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The Voice of Reason

17 Jan

A Diamond in the Rough

As of late the current events have been focused on our children and I wish that they were all positive but mostly they have been sad and senseless.

There are so many terrible, difficult and challenging trends that affect our children, sometimes in a very tragic way.  The difficulties that are being experienced are also at times being sensationalized and as much we are all trying to acknowledge and remedy this globally the battle still continues.

It’s through our genuine presence in our children’s lives that we create a positive influence.  An influence that they will carry with them throughout their daily lives.

Believe me, I know how busy life can be.  The demands on our time can be overwhelming and sometimes we feel pulled in many directions, multi-tasking has become a normal part of our day.

Our focus on our children is the one thing that we can’t afford to compromise.  I can only speak as a Mom, I believe that our children are the most significant loves of our lives.

As much as we want to let them have some independence and allow them to experience life and grow, it’s so very important to build a solid, compassionate and genuine communicative foundation.

In creating this foundation we are providing our children with supportive values and morals that will become their own inner voice of reason.

It’s that inner voice of reason that helps to keep us all on the safest path as we navigate through different and challenging experiences.

As parents we should all be helping to provide the safest path for our children.  Sometimes they don’t want us to be so present but it is necessary and much later in life they will look back on it and be glad that we were there.

Be present.

Be supportive.

Love is Louder!

 
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Posted by on January 17, 2012 in Blog

 

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Better Days Ahead

11 Jan

Healing to Move Forward

Healing within to move forward can be quite a challenge at times, it requires letting go of the past hurts and that takes a great deal of inner strength and discipline.

Sometimes it can feel almost impossible to let go of the hurt, especially if those feelings run deep but it is so important.  If you keep any hurt in your life on a daily basis it can potentially take over your life.  The longer you feed this emotion the more it will grow and sometimes it grows to  insurmountable and overwhelming proportions.

I myself have had this experience and when I was hurting so profoundly I found that I could hold onto and recount every detail and connective emotion exactly as if it had just happened. 

Every time you recount an experience it’s as if you are re-living it and that is what helps the seed of resentment take root.

  1. The first part of the process is acknowledgement, taking ownership of the part you play in harboring this hurt.
  2. Next is deciding to no longer allow it to have any power over your life, physically or emotionally.
  3. After you have truly embraced the first two steps you will find that moving forward happens so naturally and easily.

It will leave you wondering why you had held onto it for so long when it feels so good to finally let it go.  The feelings of letting go of such hurts has been described as a feeling of spiritual healing and like a weight instantly being lifted off.

The healing phase then starts and as every day passes you will find that you get further and further away from the hurt.   I found that after a period of time, that some of those details that I clung to so tightly were gone and I couldn’t recount at all anymore.  Letting go allows you to say this will no longer control or harm my life.

When you acknowledge, decide and let go you are not saying it’s ok that someone has hurt you, you are saying I’m allowing myself to heal and feel whole again.

 
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Posted by on January 11, 2012 in Blog

 

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Stay the Course!

03 Jan

New Years Resolutions – Part 2

In keeping with my last week’s blog I wanted to remind and inspire everyone to stay the course with their resolutions.  We are nearing the end of the first week of 2012, don’t let the wind out of your sails.

Keep striving to attain your desires for this exciting new year, I have a very good feeling that it is going to be a prosperous and happy 2012 for all and what better way to celebrate that than by sticking to your resolutions and goals you’ve set out for yourself.  Keep your eye on the Prize!

Stay charged up and keep reinforcing all the plans you have made for this new year.  Review your resolutions, if you feel so inspired, maybe add to them.  It’s all about the magic in the air at this time, it’s yours to utilize and to achieve your innermost desires and dreams.

The place where you get to shine, not only by doing something that serves a greater purpose but also because you are doing something that infinitely makes you shine from within.

Whatever it takes to keep you on the road of inspiration, use it now.  Find whatever motivation you need to attain your place in this world, the place that you feel the most content and balanced.

