Changes Your Reality
One of my favorite quotes was said by Wayne Dyer:
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer
I’ve actually tried this and it really worked, the circumstance I was applying it to was at my workplace. It wasn’t that I had a huge dilemma with a co-worker we just kind of rubbed each other the wrong way. Much time has passed since changing how I was looking at things with this particular situation and I’ve come to realize that maybe the reason for my co-workers disassociation was caused by the disassociation I was projecting. Oddly enough now, this co-worker is someone I really like, admire and respect and all it took was to change that around was to change how I was looking at things.
When you first try this it may feel odd ( I think mostly because it takes more energy to resist the natural flow ) but you will find that whatever you are projecting outward is what you will receive back so it makes sense that if you change that projection then what you get back will also change.
What I have to throw into the mix this week is – “what if I am emotionally connected to the circumstance, how do I then change how I am looking at it?”
When I am emotionally connected to a situation it can be very difficult to shift my thinking because it’s clouded by the emotional attachment. The only way I can think of is to take away the emotion factor by disconnecting at the source, and this is not easy to do and I’m not so sure that is something I am able to do or if it’s the right thing to do. It sounds simple in theory but when you get right down to it, it’s a lot harder to take on. The way we really connect with others is emotionally based and if you’re already connected then how do you disconnect. We aren’t robots, we don’t have switches we flip, we are energetic beings that sense and feel but if a circumstance is causing you stress or hurts you emotionally then removing yourself from it is the only solution.
My usual approach to any dilemma is to weigh out my options, kind of a like a pros and cons list. This gives me a visual and when I write things out it makes it easier for me to come up with the best solution or plan. This is an ongoing process for me, I’m not sure that I’ve found the best solution yet for myself or for anyone facing this dilemma.
The only solution I have is when a situation or circumstance is causing you stress or hurt then sometimes the answers are to look within. As in the circumstance above, I was initially causing the discrepancy I was having and had I realized that sooner I would have changed my thinking around much earlier and saved myself the discomfort. What I know now is that when I do have any issues, I start with me.
If you need to search further then maybe the answers can be found by talking things over with a close friend who can help you to find the answers you need individually. Sometimes in doing that you will find the answers much easier than trying to figure it out on your own.
I’m going to leave you with Wayne Dyer’s daily affirmation which is a very significant ending to this blog.
Monitor Your Inner Dialogue
Recognize that what you think about, expands. Monitor your inner dialogue, and match your thoughts to what you want and what you intend to create.
Shelley Hallmark 