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Dream Big, Dare Greatly!

It’s Never Too Late for Action

If it is something you have dreamed about, you need to act, if it is all that you’ve ever wanted, you need to act, if it is within your grasp, you need to act!

There is more self-loathing contained in the one that never takes the chance, whether you are held back by fear or not, taking a chance at your dreams takes courage and when you feed that courage you gain strength and confidence in yourself.

I never would have ventured the thought that within vulnerability lies your biggest source of strength but it is and challenging yourself when you feel the most exposed and vulnerable is like recharging your stamina meter, look out world I’m on a mission!

You may think that being vulnerable is being weak but it is actually being strong, strong enough to show your own vulnerability. When you do this, I’m not going to lie, it can be really scary but what you gain is inner strength, there is no greater exposure to who you really are, no one could expose you any further because you’ve already opened up your core.

You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability…

Vulnerability is the birthplace of everything we are hungry for…

Both of these statements were quoted by Dr. Brene Brown and I definitely agree with them, I experienced this exact epiphany (although couldn’t articulate as beautifully) but these words are true and you won’t be able to really understand how profound it really is until you step into your own space of vulnerability.

What you think about yourself is more important than you may realize, how you view your importance and place in this life is what feeds your self-pride and/or your courage to take a chance and go for what you want.

The quote below is now added to my collection of favorite quotes for a few reasons, I have observed a variety of different personalities, some I gravitate to and some I gravitate away from.

Theodore Roosevelt quote that Dr. Brene Brown references at the beginning of her latest book “Daring Greatly”:

It’s not the critic who counts, it’s not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better, the credit goes to the man who’s actually in the arena, whose face is marred with dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly and who errs and fails and is sometimes victorious but when he fails as least he does so daring greatly!

There is always going to be those that stand at the sidelines too afraid to try and full of self-loathing because of it and what they point out as your faults are really how they feel about themselves, they likely have more respect for you because you tried and are mad at themselves and jealous because they lacked the courage to dare greatly.

It doesn’t make them any less of a person, I think it’s just because somewhere along the line their courage and faith got broken, your self-talk is so important because you can either make or break yourself further with your own thoughts but realize it doesn’t mean that’s it and you’re over!

It’s never too late for action to change everything around you, it starts with your thoughts and that’s not going to cost you a thing, except some faith. Every day or every week you can change one thought about yourself from negative to positive, thoughts become attitude and then outlook and before you know it the world around you starts to change and mold according to those new positive thoughts.

Change your thoughts, change your life….. Wayne Dyer

Don’t you believe you are worth it?

I do! I believe we are all worth it, all deserving of the living the life we want, all you have to do is take action, be positive and don’t give up! Why would you expect that your best life is to come to you and not the other way around? Anything worth having, is worth doing the work for!

We are only victims of the prisons we put ourselves in with our thoughts so change your thoughts!

Don’t let your self-talk ruin you, you’re better than that and deserve better than that and you can have anything you want as long as you’re willing to do the work, make the sacrifices and never take no for an answer!

Dream Big, Dare Greatly and do it with Integrity!

Pure Luck!

27 Feb

Charmed or Not?

Luck is golden and not to be discarded lightly, we all have it but we either don’t know it, don’t tap into it, or it may be that we don’t recognize it. I believe your luck (good or bad) is tied in to your outlook and state of being, are you positive or negative minded? Add in the Law of Attraction (like attracts like) to that mix and you can reap some serious benefits, or not, it depends on you.

The Law of Attraction (your thoughts become your reality) is always operating and if you believe you are lucky or unlucky, the universe will respond according to that belief. If you are saying phrases like “If it weren’t for bad luck, I wouldn’t have any luck at all” you are already destroying your chances of having anything positive occur because your choices within that sentence are bad luck or no luck. The further this belief gets ingrained the more of this luck you will see show up in your life, wouldn’t it be of more benefit to get your mind over to the positive side of this instead?

I myself, have always been lucky, and the more I embrace and encourage that postivitity the more good luck I experience, it’s a cycle that continues to flow. Of all the cycles that have the chance of continually repeating this is one I hope everyone opens themselves up to because not only are there the benefits of good luck but that shift to the positive opens your world up to a much healthier way of life.

Do you know people that you view as being lucky? What is it about them that you believe is creating this good luck? Are you associating their luck or your own with a feeling of being deserving of it?

