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It’s the Energy You Bring

The true magic in all relationships is connecting and how that occurs isn’t really important, as long as it does.

Being aware of your energy is a responsibility, not only does it affect those you interact with but it affects you personally and how you view yourself and the world.wayne dyer, raise yourself

The energy you bring starts within and honestly my opinion is that your own energy raises not only your level of happiness but others as well. Happiness within begins with enjoying your world, living for yourself, and I don’t mean in the self-serving way but in the way that you fill your own cup and as your energy rises that cup overflows and pours that beautiful energy into the lives of others.

All things are energy, most all of us use other energy sources in an effort to lift spirits when feeling low and/or depleted. Energy sources like music, gardening, painting, writing, cooking, walking, soaking up the sun, the list can go on and on but what these energy sources provide you with is the opportunity to raise your spirit, your energy and your vibration.

When you raise all those levels you begin to align yourself with your greatest potentials and that is when the dreams you thought were just dreams become realities. The challenge is maintaining those levels because let’s face it sometimes life throws you curveballs and sometimes it doesn’t feel like you’re going to be able to recover.

It takes only the tiniest moment of inspiration to motivate you back up and your best resource is to get back in touch with whichever energy source it is that elevates your happiness. You need to do that not only for yourself but for those in your life that are in your space of energy.

My energy levels can get motivation from a few sources, my favorite is anything athletic, team or one player sport because it’s not just about raising my energy but inspiring others to get in the game too. I love it when I succeed as well as watching others succeed, a perfectly executed play in any sport is inspiring. Athletic competition isn’t just about the winning aspect, although don’t get me wrong, that is fun and I do enjoy it but most of the time I am more in competition with myself. It’s not just about getting the job done it’s about getting it done to the best of my ability and always trying to beat that, and the camaraderie is infectious. There is so much satisfaction to be gained from bettering yourself in any area of your life and what you end up doing is putting an endless spin on your personal wheel of motivation and inspiration.

One thing that you always hear from those that have aligned with their higher level of energy is that the work in that state of being doesn’t feel like work and that is because when you get yourself into alignment, things just click, they fall into place and it leaves you wondering why you didn’t go their earlier.

Best energy by far was that of my favorite author, motivational speaker, Dr. Wayne Dyer.

I was saddened a couple weeks ago to hear the news of Wayne Dyer’s passing on August 30th, he was my greatest inspiration and the very definition of the energy you bring into your relations with others and how important it is for you to ask yourself the more meaningful questions about life.

Do you want to just exist or do you want to live and breathe life to its fullest? Living life to its fullest includes getting in touch with anything and everything that inspires and motivates your happiness within and in case you were wondering it will also lead you to your purpose, your very reason for being and that will provide you with more happiness than you can ever imagine.

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Posted by on September 16, 2015 in Blog

 

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They May Be Just Words To You, but…

What Were You Thinking?

Consider the impact you have on others when speaking the words you choose.

They are words; there are meaningful words, pointless words and words that just hurt. Which words do you use the most? What is your intention when you use your words? When you realize your words have affected another negatively do you take ownership of it and atone right away or do you sweep it under the carpet and expect them to do the same? Do you overreact and become spiteful or consider that there may be outside and/or extenuating circumstances?

Communication isn’t just saying “hey man, how are you doing” but rather delving deeper to understand the true nature of those around you, how you can make your communication with them be more than just surface conversation and how that communication can connect you on deeper levels.

We all have many layers which are revealed over time through the feelings of true connection, validation, and understanding. If you really want to make an impact it is the words you choose through communication that can either peel those layers back to bring you closer or seal them up tight to protect your vulnerability.

They may just be words but your influence and intention with these words can greatly affect those around you.

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When you Change the way you look at things, the things you look at change – Wayne Dyer

Such a true statement and in relation to your choice of words when in specific situations, a simple adjustment to the way you look at things also changes the way you respond. I think a lot of times many of us may react as a result of it essentially being the straw that broke the camel’s back because our plate is already overloaded with too many things that are stressful and draining on the patience of your spirit. There is more chance of overreaction when in this state and I think it can be exacerbated by the energy of the environment you keep.