Seek inspiration in all those that inspire you, whether that is your family, your friends, or just people you admire, take a page out of their book and apply it to your life.

When you know better, you do better – Maya Angelou

Make this year be a year of change, difference and things you’ve never thought you could achieve come true.  Let go of all that no longer serves you whether that is an outdated way of thinking, outdated expectations, or an emotion that has carried you for too long.

It’s time to feel better, do better and live better!

 
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Posted by on January 3, 2012 in Blog

 

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A New Year, A New Day

27 Dec

New Years Resolutions

I’ve always loved the concept of a brand new year, it’s a time to wipe the slate clean, start anew.  Brand new opportunities are yours to discover and accept with open arms, open mind and an open heart.

We all make New Years Resolutions, some last a day, a week, a month or all year, it’s up to you.  We can make those changes at any time of the year but for me it’s always felt to be a stronger resolve at the beginning of a new year.

It’s not all about the party, it’s about the fresh start in a new direction.  The magic in the air at the beginning of a new year is abundant. This is the time to initiate and make your greatest desires come true.

Everyone dreams of what they want, they do the planning and at the beginning of a new year all those dreams have created an insurmountable amount of energy in the air.  Sadly not everyone who has made their resolutions carry through with them which leaves a build-up of energy available for everyone else to tap into and utilize for their own personal endeavors.

2011 has been a year of significant change for me in every aspect of my life.  Letting go of that which no longer serves as well as reaching for new and beautiful things to enrich and align with my life’s purpose.

I have many new things to reach and dream for in this new year and believe me they are all big.  I am so excited and ready for 2012 it’s going to be a big year for everyone.  Lots of big and good changes are my prediction, and remember just because you don’t always see a change as good at the beginning doesn’t mean you won’t see the good at the end.  Everything happens for a reason.

If I can give you all one thing for the new year, please let it be inspiration to reach for all you desire and deserve.

Make your New Year all that you want it to be:

Dream big! 

Have Faith!

Believe!

 
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Posted by on December 27, 2011 in Blog

 

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Full Steam Ahead

20 Dec

Changing your Thinking, Changes your Life!

I seek to inspire and motivate those that wish to be inspired and those that feel they have no options.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, what we think about is what we attract.  The Law of Attraction (LOA) is always operating, positively or negatively.  Your thinking is what drives the happenings in your life, changing your thinking effectively changes the outcome of your reality.  If you want to achieve or attain something within your life, your belief on if it’s a possibility for you will determine if it does in fact become a reality.  If you want your circumstances to change, changing your thought process is the way to begin.

You can alter the direction of your life simply by changing your thoughts to work for you.  Wouldn’t you rather have your life going in a direction that you are guiding?  At times I’ve felt that my life was controlled or directed by circumstance or events but when I’ve thought back the circumstances and events could very well be related to my thought process and the fact that I was utilizing my thoughts incorrectly.

My process has always been thinking and then writing down my possibilities; and from there I take those possibilities and create something like a flow chart.  It’s amazing to see when it’s all laid out like that, that what I initially viewed as “no options” grew into an amazing amount of possibilities.  The more I explore these possibilities, the more my options grow.

Another part of this process has been to change my state of mind and being.  Instead of thinking of what I don’t want in my life, I’ll try to think of what I want and live in that gratitude or state of being.

I’ll thank the Universe for bringing only positive people into my realm or give thanks for that job that suddenly popped up that I wanted.  In my case right now I have 2 more books that I’m working on and when I get thoughts and ideas to put into these books I give thanks, and then more thoughts and ideas come along.

I know this may sound crazy to some but it’s really how it works and it’s so simple and free.  Why not give it a try?

1)      Note where you are at now

2)      What you want to attract

3)      Give thanks when you receive any one of these wants

4)      Keep doing that process over and over

I’ve been amazed myself at how simple it is to change your thoughts and that one simple change can alter your whole outlook and reality.  The LOA is a very powerful state of mind and being, it doesn’t cost you a thing.  Maintain a strong focus to change your thoughts to work for you instead of against you and I can assure you, you will not be disappointed.

