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What’s Your Karma?

15 May

Cause and Effect

There are many different definitions and concepts surrounding “Karma” but the common thread seems to be that of “cause and effect” or better said “what goes around, comes around”.My belief about the meaning of Karma is that there are two parts to it:

1)      Intention – This does not mean doing random acts of kindness on purpose with the expectation that this will now create “good karma”.  It is simply doing random acts of kindness with the intention of generating a positive feeling in the recipient.  In my opinion it is the positive act with the only desired outcome being that you make someone’s day better that automatically generates the good karma.  The unintention within the intention.

2)      Reaction – One of my favorite quotes by Wayne Dyer that clearly expresses this;

         “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” 

So true, and quite often reaction can be a very difficult emotion to control.  When others have treated me in a way that hurts or upsets me, my immediate reaction can be either to act out or shut down.  I’ve found that neither one of these have ever been a beneficial solution.I’ve had my own difficulties with trying not to let others words/ actions affect me and sometimes it can still be an ongoing battle but I’ve found that it depends on the state of being I’m in at the time an issue arises.  If I am in a place of feeling strong within my mind and soul then no one can affect me, however if I am in a less than strong position I will have a feud going on within me just to fend it off.  One of the quotes I constantly remind myself of when I’m in those less than strong positions that helps me find my way out is, of course, another Wayne Dyer quote:

        “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”

It doesn’t always work for me at first but if I keep repeating it in my mind at some point it kicks in.  Along with that I will constantly ask myself “do I want to allow others to block my happiness or positive energy?” or “give someone else the power to change my future?”  

Absolutely No Way!

I know that when I’ve let someone else’s behavior affect me I’ve noticed that it has a direct effect on all those around me, my entire day and every day after that until I stop letting it affect me.  It’s something I have to consciously choose to ward off and it can sometimes take all of my positive energy just to stay on the level but it’s a definite “have to” for me, and the most necessary step in maintaining my spirit.

I do have one aide that I use that helps to calm me internally when someone has affected me and it really does work.  I bought myself a clear crystal quartz that hangs on a nylon cord like a necklace and I wear it when I feel out of sorts.  Clear crystal quartz is said to have healing properties that cleanse away negativity, clear blockages and balance your crown chakra.  It’s called “the poor man’s diamond” because it’s so rich in every way except material value.

It’s been said that your karma follows you through each and every life until you’ve paid up the karmic debt that you’ve created.  I can’t say one way or the other on this statement as I would have to have data from not only mine but from others past and current lives.  I don’t know if that’s even a possibility to complete, at least not for me anyway.  I do believe in the statements of the karma coming with you through each life and the karmic debt being paid.  I think that anyone can turn their karma around as long as their intention is coming from an open and honest place.  Of course I don’t mean that by reaching an open and honest place that means that they are automatically paid up for any past transgressions.  I view it to be a process, somewhat like a 12-step program and that the person who has made this transformation within is usually eager to make amends and make up for any stress and/or hurt that they’ve caused.   It is through these positive desires that the karmic debt gets paid up, not just because they’ve made amends but because the intention is open and honest and their words/actions are consistent with that intention.

 
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Posted by on May 15, 2012 in Blog

 

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Purpose & Passion

01 May

Every Obstacle or Setback Creates an Opportunity

It’s hard to believe that this would be true but it is and believe me I’ve done my fair questioning of “Are you kidding me?”  It is usually through difficulty that we find out what we are really made of and what we really can accomplish.  The question to ask when you are in the midst of difficulty is do I want to find a positive outcome and do better or do I want to look for an excuse not to try and do the same or worse.  It’s the balance of positive versus negative and that can be a battle all on its own.  Some have to work harder than others to find the positive side but I can assure you it’s totally worth it.

Of course it is easiest not to try, there is no effort required for that route at all and unfortunately that makes it the most travelled road but definitely not the most pleasant, positive or purposeful.

