Breaking the Cycle
I’m sure at some point we have all recognized a cycle or pattern occur or reoccur in our lives and usually not until the undesirable happens. The undesirable being the outcome that you either didn’t expect or didn’t want.
If it was something you didn’t expect then you probably weren’t listening to the warnings your inner voice was nudging you about or your ego was encouraging you that you knew better.
If it was something you didn’t want then the outcome was already placed in your subconscious and therefore inevitable because in the back of your mind you expect it may be a possibility.
The law of attraction will give you exactly what you want to think about the most. Your conscious mind can try to trick you into believing something but the truth of what you really feel and believe is stored in your subconscious. If you believe in your subconscious that you are in a pattern/cycle that is going to fail then you can tell your conscious self all you want that everything is fine but deep down you know it’s not.
What I have become mindful of over time is my inner voice/gut instincts in identifying the parallels and precursors to those undesirable circumstances so I can prevent a reoccurrence. I’ve also found that cycles and patterns of experiences and/or behaviours have many variables at the core and no two are alike which is why I say I stay mindful but not apathetic. It is very important to remain open yet aware so you do not risk closing yourself off from the good that could come into your life.
Most of the patterns and cycles reoccur not because we aren’t being smart but because they are familiar, even when they may be toxic. Your environment from childhood and up to adult is what you have been marinated in and in essence becomes the fabric of who you are even if the environment wasn’t favourable. Sometimes as a result you end up seeking a similar environment not because it is what you desire but because it is familiar. As I said there are many variables at the core of each of us and no two experiences are identical and if your environment wasn’t favourable it doesn’t necessarily mean you are cursed to end up in that same place.
Awareness is your best friend, openness is your faith, kindness is your assistant and love is your hope.
Remembering the positives from your past instead of the negative aspects is a good way to understand and learn what the experiences are there to teach you so you don’t go through it again. When you do this it helps your soul heal so you can remain open to the good but aware so you don’t fall back again and bypass your destiny. We all have a destined purpose and if you aren’t sure if you are living yours then just ask yourself these questions:
Do I have passion in my life?
Am I living or just existing?
I think most reasons for starting to question your experiences come after what feels like mistake after mistake or failure after failure which I can easily identify with. I’ve had my share of undesirable experiences and they have taught much more than I would have gained without them. The answer is to reflect and review your past for present and future purposes but don’t stay there. Creating a new familiar and normal will bring harmony and a peaceful state of existence to all your relationships that will have you aspiring to cultivate this in every area of your life. I know it has for me!
A life that isn’t dependent upon any expectation but rather passionately thriving, embracing and celebrating all the positives that come your way, big or small. When you have gratitude for the little things in life it makes the bigger things even more profound when they occur and they definitely will!
Create your new normal, life your best life and live it with passion!
Shelley Hallmark 