Luck is not a designation it’s impartial, it’s not doled out to those that deserve or don’t deserve it, it begins with you and your content or discontent within your life. We attract things to us (people or circumstances) that are in alignment with ourselves, if you want to change your luck, simply start by changing your attitude. If you have someone in mind that you feel has an attitude or outlook that you admire or wish you had, then start there. I don’t mean be a clone of someone but maybe adopt or adapt the traits or qualities that serve you and are most in alignment with who you are as a person and it is likely that you will start to see your life change for the better and the luck that you have held at bay for so long will finally be able to get through.

Appreciating all aspects of good fortune creates the chain reaction similar to a snowball rolling down a hill in that it continues to grow as it gathers speed. It’s not so much that it crashes or explodes when it finally reaches the bottom of the hill but rather the impact causes it to sprinkle and spread out the crystals of fortune onto all areas of its path.

By far the most important state of being needed to allow your luck to flourish is gratitude and embracing that state in every area will change your life beyond anything you could have ever imagined.

Now I’ll ask again, are you charmed or not? It’s really all up to you!

I Got This!

23 Oct

Not a Dream, but my Reality

I know I’ve said this before but there isn’t anything that any of us can’t achieve as long as you have your heart and soul in it and truly believe in yourself! This is true for an area of your life but my focus in this post is career because I believe that a lot of people out there aren’t truly doing what they feel passionate about and I don’t want anyone to ever have regrets. Regret is really hard on the heart, it can deflate your spirit and it can invalidate your belief in yourself further then it may already be.

The biggest detractors that keep us from achieving our dreams come from these questions:

– Am I worthy?

– Am I capable?

If anyone in your life is questioning their self-worth in any area encourage them to believe in themselves because there is only one answer: YES!

It’s imperative that you not allow anyone to encroach on your determination to achieve all that you desire. Anyone at any time can consciously or unconsciously try to deter you from your dreams whether that is there intention or not. As Wayne Dyer says put up the “Do Not Disturb” sign on your imagination and do not allow anyone else’s opinion in.

The real questions that you should be asking are:

– Is this my true desire?

– Can I envision it?

– Does it feel effortless?

When I was younger I had lots of ideas of what I thought I wanted to do in life only to find that it wasn’t as ingrained as it needed to be for me to achieve it. I only thought it was what I wanted and in making the attempt to try to attain that goal I discovered it didn’t fit or feel natural. Your true desire or dream needs to feel like it is what you were meant to do, as effortless as breathing.When I was younger I really thought that I wanted to be a singer, I practiced, I dreamed and tried to chase that direction. I never pursued it with the passion that I needed to because as much as it’s what I thought I wanted to do it didn’t fit or feel as effortless as breathing like writing does. I hadn’t realized that I was in the right area, music is creative and my writing is creative but I was not as aware of the foundation of my true desires as I am now. I don’t think it matters so much how you get there (finding your true desires in life) but rather that you do and remind yourself often that you can do it. The people in your life that matter the most and care deeply for you will support and encourage you.

The very first step of putting yourself out there and being vulnerable will definitely be scary, but I think sometimes you need to scare yourself that way. I’ve found that’s how I know I’m on the right path and that experience has provided me with personal insight into my true passion and purpose that I might not have discovered had I not taken the chance.

Do something for you, give yourself the gift of believing in yourself, allow no one to take that away from you and pursue all your dreams with pride and passion!

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Posted by shelleyhallmark on October 23, 2012 in Blog

Tags: believe in yourself, dreams, I am worthy, passion, purpose, think positive

Think Positive, Be Happy

18 Sep

Blue Sky’s Ahead!

Find the silver lining, it’s always there, sometimes you just have to change your view. Just like looking through a kaleidoscope, it’s constantly changing and although every turn is a new design and different colors, the beauty is in how you view it.

Not everything is as bleak as it seems, it’s all a matter of perception. I’ve had my moments of not being able to see out of the dark hole I’ve dug myself into because I thought that I had no way out but that was just the illusion I created because I allowed negativity in. When I take a step back and insist to myself that, “I am going to find the silver lining”, it starts to appear. A good tool I’ve used is the pros and cons list, once you place in your mind that you are committed to looking for a positive outcome you will find it and chances are you will find more than one good idea on your pros list. Even though you may have more cons than pros at first, at least you’ve discovered that the options equal a way out.

