Embracing Them All
I really believe that everything happens for a reason and as it should in the right time, although I’ve had my faith significantly challenged in these beliefs at times which has led me to question certain occurrences in my life. I’ve come to the conclusion in the last little while that regardless of how difficult it may be, embracing the lesson may be the answer. Even the lessons that don’t seem like there is a conclusion to, I think sometimes, embracing the lesson is the conclusion.
I have both resisted and accepted different lessons I’ve experienced, and so far resistance has been the most harmful to me and has caused the negativity attached to the lesson to drag on for much longer than it needed to. As well, I noticed when resisting that the lesson has continued to appear in my life, whether I liked it or not, through different scenarios and/or people, until I was finally able to acknowledge, understand and progress from it.
On almost every lesson I’ve had so far I’ve discovered that there was a need that I wasn’t aware of and wasn’t allowing to be fulfilled because my ego was quite sure it knew what the need was and was searching in the wrong place. With my ego venturing off believing it knew best, I’ve wondered if it is possible for those in our circle to get caught in the middle of a lesson that is not part of their path simply because of their placement and vice versa. When you are emotionally attached to someone it can be hard to sit back and let them lead, especially if you feel you can help, but ultimately it is their lesson and not our place to invade.
What does one do when they find themselves in this situation? I believe that our awareness and inner voice (gut instinct) will let us know when that is the case and guide us to step back, the challenge is whether or not we listen to it. The best I’ve found is to offer but not insist, you can’t steer someone else’s ship but you can help guide them through the rocks.
My thoughts have started to sway towards an understanding in the divinity of it all, are these really mistakes? Or are they guided interventions that the universe is arranging to help us move in the direction of the path we are meant to be on? I’ve realized that without some of the more challenging lessons I’ve had there may have been so many areas of thought, intention, passion and purpose I may not have discovered.
My curiosity is these different areas of thought are strong and I like investigating all the options, if I don’t I leave myself without possibilities. It’s the possibilities that create the energy I need to sustain myself through the difficult times and it helps me to find a way to dance when it rains.
I’ve found that embracing all the lessons is providing me with a calmer sense of being, energized intention and a stronger insight into enjoying the journey.
October 16, 2012 at 5:55 pm
Wonderful post! Perfect timing!
October 16, 2012 at 9:24 pm
Thanks for your positive feedback! 🙂
October 16, 2012 at 10:16 pm
I recently had a similar discussion with my daughter along the same lines, helping her to understand my point of view (many people share) that everything does happen for a reason and we must take the lesson from every situation, even the bad, tough and negative situations in order to learn and move forward. It is tough as a parent to sit back sometimes when you know there is something that your child isn’t getting or a lesson to be learned.
Great post and great thoughts on the topic!
October 17, 2012 at 9:12 pm
So difficult when it comes to our children especially isn’t it? I want so much to prevent anything that potentially hurts my daughter but unfortunately my insight is only a part of that recipe. There’s no comparison to experience! In the end I think she ends up teaching me more. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
October 18, 2012 at 7:23 am
There is this cyclical pattern/thing that comes up for me every couple of years, and usually, I always choose the same thing. When it came up recently (just a few weeks ago), I started taking a closer look. I realized that the choice I usually make during this cycle has not worked for me all these years, so maybe I’ll LEARN THE LESSON and choose differently this time. I did, and it feels great! Although it’s unfamiliar territory, I know it was the right choice. Now, I can only hope that I start learning these lessons sooner rather than later, lol.
October 18, 2012 at 9:37 am
I understand the feeling of unfamiliar territory but I found that once I went there it was amazing at how things started to fall into the right places. Crazy how some things take longer to figure out, it’s definitely a process worth trying. Thanks for sharing Danielle! 🙂