You Need to Step Up for Change to Happen

06 Mar

Go Hard or Go Home!

Are you in a Rut?

Are you Living your Dreams?

Or are you Just Getting By?

If you aren’t satisfied with where you are at or where your life is going then I believe these are the questions you might want to consider.  I found after asking myself these questions that I had a whole new set of questions that followed.

Where do I want my life to go?

What do I consider Living my Dreams?

What fulfills me?

What is my Purpose?

Some of these questions may seem easy but they weren’t, oh sure, where I want my life to go is obviously somewhere good, somewhere happy and somewhere fulfilling but I didn’t know what that looked like.  Figuring that out takes a lot of thought and true soul searching and knowing where to start isn’t a given for anyone but I found that the answers to these questions definitely helped point me in the right direction.

ambition v8 engine

Everything I do is full on (Go Hard or Go Home!), I don’t like to do anything half-way, I don’t see the point, but of course I think that’s just part of my work ethic and personality, something anyone athletic or competitive can identify with, tenacity is the key to success.  Having those traits that I applied to the many sports I played made it frustrating for me to not have any idea or direction of what I wanted to do in life.  In sports, it’s easy, you already know what the end result is supposed to look like, but life goals?  That’s a whole other game!  I had a blurred vision of the emotional aspect of where I wanted my life to go which was the (somewhere good, somewhere happy, somewhere fulfilling) but I had no idea what the purpose or the work was that would be associated and that was because I needed these questions to help me.  Again with the questions, I had more that followed!

What’s my first step?

What’s my second step?

What’s my third step?

There was no end to these questions and there still isn’t!  I am still in hot pursuit of my goals and have no intention of letting up, not for any other reason than it’s too important to me to give up.  I found a quote from a movie “A Cinderella Story” that fits perfectly.

“Never let the fear of striking out, keep you from playing the game”

How true this quote is, you have to step up to create change for yourself, it’s the only way.  You can’t expect anyone else to do it for you or to fulfill your dreams, there’s no sense of accomplishment in that and if something means that much to you then giving up isn’t an option.  Your rewards come from accomplishing things for yourself and being able to say “I did that!” or “I was part of that”.  Either on your own or collectively no one else can create the glow of accomplishment and inner reward but you!

If you want something, you have to make it happen!





Posted by on March 6, 2013 in Blog


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2 responses to “You Need to Step Up for Change to Happen

  1. Danielle Navonne

    March 19, 2013 at 5:42 am

    I swear you are my long-lost blog sister, Shelley! Lol. I just started working with a career coach last week and am dedicating the next 5 weeks to asking myself some of these very questions as it relates to my career. It seems like the answers to these questions would be easy, but as you dig deep into them, they bring out a whole ‘nuther set of questions, thoughts, revelations, etc. It’s only been a week so far, but I’m realizing the truth in that quote that says that we don’t have to have all the answers, we just have to be able to ask the right questions. Here’s to asking questions….. 🙂

    • shelleyhallmark

      March 19, 2013 at 10:13 pm

      No doubt! I’ve had the same thought long-lost blog sister 🙂 I know that it wasn’t until I started asking the right questions that I found myself being led to where I’m meant to be but I don’t think the next set of questions will ever stop! It’s crazy how when you start peeling back the layers you may find that it leads in a direction you never would have guessed or thought of. So glad to hear from you again Danielle, I’m looking forward to more of your feedback. Happy Digging! I think you are going to like what you find, I know I have so far.


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