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When You Know Better, You Do Better

Strengthening the Ground You Stand On!

This eye-opening phrase comes from Maya Angelou and I first heard it when watching an Oprah Winfrey show a few years ago and even though at the time I thought I understood the meaning it turns out it didn’t fully sink in until recently when watching one of Oprah’s Lifeclass segments where she really dug into it.

Even though all of her shows, master classes and now lifeclasses focus on life enrichment and enlightenment for the betterment of our inner spirits I have always found it amazing that she could interview anyone and I mean anyone, including those that have been negatively labelled by society. How does she do it without reservation or judgement with regard to the actions that have brought the negative labels attached to them? A lot of times we can end up judging another person based on what we’ve heard or seen of their actions but who are we to judge? I’m quite sure that no one is perfect, everyone has made a mistake at one time or another.

I have chastised myself for the times I’ve allowed others to take advantage of an aspect of my personality and what I finally got from this phrase was while it was not nice for someone to take advantage they were able to do so because I let them, now I know better. I can’t continually punish myself for the actions of someone else because I was hurt by it, all I can do is learn from it and strengthen my boundaries so it doesn’t happen again “When you know better, you do better”.

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What an “aha” moment it was when I finally got this in its full context and along with it came the enlightenment that if someone hurt me in my past I can’t continue to judge them for it now or carry it into my future because I allowed it, I let it happen. I didn’t knowingly consent to it but I also didn’t object, I didn’t communicate my discontent and that’s on me. Just maybe, they didn’t know better or maybe they did but that doesn’t matter because all actions have karmic consequences doled out only by the Universe and if someone knowingly and/or willingly takes advantage of another it is not my karma, it is theirs.

Negative experiences usually cause internal emotional hurt and/or pain and we all deal with these kinds of experiences differently. Some act out aggressively to release it, some internalize and act out passive aggressively and some bottle it up. The best way to heal is to acknowledge the hurt, allow yourself to feel it so you can make peace with it, learn from it and only then can you truly move forward and release it.

Negative experiences can sometimes stall you in life and paralyze you from moving forward, keeping you in that time to remember it over and over again. Knowing and doing better because of it frees you.

I’ve made my own mistakes, I learned from most of them, sometimes I had to make them twice to learn but “when you know better, you do better”. I certainly don’t make the same mistakes anymore because now I know better and what I’ve now learned to consider is that maybe those who have caused me hurt in the past were acting out of their own pain. Embracing this philosophy has given me a heightened sense of awareness into myself and others and has shown me another level of the “judgement” lesson, I don’t think any of us ever have it all figured out. This “aha” realization has taught me the deeper meaning of empathy and its connection to all of our emotional challenges but in this case specifically judgement, which has allowed me to further my trust that the Universe takes care of us all in relation to the life we live and the seeds we sow.

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Posted by on April 23, 2014 in Blog

 

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My Life, My Way!

YOU Are in Charge

You are the one who has to live in your life every day so it should be going the way you want it to or at least some version of how you see it.  If it isn’t than it’s time for you to take charge of your role and do the work that takes you in the direction you seek.

I think having a plan is the driving force that you need to unleash because we all need something to work toward or gravitate to.  It is inspiration that nourishes the soul, a nourishment that I don’t think any of us should be without because it helps to maintain balance.

My biggest impediments have been allowing those that lessen my worth into my life and it isn’t just through being nasty that someone can lessen your worth.  When you are contributing to something that you know isn’t feeding your soul, you are lessening your worth from what the divine meant it for.

We are here to learn, to grow, to inspire and nourish our spirit to evolve in as many directions as we can while trying to navigate the lessons and challenges that were planned for us while carefully riding the wave of the hidden influences that can interfere.

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The end result of each challenge is always greater knowledge, awareness & gratitude (if you learned the true meaning of your lesson), if you don’t it will keep cycling until you do.  Your gut instinct will alert you to imbalance but the cycle will only stop when you begin to listen.

We all have an inner war that needs to be battled at one time or another, sometimes more than once and I believe that the way to win your inner war is to take your weaknesses and expose them. 

The cycle is your own inner war (no one else’s) and until you embrace whatever is holding you back resistance will serve as your coat of armor.  Unfortunately that coat of armor will also prevent you from progressing forward because a repetitive cycle will remind you of every experience that bears resemblance so you will never truly experience closure. 

