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What Are You Talking About?

Your Thoughts and Energy are a Package Deal

Have you ever noticed that what you consistently think and/or talk about is what keeps showing up in your life?  Chances are it’s the negative aspect that you probably notice the most because it’s what you don’t want.  Positive occurrences are most times thought of as luck and not the manifestation of your thoughts, even when they are positive.

Depending upon which energetic field your thoughts and conversations fall under (positive or negative), you can expect it will all become a self-actualizing prophecy for you because your thoughts and energy are a package deal.  What you think and talk about is what you will create, so be very wary of which energy you are feeding.

I think we all notice the result of negative thinking more because it’s an aggravation to have it show up in your life, so you stress about it, talk with others about how bothered you are by it.

Pay attention dear one, you are now feeding it!

I think everyone has had the bad day, the bad week, the bad month, hopefully not so much the bad year but all of this is the creation of your thoughts.  It’s hard to change the process around from talking about the things that you don’t want especially when they are upsetting to you.  It’s a natural thing to want to discuss, deal and discard the things that have either hurt or hindered you from moving in the direction you want to see yourself going.

By becoming aware of how those thoughts and conversations are influencing what you see develop day after day in your life you will understand how important it is to curb anything negative.  No matter how hard it is at the beginning to change that habit, that addiction to processing, the changes you see develop as a result will be inspiration enough to continue on.  Day by day it becomes easier to let those irritations not weave their way back in and you will see a new habit evolve, a healthier way of life that leads you to the things you want and the things that are meant for you.

Are you seeing the light?  That’s really what it’s like, the positive aspects of life bring a lightness to your life because you are allowing the weight, the heaviness of the negativity to be lifted from you and in reality all you’ve done is allowed your soul its freedom.  The soul, your inner spirit seeks purpose, connection, and an environment that inspires and cultivates your higher calling.  Imagine a place where all things are possible, this is it!

Why do we not embrace it?  Simply because it is the ego that keeps you immersed in a negative, fear based state, all for the sake of controlling you from believing that you can access this place, this state, this happiness.


I’ve always heard that comparison and it had been difficult for me to recognize/differenciate the two (ego & spirit), I didn’t feel like there was any power struggle actually going on, at least nothing that I could easily identify.  When the ego is trying to control though I’ve learned to recognize how it affects me physically and emotionally which shows up like stress, anxiety, a general feeling of disarray in my thoughts which is ultimately resistance between the two opposing sides.

I think how it presents itself is different in everyone.  We are all unique so it makes sense that it’s not a one-size-fits-all kind of answer or solution, it’s just a matter of raising your own awareness.  It’s not like being able to see the difference between colors of black and white but that is how opposing these two really are.

Ego (the brain) wants to rule because it knows, it knows better, it knows all and who’s going to argue, it’s gotten you this far hasn’t it?  Egotistical tells you how great you are, how much you deserve and where you should be.

Spirit (the soul) doesn’t want to rule anything, it wants to give you free will, to choose what your heart desires, to choose what nourishes and feeds your inner glory.  That’s it.

My four steps to counteracting my ego when I notice physical or emotional changes in my thoughts and energy are awareness, choice, acceptance and faith.

Awareness:  Learn to recognize how your external world affects your internal thoughts and energy, what triggers the negative and what cultivates the positive.

Choice:  You always have a choice!  The reasons you choose to tell yourself as to why you can’t do or change something is always prompted by the ego.  Choose to shut it out.  Choose to find greater understanding and awareness, it will show up because once you’ve made that choice you are now open to those answers.

Acceptance:  It’s not always easy to accept the things you cannot change but accepting that you don’t know everything all the time, that maybe some things you’re not supposed to change, sometimes you’re supposed to adapt.  Maybe the Universe has a different plan!

Faith:  When you fall into a dark place sometimes it’s hard to have faith, this is where I think acceptance is linked.  Everything happens for a reason, even things you don’t understand, the bad things too and how could there possibly be a reason for them?  The understanding comes later, sometimes years later but I think it occurs when you’ve made that shift, embraced that which you don’t understand but made it through the storm anyway.

These “Lessons of the Tao” which I became aware of, with great thanks to Dr. Wayne Dyer (1941-2015), help to keep things in perspective for me;

  • Change your thoughts and your life will change
  • There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way
  • You accomplish much by trying less
  • Trust in others to know what’s best for themselves
  • Live without attachment and be generous
  • When you have a choice to be right or to be kind, always pick kind
  • Rather than looking for miracles, see everything as a miracle in your life



Posted by on September 21, 2016 in Blog


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If You Don’t Have Anything Positive to Say

Maybe Don’t Say Anything At All!

