only when I unknowingly made a few environment changes that the source of my emotional ailment was cured, of course this led to the physical ailment completely disappearing.

You can’t even imagine how surprised I was, as well as my doctor, it was only then that I fully realized how much our emotional health contributes to our physical health.

Physical and Emotional well-being should be a very important part of our lives and something that we give much attention to because when we are affected we also affect outwardly to everyone around us.

It was something I had never given thought to in the past but something I pay very close attention to now.

 
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Posted by on February 15, 2012 in Blog

 

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Time Out! Working Moms

02 Nov

Finding balance in today’s world is a challenge, to say the least, but extremely necessary to a healthy lifestyle.  Our health depends on our physical and mental well-being.  If we don’t feel good physically or mentally it dims our eternal light.  It’s important for everyone to take a “time out” every once in a while to enhance your life.  It’s during these “time outs” that we recharge ourselves and experience motivation, personal growth and inspiration.

I’ve even had a tough time of it myself this week.  It’s really important to include yourself in the list of people you have to take care of.  How we feel on the inside reflects on the outside and that directly affects the people in our lives.  As much as I want to inspire positive thinking, sometimes I too get affected by negativity when it comes into my realm and find myself unnecessarily snapping at others and that is one of my biggest indicators that I need a “time out”.

If you burn yourself out by not paying attention to your needs then you leave yourself wide open for negative energy to get in and wreak havoc.  When we are well rested, we are strong, resistant and powerful enough to ward off any negativity that could possibly come our way.  Negativity, like everything else, travels in a cycle and our own personal awareness is the beginning of its defeat!

It can be really difficult to find a little or a lot of time for yourself and whatever it is that provides you with what is needed to refuel and recharge your soul is what you need to do.

Because my life is so busy I prefer anything that is quiet and peaceful and hopefully without interruption.  Now this can be a tall order at times, but even a few moments can sometimes help.  It’s like that catnap when working a graveyard shift that gives you the extra boost needed to make it through.

If I could pick and choose, that’s easy – a Spa day! – of course that could get kind of pricey on a regular basis.

So on a smaller scale I could choose 5-10 minutes of listening to a CD of the ocean or a waterfall or anything with nature, for me that is what resonates balance and peace within.  It’s really important to listen to your inner voice. It won’t lead you astray, and if it’s telling you that you need to take a “time out”, then take one.

For myself I need more than 5-10 minutes here and there, but if that’s all you can accommodate to begin with at least it’s a start, an important start.

 
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Posted by on November 2, 2011 in Blog

 

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