Without closure it is difficult, if not impossible, to move on.

If you can’t be honest with anyone else at the very least be honest with yourself.  Allow yourself to be vulnerable even if it feels uncomfortable or scary.

Vulnerability is the ultimate healer and I think that’s because when you peel back the layers you expose the core and at your core you aren’t negative, you aren’t hindered by insecurity, you have unconditional love and compassion for others.  Being completely vulnerable is the only way to shed the layers of life that have weighed you down and lowered your hope.  Once you have reached that point there is only one way to go and that is up and why not “go for it”?

Allow your imagination to reach into every depth of your interests, somewhere within your imagination is where your passion and purpose can be found but only if you allow it.

To begin changing the world around you, try one act of random kindness at a time.

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Posted by on December 3, 2013 in Blog

 

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Don’t Ever Be Done!

There Are So Many Levels

There is always another mountain beyond the one you’ve just climbed and continually challenging yourself to be all that you can be is the best motivation for your personal evolution and growth.  Honestly I think my best competition is trying to best myself at something I’ve achieved and I always enjoy the challenge.  If I am unsuccessful at first I find it personally motivating to try that much harder again and again until I achieve my goal.  While I recognize that I am stubborn, this trait has proven to be of great assistance because it helps keep me motivated to persevere even if something is more challenging than I had initially anticipated.

I do believe that the people we surround ourselves with in life can either help or hinder our efforts to progress.

If someone believes in you, do them the honor or letting them know their belief in you is not wasted, rise to all that you can be.  One person can make a difference because on the flip side one person’s lack of belief can plant the seeds of self-doubt and that doubt can destroy not only your faith in yourself but your faith in them.

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I don’t believe that we’ve chosen the people that enter our lives but rather it has been destined to evolve because that was the plan from the beginning, whether we realize it or not.

Everyone that crosses our path, negative or positive, are there to teach us how to determine who we want to walk with us through this life.  All of it is a challenge, some challenges are more obvious than others and I think the ones that are the most obvious are our mistakes or missteps because they hurt and we tend to pay a lot more attention to them whether that is trying to dissect why something happened or trying to determine how to avoid it in the future.

It’s amazing how some of the most monumental developments in my life have evolved from humble beginnings, I mean I’ve literally fallen into great opportunities that have seemed so effortless that had I planned for it I would have expected to have to put more effort into it.  I think that’s the beauty of the destined path especially if you are continually pushing yourself onto the next level of your life.  If you are not open to embracing the challenge and the change you become stagnant and that state of being can deteriorate your spirit into so many negative and non-productive directions.

Everything in life is evolving whether you choose to evolve with or not and it’s your personal and life challenges that can either make or break how you far you end up going but these challenges build character and strength whether we desire it or not.

There is a lot of reference now to the “bucket list” which I think is a great motivator but only if you don’t take yourself for granted and have enough belief in yourself to know that you will work as hard as you can to do all the things you have on your list.  The “bucket list” is similar to the vision board and whichever format works best to aide you is the one you should use.  I use both actually, mostly because the more I see something the more ingrained it becomes in my mind and which makes manifestation inevitable.  I must have a million different notepads that I’ve written goals in along with the pages I’ve written them on, torn out and carried around with me.  My process works for me, I’ve done clean-ups where I’ve found these notepads or notes and discovered that everything on them was now a checkmark of success.

I know that these successes are the inspiration for my continued climb onto the next level because I want to challenge and push myself to the limits so I can be happily surprised when I achieve success.  It is a joyful feeling to create and induce your personal confidence level when you achieve something that you didn’t know if you could but challenged yourself anyway because of the inner strength it builds.

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Posted by on November 5, 2013 in Blog

 

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When the Storm Ends

A New Beginning Opens Up

I can breathe again!

With the end of any challenging experience brings the opportunity for a new beginning and direction in life.  We aren’t defined by the challenges themselves or if we make mistakes, we are defined by the changes we make as a result.

My recent challenges have finally levelled off and in the last couple of weeks I finally had the chance to exhale.  My renewed sense of awareness, focus and direction are creating a sense of peace that feels like I am in a state of relaxation all day long.  I don’t know if it is just that my mind and body have finally de-activated the “All Systems Alert” button or if the new beginning is the major cause but what I do know is that my new normal is feeling fabulous!

