Changing Your View
When you are trying to get someone to hear, acknowledge and/or validate your feelings it’s such a graceful place to be in if at the same time you can offer the same in return. Not everything is as it seems and of course not all views are the same. If you are unwilling to allow any room for someone to express and also be heard then how can you possibly justify expecting that from them in return? Communication from the foundation of love is truly the only way to resolve, any other mindset will block that doorway.
Even when the only option always seems like you are the one being the bigger person, be that person anyway, it keeps your soul clear of all effects that can negatively impact your state of being, living and existing. When you think of the personal teachings that are your soul’s existence, your own ideology, does it resonate with or against you when you aren’t allowing compassion? I think your answer to this question is yours alone and one that will help direct or re-direct you back onto the path toward your personal destiny, we all have one.
No one soul is better than another but your ego self and the energy you bring can change the direction of your life and who is drawn or deflected by it which inevitably determines the places you will go or are encouraged to return to. Pay attention to the energy you bring, it usually introduces you before you even say a word. Inauthenticity can be off-putting and is a controlling behaviour of the ego, open and warm energy is the natural projection of your soul.
When you are open and offer to be understanding and gracious during a time of conflict you create a space of freedom within speech, objectivity and vulnerability. This opens the lines of communication right down to the soul level and the opportunities for a deeper bond can transcend any negative boundaries that previously dominated the communication. Revealing your own vulnerability and authenticity may seem too open to being hurt but it is such a valuable extension of yourself towards others that you just can’t afford to suppress.
I feel it is when we are protecting our hearts so intensely that we end up closing the door to discovering something new, something possibly dreamy and inconceivable. You have no idea what you can potentially miss out on when you refuse to let others in because of past hurts that have colored or damaged your ability to have a healthy and spirited approach to trust.
We all have something to offer and share, sometimes your sadness and hurt can prevent you from remaining true to that faith.
It is really important to hold your faith through the challenges and successes that life brings your way as it is building you for your destiny. Even when a storm becomes so overwhelmingly cloudy and dark that it causes you to question your vision about the bigger picture, trust in the divine anyway. Nothing you can’t handle will come your way and everything does happen for a reason.
Your higher purpose and the greater good are a part of everyone’s journey, be intensely curious to discover yours!
Shelley Hallmark 