Alternatively it may not be overreaction but that the intention of another is to hurt you with their words and if that is the case then that is truly not your path but the fork in the road, there to help re-direct you away from the drama and karma that will eventually dispel.

How people treat you is their karma, how you react is yours – Wayne Dyer

Regardless of how someone has treated you, regardless of how damaging it may have felt or been and regardless of how much you may want to inflict or encourage redemption it is better to distance yourself from those thoughts. The karmic wheel spins in alignment with the Universe and makes adjustments accordingly, your influence is not necessary, in fact it will only inhibit you from your best life.

It will always prove to be utterly frustrating to get yourself caught up in the why’s and what if’s of experiences that are out of your control, sometimes you will never know the answers and sometimes you will but at all times it is best for your spirit to take the higher road and continue on your path as it is the one that is for the higher purpose of you!

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Posted by on January 19, 2015 in Blog

 

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Talk to Me!

Communication is the Root

Like a speaker is hard-wired for sound, humanity is hard-wired for connection and without genuine communication that connection will never develop the strength it needs to stand tall. It’s so unfortunate that so many thoughts are left unsaid and because of that so many relationships break down and/or fall away.

Communication is the root to that feeling when you connect with someone on a level that feels beautifully isolated from outside effect. All connections have a different feel because your connection with one is never the same as your connection with another, they are always individually unique which is relative to the phrase of how each person holds a special place in your heart. As unique as the person, so is your connection with them, no two are alike.if only you knew

Every relationship carries different meaning, challenges, love and connection but all are as strong as the foundation they are built on. Authentic, direct and meaningful communication enhances, feeds and nourishes that foundation but without it the foundation will get weak.

Personally, I prefer authentic, direct and meaningful, I don’t like it when others speak in code or indirectly mislead, it’s a little too sneaky for my liking and having to decipher a hidden meaning or agenda just doesn’t appeal to me. If your communication is like this then you likely aren’t experiencing the true connections that your soul needs and are causing your own undernourishment. I think you will find much more of what your soul needs if you listen to your inner voice, it is your own personal compass, it is connected to the Universe and it will always guide you toward authenticity.

Everyone communicates differently and learning to understand and respect how each of those unique people in your life communicate with you will be a benefit that will help to prevent barriers and/or walls that sometimes pop up due to misunderstanding.

How I communicate and understand is different from everyone else and vice versa so I can’t very well expect that someone should understand my point of view just by an explanation that makes sense to me unless of course it also makes sense to them. While I do believe that everyone communicates and understands differently, there are times when we find a connection that travels on the same wavelength, kind of like tuning in to the same frequency. It doesn’t mean that it will always be that way for everything I think it just means you’ve found a common ground in a specific area.

It is those areas of common ground that the foundation of understanding begins which opens up the opportunity for unique connection. We all seek to connect with others because it provides us with balance, understanding, meaning and validation that we matter somewhere in this life. The more people you connect with the more your cup will runneth over because these true connections are the lifelines that feed your soul and your soul needs this form of nourishment to feel balanced, whole and at peace.

Listening is the counterpart of communicating and just as important, as is awareness to hearing what is not being said. I know that may sound a little confusing but I think that a lot of times when we feel we aren’t being heard, we stop communicating altogether and if you are struggling to communicate with someone that may be shutting down then you’re foundation may be in jeopardy and the strength and root of your common ability to communicate from the beginning will either build or break it.

I think “way back when” as in 60-100 years back, communication wasn’t recognized for the gem it clearly is. Connection wasn’t within the realm of awareness that it is now because the value of communicating and listening wasn’t realized. I believe people live longer these days not because as we all hear “life was harder way back when” but because the soul is receiving more nourishment by way of fulfillment through connection.

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Posted by on September 29, 2014 in Blog

 

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Don’t Let the Seed of Anger Consume You

How are Your Communications?