The Storm itself is meant to cause upheaval and depending on what your life lessons are and where you are on your path that upheaval could be either minor or major.  If you are too far off your destined path the major storm can be quite stressful but the storms themselves open up opportunity for growth and transition that you may not have reached without it and hopefully the wisdom you gain is used to your best advantage.  The storms should NEVER be wasted and what ALWAYS comes with them is the opportunity to change things to your liking, you always have a choice.

I’ve experienced both minor and major storms and “God willing” there aren’t many more of the major ones destined but honestly it feels like my latest one really cracked me open and as hard as it was to deal with I really like the end result.

Along with my new beginning came a greater appreciation for the parts of life I used to rush through, I used to get so stressed about making everything I had on my plate fit into my day whether it took up all of my “ME” time or not.  I crammed as much as I could in my day in order to whittle down my ever-growing “to do” list but I was depriving myself of a much needed decompress time at the end of the day and I’ve been doing this for many months, maybe even a year.  No wonder my new sense of peace and direction has me feeling like I’m in a state of relaxation all day long, it makes sense that unwinding from that much lack of self-preservation feels so cathartic.

There were so many benefits that I’ve been able to take away from all my experiences and digging for the deeper strength has been the hardest task but I definitely learned that no matter what if you have to go through something difficult, don’t do it alone!  Regardless of how strong you may think you are, vulnerability is the key to finding the new path.  It doesn’t mean you are weak, actually it is probably the moment you are most open because when you are vulnerable you don’t have the fight left to resist.  Resistance is what prevents you from embracing change and during the storms is the time when the most change is needed.

If you are currently in a storm in your life (minor or major), neither are easy, keep reminding yourself that it will eventually pass and when it’s done there are many gifts on the other side waiting for you.  Embrace them for all that they offer, stay open and mindful that you don’t resist.  You have more inner strength than you probably realize and when you dig the deepest the biggest rewards will follow.  The rewards may not look the way you had envisioned, they will likely be better and bring you a greater sense of peace, as they did with me.

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Posted by on October 15, 2013 in Blog

 

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You Can’t Change the Past!

But You can Build a Better Future

I think it goes for all relationships that if you carry your past attitude, behaviour and habits into your future relationships you end up building the same house.  Eventually it falls apart because the house is built on a foundation that has many cracks that haven’t been sealed (or healed).

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There is no point in dwelling on what you cannot change, all you can do is learn from it, grow because of it and change in spite of it.  Our lessons are contained in all of the people and events that occur during our lives and if you feel like you keep getting caught in the same rut it may be because either you aren’t learning the lesson or you’re misreading it.

Regardless of a “who’s right or who’s wrong” scenario, we all have a part and each of us are responsible for what we do or don’t contribute.  Once you begin to recognize your part, whether significant or not, it will help you to change something that may not be working for you and keeps ending you up in the same outcome.  I love quotes and this one, from the movie (How do you Know?), was one I liked because it resonated with me:

We are all just one small adjustment away from making our lives work.

I really believe this to be true, sometimes it takes the littlest adjustment to my attitude, behavior or habits to effect an even bigger change, a change that works so much better that I’ve wondered “why didn’t I do this long ago?”

It’s not just the past that influences our life, there is also the challenge of the “two wolves theory”, which one are you feeding, and why?

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The two wolves are there to teach us many lessons and to give us the option of free will.

–          Without temptation, how do you learn to do the right thing?

–          Without ego, how do you learn to listen to your gut?

–          Without betrayal, how do you learn forgiveness?

Even though these can be difficult lessons to learn, they become invaluable going forward and they teach you so much about your own strengths and weaknesses and that knowledge can help you to identify where you might want to tweak things a little or a lot.

So how do you change it?

Writing a different future lies within the moment that you decide to take the opportunity to change that which you do not like about yourself so that you can attract the types of people you desire to have in your life.

You can’t change the past but you can build a better future!

 

 
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Posted by on June 19, 2013 in Blog

 

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The Moment of Clarity!

The Ultimate “Aha”

The moment of clarity happens at a different point and time for everyone.  It’s the ultimate “aha” and chances are that the signs have been all around you but they didn’t come together until that poignant moment.