I know everyone out there has the desire to have a better life and anything worth having is definitely worth working for.  If things were too easy they would be so attainable that they likely wouldn’t be desired.  This is true in taking the path of “not to try”, there is absolutely no effort required in this route and I’m quite sure that there isn’t one person out there that wants to have nothing, no one says when they are a child that my life goal is “not to try”.  Every child has a dream and just because we are now adults doesn’t mean that you’ve passed the point of attaining a goal you made as a child, teen or young adult.  The only difference is that you just alter the timeline, instead of achieving something by the time you were 25 you now achieve it by the time you’re 35 , 45, 55, etc.  The only reason you can’t achieve something should be because you are no longer on the earthly plane, other than that being an obstacle, there are none.  We only create obstacles to make ourselves feel better for not doing something we really wanted to do and at the end of the day you still don’t feel better.

Some of my biggest setbacks have created the enlightenment that I needed to guide me to my greater passion and purpose.

I can honestly say without a doubt that I wouldn’t change any of the events that led me to where I am today.  Of course some of them were so far from ideal that I was questioning the greater reasoning  behind them at the time, but all of them I can now honor and appreciate because they led me to my passion which then led me to my purpose.  The way I was able to find my purpose was  within, I started listening to my inner spirit.  It had always been whispering to me and I found that it was only when I started to listen and pay attention that it became louder and stronger.

My purpose has led me to a greater form of contentment, peace and balance which has motivated my desire to stay on this path.

If you are looking for a sign that you deserve to honor your and achieve your innermost desires then this is it.

You ARE worthy!

You CAN achieve whatever you desire!

You CAN live a life with purpose and passion!

DON’T let anyone ever tell you any different!

 
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Posted by on May 1, 2012 in Blog

 

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Positively Empowering!

10 Apr

It’s Never Too Late to Re-Write Your Life Story

It’s been a very contemplative week for me, a lot of deep thinking and it’s all due to the power of the positive.  I’ve had the benefit of watching Oprah’s Lifeclass Tour which began just last week and I’ve found it to be a huge opportunity for expanding my own personal growth.  I don’t think anyone is ever really done when it comes to expanding your awareness.  I definitely don’t think that I have things all figured out and I absolutely love that Oprah is putting on this tour and broadcasting it worldwide.  I am so excited to see positive thinking and personal empowerment being spread on such a global scale.  The opportunities we can all create for ourselves have no limits and this tour is a huge reminder of that as well as an opportunity for anyone looking to experience personal growth, empowerment, awareness, motivation and inspiration.  So far there have only been 2 shows of this tour televised and it has already amplified my own thirst for personal growth and empowerment.  It has helped me to continue to remind myself that what I want to project outward at all times is a healthy and positive attitude and that no matter who or what the circumstance is I am going to be strong and not allow anything to interrupt or change that in any way.

If something is bothering or interrupting my personal flow of life I find that the best thing I can do is try to find the ultimate reason behind it, look for the positive lesson.  Sure, I could shrug my shoulders, give in and scream out “what’s the point of this?” or say “it’s not my fault, it’s theirs”, but for me I don’t see any benefit in doing that ever!  It doesn’t solve anything, it doesn’t make you feel any better and it certainly doesn’t change things.  So if you’re going to say “what’s the point of this?” make sure that question is directed to “what’s the point of me giving this any energy?”.

One of the key things on the first show that I believe to be a very significant factor in a lot of people’s lives is “what story are you telling?”.  If the reasons you aren’t succeeding or moving forward are because of a difficulty you’ve experienced in your life ( in your past ) then you need to stop telling that story.  It’s something that has caused you pain but by continuing to use that as your story (your excuse) you are the one holding yourself back from being all that you are meant to be.

When you continue to re-tell your story of the obstacles that have prevented you from having the life that you wanted, you are reinforcing that story and giving it more energy to grow and become an even bigger obstacle.  Close off the old story – “Life was tough before now, some of it was very painful, but now I’m going to take charge and I’m going to change it, it’s going to get better.  It’s going to be the life that I want and that I was meant to live”.