Sometimes it takes so little for a conversation to go sideways but it’s as easy as asking for clarification as to how you’ve heard something to determine someone’s intention.  Your own awareness in maintaining a level of control over your emotions will help to keep your levels from rising during conversations that have the potential of becoming heated.  Perception is Reality!

Anger serves no purpose except to upset and hurt those involved and if you let it, it will keep you stuck in that place of misery until you let go of it.

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The best communication is listening, acknowledging and validating what you’ve heard.  Verify back how you’re receiving things, not everyone interprets input the same way but you also need to be able to maintain some level of empathy and compassion to truly honor the communications so that resolution can be found, of course if that is the goal.  Nasty verbal ping pong isn’t fair play but can be so easy to get dragged into if your emotions get away from you.  I think it’s impossible not to have your emotions invested during open and honest communication but with determination it is possible to keep them respectful.

If you tune out during conversation to what someone is saying instead of really hearing and understanding them then you are sending them the wrong message but if you’re at a loss for words because you feel like you are in over your head and that you’re supposed to be helping them through an issue, the best thing you can do is to communicate that honestly.  You don’t always need to fix someone’s world and you’re not meant to, sometimes all one needs is acknowledgement and validation that they’ve been heard to help direct them toward the road of self-healing.

If someone is or has treated you badly for whatever reason it likely has more to do with them than it does with you.  People strike out at others for many reasons and usually it’s connected to their own emotional imbalances (eg: jealousy, inadequacy or defensiveness), to name a few.  Alternatively it could be something that is going on or isn’t going on in their life that they are hurt by.  Even though it’s not right that doesn’t make it any easier to take when you happen to be the punching bag in their immediate vicinity who is affected and sometimes it isn’t as easy to brush it off as we’d like it to be but again, awareness is key.  Knowing you’re okay, validating your own self-worth and letting it go through whatever process works for you is the best solution and in the long run less damaging to your inner spirit.  Any damage to your inner spirit that has the chance to continually cycle eventually has a consequential manifestation in your physical health and the longer it festers, the more the damage grows.

You can’t allow someone to take away from your personal power or to determine your level of worth, it’s their opinion, albeit an inconsiderate one but still just their opinion.  Regardless of what someone else may think that opinion isn’t the truth of you, even if what they say hurts, you know who you really are!

Your true circle of friends and family should be your resource for honesty and comfort and it is through them that validation of who you are is affirmed.

Always try to keep things real with yourself, be aware of what you’re saying and of how others’ are perceiving what you’re saying and that awareness creates a foundation that will enhance all your communications in a very positive way!

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Posted by on January 16, 2014 in Blog

 

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Different Times Call for Different Measures

Let’s Talk About It!

I’ve seen an increased focus in the last year on kids, parenting and bullying, basically everything that surrounds these issues and they are VERY important topics that I believe should be in the forefront for all of us because the world is definitely changing.

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It’s so different now from when I grew up and I’m sure I’m dating myself some but I’m Ok with that.  The age of computers were just starting to come in when I was in high school but the internet and social media was not in full play until much later.  My experience in school was a really good one, as far as I knew I got along with everyone.  I was into sports, friends and fashion and they all dominated my life in a very positive way.

When I was a kid, we would go out in the morning and pretty much stay out all day without our parents worrying about us and would check in usually for meals and then back out again and we were always safe.  At school bullying wasn’t the epidemic it has become, the worst that could happen then was a fight between only two people or if someone really wanted to ruin you they wrote or carved something on the wall of a bathroom stall but no one had the stamina or interest to run all over the city doing it, it just wasn’t worth it.

The implementation of social media has both good and bad aspects and as much as it’s great that I can contact a friend halfway across the world without having to pay those ridiculous international phone call rates that there used to be, it also means that we all have access to anyone and everyone at any time and it’s really important to “Be Kind” as much as possible.  I’ve always tried to govern myself according to the “Do unto others” golden rule and to give people the benefit of the doubt but when I was watching a “Dr Phil” show the other day (parent/child relationship difficulties) he was referring to his new book “Life Code” which is “The New Rules for Winning in the New World”.  I am definitely going to get a copy of this book and knowing his work from previous books I’ve read I’m sure this particular advice and insight is something we can all benefit from no matter where we are in our lives.