 
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Posted by on December 20, 2011 in Blog

 

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It’s Not You!

13 Dec

Don’t Take It Personally

Even to this day I struggle to not internalize the shortcomings of others.  Those shortcomings do not belong to us in any way, shape or form.  People act out for many reasons and even though it’s difficult to do this you have to remind yourself constantly that what they are projecting at you comes from a place of their own insecurities and has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Regardless of this it can still be emotionally upsetting and hard to take.

I’ve found that one of my remedies for such a disheartening encounter is to think about and acknowledge the positive things I have in my life and how lucky and blessed I am because of it.

Even with this response there is still much anguish involved when others are harsh towards you.  It’s obviously not a desired encounter but sometimes the positive effect is that it might have helped you to establish healthy boundaries that should have been there to begin with. Boundaries you might not have otherwise invoked if such an encounter had not occurred.

In most relationships there are usually expectations, some are unrealistic and some are in keeping with the Golden Rules of Respect, Trust & Loyalty.  Regrettably some have higher expectations on others then they put on themselves when dealing with their relationship.

Not all relationships are meant to last forever, some are there to teach us lessons, build strength or develop a more balanced and healthy lifestyle.

Everything happens for a reason!

Trust in that, have faith that everything works out as it should.  We can’t always see the end of the tunnel but we need to keep walking towards the light.  Even when you can’t see it, have faith that it’s there.

 
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Posted by on December 13, 2011 in Blog

 

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What are your Intentions?

06 Dec

Living Life with Purpose

Your intentions within your own life are very important to honor and follow.  When I was a teenager I had no idea what my intentions in life were and it took me a very long time to figure it out.  There were many kids in my school that already had a plan for their life’s direction.

The ones that had their ideas and plans made were what I consider now to be the lucky ones because they knew exactly what they wanted to do and what they needed to do to get it.

When I was young and immature I had judged that as being lame.  Nevermind the fact that I had no right to judge in the first place but when I look back now I cannot help but admire those kids, who are now adults, and mostly likely living their dreams.    I remember they were very driven and goal oriented and I can’t imagine that they wouldn’t have walked the path that they had charted.

If you were like me when I was young then there is no point in having regrets that hold you back now, there’s no such thing as “too late”.  Our intentions, no matter what they are, can feed our desired achievements now and well into the future.  It’s just a matter of believing in yourself, your dreams and the possibilities of the future that you want.

You’d be surprised at how simply shifting your thought process can directly affect the outcome of your reality.  Truly believe that you can achieve something, have your intentions and sense of purpose be in alignment with that and you will be unstoppable to attain exactly what you desire.

It’s those inner needs and instincts that are in alignment with your true purpose.  We always know when something doesn’t feel right but sometimes follow through anyway and that is when you are not in alignment with your soul.  Follow your inner needs and instincts and you will never be led astray.

I can’t even begin to tell you how free you will feel when you follow your life’s purpose which is also the path of least resistance and so much easier than battling to succeed at something that didn’t feel entirely right to begin with.

Don’t Dream Practical.

Dream Big!

 
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Posted by on December 6, 2011 in Blog

 

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Who’s Got Your Back?

29 Nov

Quality Friends are Priceless

It can be so difficult to maintain the energy needed to deflect negativity if you have to deal with such behaviours on a daily basis or on any basis.  When negativity comes into our space it doesn’t just thrust the negativity at us but sometimes it takes up residence for a day or two within us.  It’s hard to determine how it’s going to affect us because that all depends on our current disposition.   If you are stressed or overwhelmed you are already in a vulnerable position.

It’s a similar feeling to being tired and run down and someone with a cold comes near you, it’s harder to fight off those germs then if you were well rested and feeling strong.

It can be difficult to rally up a positive state of mind and being when you’re at this point but it is so important for your health, mind, body and spirit.

In addition to journaling I also talk with my closest friends that I trust when I feel at odds with either someone or a circumstance that I feel helpless in and they do the same with me.