You need to re-write that story to suit you better to who you are now and who you want to become.  A good beginning, that I have used, is to simply change my perspective and attitude, it doesn’t cost a thing.  Maybe at first you may not see the changes and it’s not because they aren’t there but it does take some time to learn how to recognize your newfound awareness but it won’t be long before you are able to fully embrace it and begin to move forward.

Start your new story now, don’t wait, don’t leave it for another day.  If inspiration, motivation or both strike you, then you need to strike back while the iron is hot.  I know you are totally worth it to re-write your new story, one that is more positive and of more benefit to the direction you want to see your life go.   The only way to grasp a new way of life is to let go of the old one.

 
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Posted by on April 10, 2012 in Blog

 

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Look for the Positive

07 Feb

We can’t stop things from changing

Everything happens for a reason, and of course that’s not always helpful when the things that happen don’t feel so good emotionally but what can make that emotion worse is not allowing yourself to find the positives.  I know!  I don’t always see them at the beginning either, in fact sometimes I’m constantly questioning and by doing that I prevent myself from finding the peace and balance that lies in the “in between”.

Luckily for me, anything that isn’t positive feels foreign to me, like a sickness, which is something I just can’t put up with.  My stubbornness to have to experience anything like that for too long definitely outweighs my constant questioning and denial so I always find my positive answers and if I’m lucky it doesn’t take me too long to do that.  First things first though, I think everyone notices when something doesn’t feel right within and I think our gut instinct always knows what it is but sometimes our egos tend to think they know better and brush off our initial instincts.  The best route is to try to change that process as soon as you notice those subtle differences.  At first it may take some time to raise that awareness but after a while it will become second nature and next thing you know you are fighting off those awful emotions and finding the good in the situations.

It’s our emotions that will always take us to different areas of our lives and whether or not we want those emotions sometimes doesn’t matter.  You can’t change the way you feel so maybe you should try to change the way you are seeing something.

There’s no point in hanging on to the negative side of situations and I know that it can be very difficult to find the positive in some of them but it’s always there, and what good does it do to not find it?  You’re not going to feel better in fact you’ll feel worse.

I know I would much rather choose happy!

There are so many positive things that we can look forward to and be inspired by in this world.  Sure there are also negative things too but I would rather feed the positive and spread that.  The more we diffuse and push aside the negative the weaker it will get and the less chance it will have of continuing to grow.  It’s what we put out energy into that expands and I would much prefer that what expands for everyone are the positive moments.

It only takes one kind moment to change the course of someone’s day for the better.  If we were all striving to be that person imagine how different our days would be.

 
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Posted by on February 7, 2012 in Blog

 

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Full Steam Ahead

20 Dec

Changing your Thinking, Changes your Life!

I seek to inspire and motivate those that wish to be inspired and those that feel they have no options.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, what we think about is what we attract.  The Law of Attraction (LOA) is always operating, positively or negatively.  Your thinking is what drives the happenings in your life, changing your thinking effectively changes the outcome of your reality.  If you want to achieve or attain something within your life, your belief on if it’s a possibility for you will determine if it does in fact become a reality.  If you want your circumstances to change, changing your thought process is the way to begin.

You can alter the direction of your life simply by changing your thoughts to work for you.  Wouldn’t you rather have your life going in a direction that you are guiding?  At times I’ve felt that my life was controlled or directed by circumstance or events but when I’ve thought back the circumstances and events could very well be related to my thought process and the fact that I was utilizing my thoughts incorrectly.

My process has always been thinking and then writing down my possibilities; and from there I take those possibilities and create something like a flow chart.  It’s amazing to see when it’s all laid out like that, that what I initially viewed as “no options” grew into an amazing amount of possibilities.  The more I explore these possibilities, the more my options grow.

Another part of this process has been to change my state of mind and being.  Instead of thinking of what I don’t want in my life, I’ll try to think of what I want and live in that gratitude or state of being.

