Finding Your Way with Feeling
Have you at one time experienced the moment, day, week or month (hopefully not a year) of feeling lost without hope or options? Most times feeling lost creates a sense of panic and the extent of that panic of course depends on how much of an over thinker you are. Getting a hold of yourself and your thoughts to find the way out is your best and only option.
It is my sense that feeling lost is related to some sort of conflict that you feel overwhelmed, overpowered or minimized by.
Conflict itself is just your soul’s way of communicating to you that are off your path, that you aren’t where you are destined to be. I think many of us get so caught up in the details of a conflict that we miss the lesson while heading toward our intended destiny. I don’t mean exactly that certain people aren’t meant to cross and/or be in your life but rather that instead of focusing on the conflict try to figure out why it is there to begin with. What or who are you really battling against?
Keep the bigger picture in mind when assessing conflict or issues of any kind, not everything is as negative as it seems to be. Just maybe it is meant to propel you into a new direction, a direction you might not otherwise have discovered had you not been pushed. Maybe it is connected to a quality or characteristic you need to develop to fit into the puzzle that is your future destiny. I kind of see things in that perspective as each of my experiences pass and I have time to reflect on what the real purpose/lesson was. I usually find that I have gained greater clarity and that what I’ve learned or developed as a result of the experience will help me going toward my purpose. There are some that I had to repeat, I guess I just felt I knew better at times and how wrong I was and pained to have to go through one again but thankful at least that I could look back and make the connection changing it from the negative experience into a positive result.
Taking back the power, your power, that you’ve allowed the experience to take control of is your bridge to freedom.
It is my thought that the four elements to embracing this perspective, attitude and outlook are to focus on what you’ve gained instead of what was taken away and/or needed to be shed.
Intention: When you go into any experience it isn’t likely that your intention is to falsely represent yourself, at least I hope not. If your intention is pure and positive than it is important to include your intention as reference when you look back to assess what went wrong and why the outcome did not turn out as you had hoped. Everything happens for a reason!
Receptive: Are you receptive to the thoughts and opinions of others, not in the way of dismissing your own but open to meeting another’s actions, behaviours and opinions with love and acceptance? Allowing them to be who they are without judgement or constraint? By remaining receptive you show that you are considerate and respectful and not trying to force a response or outcome you want which in turn shows another how you also want to be treated. We teach people how to treat us!
Abundance: I used to associate abundance in a monetary sense very long ago and of course that was a very naïve assumption. Abundance is present in so many areas of life and monetarily is actually the least valuable. Abundance in love, respect and compassion towards yourself and for others are the highest of value and my most cherished. You cannot buy any of these nor can you force them, they are most beautiful when given freely and without attachment. The authentic moment is priceless!
Gratitude: It’s important to have gratitude for even the difficulties as terrible as they are because it is both good and bad experiences that shape you into the person you become. When I have experiences that don’t turn out the way I hoped I have always concluded that there must have been an aspect of myself I needed to grow or strengthen to better serve me in the future. Becoming aware of each and every success or challenge that has changed something in me for the better is why I continue to keep this faith. Even the small steps matter!
When you find yourself off the beaten path do whatever you need to rein yourself back in, look for your signs they truly are all around you trying to guide you back and remember:
- Everything happens for a reason
- We teach people how to treat us
- The authentic moment is priceless
- Even the small steps matter
Forge ahead with intention, change your negative experiences into positive, stay open and receptive to welcoming abundance in your life with a big dose of gratitude!
Shelley Hallmark 