When I feel I can’t find the answers I need or I feel the urge for a little extra boost of inspiration I always find it within my friends.  I don’t think they always know how they’ve helped but sometimes it takes that one moment of understanding or those compassionate words of wisdom in their own special way and they’ve set me off in an entirely new and positive direction.

As single moms, as women, we need our girlfriends to keep us sane, to keep us grounded, and to keep us real.  If you’ve got great friends there isn’t anything you can’t battle, overcome or defeat.

Quality friends are Priceless!

 
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Posted by on November 29, 2011 in Blog

 

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The “aha” Moment

22 Nov

Peace + Balance = Contentment

It took me so long to get to the point of Contentment, Peace and Balance.  Not because it was something that takes a long period of time to achieve but because it takes letting go and allowing those “aha” moments to shine through.  It’s amazing how when you follow the path of least resistance how much it opens the doors to what your life should be.

Everyone has had those “aha” moments, and I personally love them.  I wish every day contained one because I always feel so elated internally when it happens.  It was one of those “aha” moments that sparked me to write my book, all of a sudden all the pieces of the puzzle come together in that very moment and it’s exhilarating!

What follows those moments is peace, balance and ultimately contentment because you’ve solved one of your own life’s mysteries, of course there are many more along our life path to come.

Contentment comes in many different forms but I believe that it’s all about connecting.  When you connect with others on a soul level they can inspire you in ways you didn’t know were possible.

Contentment, for me, came from letting go of things I thought were important and trimming back to the basics.  In today’s busy, material world we become so enmeshed with all these “things” that we think we need but really they clutter our minds, our life and ultimately our Contentment.  I’m not saying have nothing, I’m saying have what brings you contentment. 

When I am in a state of Contentment I find that I have gratitude and appreciation for all that surrounds me, everything is beautiful and wonderful.  I strive to make contentment a permanent fixture within my emotional psyche for all the days not just because it feels great but because it also feels great for everyone around me.  When we project contentment from the inside to outward we are spreading happiness with everyone we come into contact with.  Now this is an emotional “state of being” that is worth spreading around.

My favorite quote that I always strive to meet is one of the “states of being” that provide me with Contentment:

“To Laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.  This is to have succeeded.”  — Ralph Waldo Emerson

 
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Posted by on November 22, 2011 in Blog

 

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We’re All Human

17 Nov

Respect and Forgiveness for yourself first!

We all have many challenges and tests throughout our lives, some are much harder than others and when we are in the middle of the harder lessons it can sometimes be really difficult to find the light at the end of the tunnel.  Once you finally come through it though it’s important to recognize and honor how much you have learned and progressed from it.  Have gratitude for having the strength to make it through and all that you’ve learned about yourself along the way.

I always find that at the beginning of something difficult I try to find answers and solutions.  It’s hard for me to have patience and it challenges my faith in my own belief that “Everything happens for a Reason”. 

Whether you’re successful or not depends on how you view it.  Everything happens for a reason, success or failure could be exactly that reason.  I find that the expectations I have for myself are so high that I don’t allow myself any room for error, when I fail I am very hard on myself.  So it’s very likely that when I experience failure, that is the lesson – to allow myself to make mistakes and handle them with integrity and to know that NO ONE is perfect so why should I expect perfection from myself 100% of the time.  Eventually the understanding of each lesson will come at the time when you are ready to accept it for the greater purpose it serves.

It’s so important to acknowledge where you’ve come from, how you got there, and the person you have become along the way.

When we hold on to resentment or anger ultimately we are hurting ourselves, not the people we have these feelings toward, and what we are really holding onto is the hurt.  In forgiving you are allowing yourself to move on and away from the terrible feelings, you’re allowing yourself to no longer hurt and to move forward to a happier life.  It’s such a hard thing to do but I can assure you, you can’t even imagine how much better life will be when you do.  Make the shift , forgive and move on to happiness, the LOA (Law of Attraction) will increase that state of being.

 
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Posted by on November 17, 2011 in Blog

 

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