I’ll thank the Universe for bringing only positive people into my realm or give thanks for that job that suddenly popped up that I wanted.  In my case right now I have 2 more books that I’m working on and when I get thoughts and ideas to put into these books I give thanks, and then more thoughts and ideas come along.

I know this may sound crazy to some but it’s really how it works and it’s so simple and free.  Why not give it a try?

1)      Note where you are at now

2)      What you want to attract

3)      Give thanks when you receive any one of these wants

4)      Keep doing that process over and over

I’ve been amazed myself at how simple it is to change your thoughts and that one simple change can alter your whole outlook and reality.  The LOA is a very powerful state of mind and being, it doesn’t cost you a thing.  Maintain a strong focus to change your thoughts to work for you instead of against you and I can assure you, you will not be disappointed.

 
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Posted by on December 20, 2011 in Blog

 

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Who’s Got Your Back?

29 Nov

Quality Friends are Priceless

It can be so difficult to maintain the energy needed to deflect negativity if you have to deal with such behaviours on a daily basis or on any basis.  When negativity comes into our space it doesn’t just thrust the negativity at us but sometimes it takes up residence for a day or two within us.  It’s hard to determine how it’s going to affect us because that all depends on our current disposition.   If you are stressed or overwhelmed you are already in a vulnerable position.

It’s a similar feeling to being tired and run down and someone with a cold comes near you, it’s harder to fight off those germs then if you were well rested and feeling strong.

It can be difficult to rally up a positive state of mind and being when you’re at this point but it is so important for your health, mind, body and spirit.

In addition to journaling I also talk with my closest friends that I trust when I feel at odds with either someone or a circumstance that I feel helpless in and they do the same with me.

When I feel I can’t find the answers I need or I feel the urge for a little extra boost of inspiration I always find it within my friends.  I don’t think they always know how they’ve helped but sometimes it takes that one moment of understanding or those compassionate words of wisdom in their own special way and they’ve set me off in an entirely new and positive direction.

As single moms, as women, we need our girlfriends to keep us sane, to keep us grounded, and to keep us real.  If you’ve got great friends there isn’t anything you can’t battle, overcome or defeat.

Quality friends are Priceless!

 
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Posted by on November 29, 2011 in Blog

 

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Dream Soup for the Soul

09 Nov

Your deepest desires and dreams are what feed your soul. Don’t ever give up on trying to achieve something because of a self-imposed limitation or the limitations imposed by others. There is no shortage of desires, but there is a shortage of people with the determination to achieve them.

The only one who can hold you back is You!

Every person out there who has achieved their dreams always shares the same messages:

  1. Don’t give up!
  2. If someone had told me a couple of years ago that I would be here, I would have never believed it.

My theory is that it’s half fear (not believing in yourself) and half lack of faith (not believing in the higher power of the universe). Everything we do ties into the LOA ( Law of Attraction ); we are actually always operating in that state of being. The question is whether you want to make it work for you or against you. When we are fearful of the prospect of change or failing, this will have the LOA operating against us because what you are giving your most energy to will increase. When we are faithful to our hearts’ desires and positive thoughts are abundant, then the LOA operates with us and increases that energy.

My biggest moments of fear have also been my greatest moments of positive change. Change that has taken me into a much more beneficial area of life then I could have ever predicted or imagined. Every time something great has happened for me has been when I have let go of the reigns and believed. It’s difficult to do and sometimes scary, but I can honestly say I have never been disappointed, and I’m always happily surprised. It actually takes more energy to resist than to go along with destiny. Everything always works out as it is supposed to. Why make it difficult for yourself along the way?

I could have easily given up so many times and blamed circumstance, timing, etc. but my will (maybe I mean stubbornness) is far stronger than my fear.

I fully believe that we all can do anything we need to or desire to, against the odds that others may throw at us or our own.  We all have a strength within us to achieve. Just tap into it, don’t let anyone ever discourage you, and don’t accept anything less than you deserve.

Truly Believe in yourself!  You won’t be disappointed.

 
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Posted by on November 9, 2011 in Blog

 

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