Some things are better left unsaid, if all you have to offer someone is your fear and doubt than why does it need to be voiced?  Projecting your negativity onto someone else is usually unwanted and never fair to them.  Everyone has their own issues and challenges that they have to deal with throughout their lives and no one needs the addition of negativity when they are trying to maintain a positive frame of mind.  Depending on their current circumstance your negativity could be what breaks them in that negativity sign

The phrase “misery loves company” could be referenced when it comes to negativity but my opinion is that a person can feel very alone in their thoughts and may try desperately to rid themselves of those feelings but that projection usually creates more guilt and shame and may be the start of an unwanted cycle.

What we give our energy to is what manifests in our lives so the state of being you are focusing on most is what you can expect to see show up in your life.  Our minds are so much more powerful than I think we realize when it comes to having the ability within to manifest what we most desire and we can create significant change, the big question is what kind of change do you want to see occur?  Are your intentions in alignment with that desire, is your focus so determined that there can be no other outcome?  I’m sure most everyone would easily answer “of course I want positive things to occur” but if you’re putting all your energy into preparing for the worst how can you possibly expect the positive to manifest amid all that negativity?

Negativity is heavy, it’s draining and can feel like walking around with a piano tied to you, depending on how much you are letting it control your outlook will determine how much it holds you back.  Now imagine if someone else comes along and ties their piano to you too, after that happens you may not be going anywhere and it can get harder and harder to get yourself free.

If you are already expecting the worst in any situation then you will likely get what you have already embraced.

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You can induce miracles or tragedy, it’s a no-brainer for me as to which side of this I live on daily but we have our moments of vulnerability when we question circumstance simply because our immune system of will gets low.  It’s in these moments that a negative thinker has the window of opportunity to spread their virus, it’s the equivalent of walking up to someone and sneezing on them, there are times when we just don’t have the inner strength to fight it off.

Our thoughts manifest to create change, not all change is negative and change occurs based on our dominant thoughts and feelings, whether we realize it or not.  Be very aware of your daily thoughts, feelings and actions because you may not realize what you are manifesting if you are careless.

It’s ok for us to be aware of the downsides of any situation but it doesn’t mean we need to focus on it so intently that we manifest the outcome we don’t actually want.

Not everything works out as we sometimes hope or plan for but not everything is meant to, change exists to propel us into a different direction and sometimes the challenge in going in another direction has manifested to help us grow and learn.

We don’t come out on the other side of challenges without being provided the gift of wisdom, insight or growth.  The point is though that even if you feel the direction went the opposite of where you were hoping at least you didn’t encourage that direction to be worse than by thinking negatively.

For those that struggle with overcoming negative thoughts it will be a big challenge to make the change to the positive side, it will be hard work, but well worth it and I can assure you there is no better choice!

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Posted by on July 17, 2013 in Blog


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Full Steam Ahead

Changing your Thinking, Changes your Life!

I seek to inspire and motivate those that wish to be inspired and those that feel they have no options.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, what we think about is what we attract.  The Law of Attraction (LOA) is always operating, positively or negatively.  Your thinking is what drives the happenings in your life, changing your thinking effectively changes the outcome of your reality.  If you want to achieve or attain something within your life, your belief on if it’s a possibility for you will determine if it does in fact become a reality.  If you want your circumstances to change, changing your thought process is the way to begin.

You can alter the direction of your life simply by changing your thoughts to work for you.  Wouldn’t you rather have your life going in a direction that you are guiding?  At times I’ve felt that my life was controlled or directed by circumstance or events but when I’ve thought back the circumstances and events could very well be related to my thought process and the fact that I was utilizing my thoughts incorrectly.

My process has always been thinking and then writing down my possibilities; and from there I take those possibilities and create something like a flow chart.  It’s amazing to see when it’s all laid out like that, that what I initially viewed as “no options” grew into an amazing amount of possibilities.  The more I explore these possibilities, the more my options grow.

Another part of this process has been to change my state of mind and being.  Instead of thinking of what I don’t want in my life, I’ll try to think of what I want and live in that gratitude or state of being.

I’ll thank the Universe for bringing only positive people into my realm or give thanks for that job that suddenly popped up that I wanted.  In my case right now I have 2 more books that I’m working on and when I get thoughts and ideas to put into these books I give thanks, and then more thoughts and ideas come along.

I know this may sound crazy to some but it’s really how it works and it’s so simple and free.  Why not give it a try?

1)      Note where you are at now

2)      What you want to attract

3)      Give thanks when you receive any one of these wants

4)      Keep doing that process over and over

I’ve been amazed myself at how simple it is to change your thoughts and that one simple change can alter your whole outlook and reality.  The LOA is a very powerful state of mind and being, it doesn’t cost you a thing.  Maintain a strong focus to change your thoughts to work for you instead of against you and I can assure you, you will not be disappointed.

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Posted by on December 20, 2011 in Blog


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