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To Err is Human

To Forgive is Divine

Forgiveness allows you relief from carrying the burden that causes you to remain present in a moment that has hurt you deeply.

It takes courage to allow yourself to be in a place that helps you to forgive others for feeling disempowered by their words or actions. Vulnerability is a necessary component of all relationships, without it you won’t experience the true connection but with it there is a risk of being hurt. If you take your past hurts with you into your present and future it may provide you with a false sense of security, a wall that you think may protect you from getting hurt again, but it prevents you from truly shining and others from getting to know your heart.

When you’ve been hurt deeply the ego’s logic is to hold onto the hurt and anger in the hopes that it will somehow affect the person that caused you the hurt. This couldn’t be further from the truth, chances are very likely that they are unaffected, unconcerned and/or unaware. That hurt, however, will continue to writhe inside of you until you finally reach the place of letting it go and letting it go you must!

Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die

–        Buddha

I absolutely love this quote I got from an Oprah show a while back, it bears repeating again and again until you allow yourself to feel and embrace the power in these words.

  • Forgiveness does not mean you have to accept the person back into your life.
  • Forgiveness does not mean you are condoning what they did or that you are in any way saying it was OK what they did.
  • Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.

Forgiveness is where your strength lies because it allows you to embrace more fulfilling aspects of character like compassion and empathy. That strength says “I’m letting you go so you can’t continue to hurt me with this memory that I’m remembering daily”. By releasing this memory as past and allowing the grief of the hurt to be felt you then give yourself the opportunity to heal and become stronger, strong enough to never find yourself in that same place again. Sometimes the hurt caused by another can feel very personal and intense and to hold yourself in the same place day after day after day can be a way of punishing yourself for letting someone get close enough to hurt you, although I don’t think that is realized at the time.

Forgiveness paves the way for all things beautiful and positive. It gives you the opportunity to see and feel the miracles of life that we often overlook or take for granted. Forgiveness helps you into the state of gratitude so you are able to recognize the blessings you’ve had and those that are still to come.

There are so many before us that have gone through so much more than we will ever have to know because they have lived, their sacrifices paved a better road for us. Without the blessing of their sacrifices, our miracles in life would not be as abundant. Take a moment to acknowledge and recognize history and know that no matter how difficult life may be right now, there are always options, if there weren’t then those before us wouldn’t have been able to provide us with the changes we know in life today.

Your crown has been bought and paid for. All you have to do is put it on your head.

  • James Baldwin

Appreciate yourself and life enough to know that you have every opportunity to pave that path even better for the future of those you do not know and in doing so you may have positively inspired hope in another.

Hope lies in dreams, in imagination, and in the courage of those who dare to make dreams into reality.

  • Jonas Salk

how we ran the race

 
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Posted by on October 6, 2014 in Blog

 

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Come and Gone

Everyone leaves their Mark!

The memory of those we’ve lost will carry on within those they’ve known and/or inspired.  Everyone leaves an indelible mark on the people whose lives they’ve truly touched, whether it was for a short or long period of time.

People within all walks of life can inspire personal growth and positive change in someone and their status in life is irrelevant.  It’s who you are with others, how you treat them and in turn how they respond that makes the difference.  My #1 mantra in life as quoted by Ralph Waldo Emerson below is the mark I want to leave.  I know I’ve quoted it often but it bears repeating for they are truly words to live by and aspire to.

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What got me thinking about this particular topic have been all the awards shows that have been airing in the last couple of weeks.  There is a certain point in every awards show that is my favorite moment for two reasons and both touch opposite sides of the emotional spectrum.  It is the point when acknowledgement of those in their industry that they have lost for that specific year are remembered.

  • I’m Happy, because they are being honored for their contribution and because I’ve have had the opportunity to see the beauty of work they’ve created through their unique style of artistic expression.

and;

  • I’m Sad, because they are gone and I won’t see their specific brand of artistic expression again and especially so when the loss is at an earlier age.  All life is valuable but the loss seems to feel greater when there was so much more life ahead.

Even though they are gone it is likely that they’ve inspired one or many other artists in one way or another and through that inspiration emulation of the admired aspect will allow that artist to have some version of themselves live on through the generations.  The reason we know of them is not because they are greater than others but because the profession they have chosen to enter into is highly publicized.

I use the entertainment/celebrity world as contrast here because there are many people that touch and affect our lives and even though they aren’t highly publicized in life it doesn’t diminish the mark they’ve left.  That is evidenced every day through the various expressions of remembering and memorializing our loved ones so that our most cherished memories of them continue to have positive influence in our lives.

I believe that one of the most influential figures of this time has been Princess Diana, obviously not everyone in the world met or had a connective bond with her personally but her impact globally was epic.

Assumably for most, like myself, I had developed an attachment, an appreciation for her not only because of what she presented but because that presentation was authentically herself without any excuse and that is what made her real, we could identify with her on many levels.

Similarly I can develop just as much appreciation but to a greater extent for those that I have personal connection to and their impact on me is stronger because of that close connection.

Connection to others through whatever wavelength you channel has the opportunity to grow and strengthen the bond as time and shared experiences evolve.  Each of those connections leave imprints on our psyche and in our hearts that transcend beyond the physical world.

I am a creative mix of my family and heritage as well as the environment I grew up in, influenced by many people that have left their mark in my life even if they weren’t aware of it.  I’ve had the pleasure of observing and learning from people that have had such a positive influence on my life just by modelling aspects that I admire and aspire to emulate.  These qualities that I have most admired in these people have helped shape my personality and enriched my life and in that regard some version of them will live on through me because of it.

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Posted by on January 30, 2014 in Blog

 

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