I know that at times it can be easier said than done, negativity is definitely a tough rut when you are in it but it is essential to your well-being that you find a way to pull yourself out, in my mind negativity is the equivalent to catching a cold or the flu. Sometimes the negativity cold is mild and goes away in a few days, sometimes the negativity flu lasts a couple of weeks and then you are able to shake it, but sometimes it becomes more substantial and attaches itself like a cyst to your insides. This is when you have to fight it with everything you’ve got to kick it out of your system, the reason you feel so terrible when negativity has got a hold on you is because it is a sickness and you can’t allow it to stay in your system.

Like I said my first line of defense is the pros and cons list, once I’ve done that I start to progress each of the pros options and gravitate in that direction. The negativity cannot survive in my positive mindset, it will continue to try to invade my positive mind but as long as I remain strong and keep exploring the pros options it will have no chance except to leave. It may come back every once in a while but since I’ve developed a process that works for me, it won’t be able to sustain itself.

In progression from the pros and cons list is my use of a vision board to provide me with the daily visualization of my road of positivity. The vision board coupled with the written options helps my mind to easily see the future unfold as I desire. I don’t necessarily need to carry around an actual vision board, placing it somewhere that I can see it on a daily basis is enough, although you could also use a notepad and have the visualizations in there and carry that around with you, it may provide you with a stronger sense of positive direction. At first when I started trying this I did the list and the vision board and I knew that I had the right intentions but I realized that my actions didn’t match them. I couldn’t just sit around waiting for my life to pick up, I actually needed to make a plan and follow the steps that take me in that direction toward my desired outcome. It was like I was waiting for Ed McMahon to just come to my door and tell me I’ve won the Publishers Clearinghouse Sweepstakes when I didn’t even enter. It doesn’t work that way!

Simply stated: If you’re going to talk the talk, you need to walk the walk!

Negativity gets in much like that of a cold, when your immune system is low due to little sleep and/or being run down you can easily catch a cold. The same goes for negativity, it gets in when you’ve had a bad day or bad encounter with someone, either scenario provides the opening that negativity needs to flourish, the question is are you going to fan the flames or smother it.

The biggest and most important factor within all of this is the conscious choice to choose happy, choose the positive and stay strong in that choice. Don’t allow anyone to have any power over your positivity, happiness or your direction in life.

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Posted by shelleyhallmark on September 18, 2012 in Blog

Tags: choose happy, happiness, intention, positive thinking, pros and cons, silver lining, stay strong, think positive, vision board, visualization

It’s All Energy

31 Jan

Recognizing the energy in our Lives

Have you ever noticed how certain people can affect you? It’s that moment when you realize how someone else’s energetic field is affecting your own, whether it’s a good or bad feeling, you’re still aware of its presence.

We are all energetic beings and like all forms of energy not all of them blend together. When you’ve noticed that someone has “rubbed you the wrong way” or the opposite that “things just clicked” both of these are energetic effects. We are all unique individuals and of course we are not all going to blend together as one, we need the different energies to provide balance. Learning how to work with maintaining your own sense of balance is the key.

Similarly the LOA (Law of Attraction) is also a form of energy, it’s a state of being that is sustained by a certain energy. When you are operating within that energy you will likely equate it to “the day just keeps getting better”. It’s because that particular vibrational energy is in perfect alignment with your inner spirit, like finding your way home. It’s that state of being that is the equivalent of the perfect vibrational energy. I call it the perfect vibrational energy because, well let’s face it, if you’re at a point where you’re thinking that the day keeps getting better then you are having a pretty fantastic day and of course what wouldn’t be better than having a day, week or month full of fantastic days?

Unfortunately there are times when we aren’t feeling as uplifted as we’d like to and those fantastic days can seem so far away, sometimes so far away that it can feel like you won’t see one again. It’s during these times that we are operating way outside of the “perfect vibrational energy” and if you’re like me it feels almost like having the flu.

When you’re down like this it leaves you wide open for negativity to find its way in. Technically your spiritual immune system is down and once the negativity gets in it can find other avenues within to keep you occupied. Negative thoughts that are not distinguished can grow and escalate to cause you much sorrow and pain and make you believe that the positive of hope and faith is not there or worse, lost! It’s these times when you may need to remind yourself to believe.

It will require a lot more of your energy to fight your way through to find the light but when you get there it’s totally worth it. There’s nothing as gratifying as the positive side of life, the “perfect vibrational energy”, it feeds your inner spirit with hope, love and faith.

As terrible as the negative energy is, we need it to be able to identify, appreciate and embrace the positive. If they weren’t such polar opposites how else would we be able to recognize the difference?

Look for the good vibrations and pass on the positive!

Shelley Hallmark

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