What worked in the past no longer does because things have changed so rapidly and to such a degree that we have to educate ourselves to adapt to this new world, it is impossible for our old rules to apply.  The importance of this adaptation is imperative to all of those in our lives that we love and care for because everyone reacts differently to negative encounters and how it manifests in their lives are the signs that will alert us to their unhappiness.  With those that are closest to us there is also our own intuition that will likely be the 1st alert (the whisper) sign and one that you should never push aside.  We all have intuition, gut instinct, inner voice, however you want to refer to it but we inherently know when something is off with someone we love and care for and it is when that radar sounds that you need to start paying attention!

Like I said everyone reacts differently and that manifests in a variety of different ways, it’s just a matter of knowing your loved ones and we all do.  Communication is your best defence against the difficulties in life because most of the issues in the forefront these days can result in withdrawing from being present, insecurity and low self-esteem and I don’t think anyone wants to see that happen to someone they love.  It doesn’t take a lot to reach someone on a level that can open them up and it starts with honest, compassionate communication.

I hope everyone gets a copy of Dr. Phil’s new book because I think there are some very important life lessons inside that can teach us all to help ourselves and those we love to live happy and contented lives.

We matter and those we love matter.

As much as this new world is all too time consuming and demanding, we embarked on the journeys we are on to make better lives and we are depriving ourselves and those we love of that better life if we aren’t present in the moments that matter.

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Posted by on May 29, 2013 in Blog

 

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What is More Important?

Being Right or Being Happy

In my opinion being right is not worth jeopardizing being happy!  It takes negative energy to hold on to the emotion that maintains the ego when it insists on “being right”.  Negativity in any form is not time well spent and being right will never be as fulfilling as being happy.

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I have been guilty myself of wasting my time feeding that emotion but thankfully I did not waste as much time as I could have because I value my happiness and positive state of being more than my ego.

I believe that the insistence of being right comes from a place of insecurity, feeling inadequate, invisible and invalidated.  “Being right” brings a feeling of being in control, respected and admired, something that an insecure person is not likely to feel on any given day so the insistence of being right is very necessary not only to the ego but to the psyche and state of being.  When someone feels invisible this may be the only validation they feel they have so it becomes very, very important.  My wish for those that feel the negativity of insecurity is that someone in their life is able to open up their world so they can see that it is this emotion of insecurity that is inhibiting their happiness more than anything else.

It takes more energy to feed negative emotions then it does positive.  All things negative feel heavy and draining, all things positive feel lighter and flow with ease, it is the resistance to the positive that drains the energy levels in our bodies and wears us out.

Have you ever noticed that when you have been resistant to something, regardless of whether you thought it was negative or positive, that it has been a draining experience just to fight it and when you run out of energy and give up, it’s like a weight has been lifted.  The release of that weight is the “letting go” of the resistance and I have found that when I have recognized I’m resisting and allow myself to “let go” I have later asked myself “why didn’t I realize this earlier?  I could have saved myself all the heartache that went with resisting.”

I have found it quite educational to observe how different each of us are, how that difference affects how we interact with each other and how that interaction reflects on each of us.  My observation of people that have insecurity is that they desire attention but that their behaviour and the way they interact usually offends others which has the opposite effect of what they desire.

I’ve observed people that are confident and have great social interaction with others and it seems obvious that the reason for these qualities they possess is because they are more concerned with being happy than being noticed.  When they communicate with others it is because they enjoy the social interaction and are interested in what others have to say.

I’ve observed people that are in between these two ends of the spectrum and I’ve found that I’ve learned something from everyone that has crossed my path.

The one thing we all have in common is that we are all trying our best with what we know to navigate our way through the tests, the lessons, the joys and the blessings, and if we are lucky we come out of each with more knowledge and appreciation then we went in with.

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Posted by on April 17, 2013 in Blog

 

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