The moment of clarity is always a positive thing but depending on where you are in your life or what you were hoping to change because of that realization, it’s possible that things have progressed ahead too much to go back to where you were hoping or desiring, and maybe the reason for that is, you are not meant to.  The positive aspect is that you’ve reached that point and better to have had that moment later than never.  Growth periods occur not only because they are meant to carry us forward but because somewhere in our future these specific lessons are necessary.

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I’ve had more than one moment of clarity, thankfully not one of them have been at a point that causes me serious regret but I believe that even if there is serious regret involved there is nothing we cannot change through honesty, humility and perseverance.

Even if two people have the same turn of events occur in their life they won’t experience it the same, their reaction and response will be different because just like our physical make-up is unique, our emotional make-up is as well.  Everything that has occurred in our lives from the time we can remember (upbringing, environment, personality traits) influences how we react and respond to all of the moments (good and bad) that we experience and some of those moments can change us forever.

I believe it’s best to focus on where you go from here and how you go about doing that with the integrity of what you have recently learned.  In reflecting on different times in my life it’s amazing how much my life has grown and changed and in no way that I had ever planned or expected but all of it, so far, has turned out much better than I could have envisioned.

I know I’ve referenced this quote before but it’s definitely worth repeating:

A change of feeling is a change of destiny – Neville Goddard

When you experience a moment of clarity, within that lies the opportunity to change your future going forward.  The most monumental moments of clarity are sometimes associated with some form of “Rock Bottom” and from the bottom there is only one way to go – Up!  Rock Bottom is the essence of when you feel completely defeated whether that is physically, emotionally, mentally or all three.  When there is nothing left, there is hope and when there is hope it helps you to develop faith.  Faith can take you in any direction you choose.  The more you believe, the more things change, the more things change, the more you believe, the more this cycle will continue to evolve..

This is probably one of the best cycles to fall into and one of my favorites!  Cycles have the possibility to develop into a snowball effect and for me I’ll welcome this one every time.

Change your feeling and you WILL change your destiny!

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Posted by on June 12, 2013 in Blog

 

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Awareness is Power!

Breaking down the Walls

There are many inspirational, motivational and spiritual teachers out there that are available to all of us, all the time.  They help us through their teachings, insight and universal wisdom and it’s as easy as picking up a book or surfing the internet but in order to absorb this wisdom you need to be open to receive it.  I believe that depending on where we are at within our lives whether that is age, awareness or state of mind, it can determine how willing or open we are.  For example, when I was in my 20’s I wasn’t aware of anything related to personal growth or life’s lessons, not because I was close minded but because the thoughts never even occurred.  My life revolved around playing sports, having fun with friends and shopping, I didn’t start to develop awareness until my 30’s and from that awareness came a desire to discover who I was, what I wanted, where I was going and what it all meant.

I discovered that my connections with some of the people in my life began to transition to a deeper level and that I was drawn to certain individuals because they had a brighter and positive perspective, outlook and attitude.  The transition to my new awareness was seamless and flowed naturally because I was more than willing to embrace it and in turn it enabled me to develop a heightened sense of intuition.  I didn’t struggle with not understanding what was going on within or feeling like I was in some sort of limbo so it was hard for me to relate to those that did but somewhere in between I began to realize that none of us do anything the exact same way as the other.  That is our individual and unique quality, it defines and differenciates us from one another and is to be respected.

We don’t develop, learn or find our path in the same time frame and shouldn’t be expected to or be judged for it one way or the other.  No matter what stage you are at with starting to develop your awareness or just desiring it, it doesn’t matter because at least you’re aware and that’s the beginning.

The road to self-discovery isn’t always easy, everyone has an off day every now and then but if you are having more than one of these days for longer periods of time, then there may be something more going on beneath the surface that would be beneficial for you to learn what the root is.  Downtime that goes on for too long is an indication that there is something deeper affecting you and chances are if you are experiencing this then you are also frustrated, may have a deep sense of sadness and/or feel alone.  This is your inner voice signaling to you and letting you know that your current process needs to change because you don’t need or deserve to feel this way.  It’s important that you listen to your inner voice, it is in alignment with your inner spirit and knows when something is off even if you aren’t fully aware of it yet.   I didn’t always listen to mine when I should have and found that some areas of this process took me longer to reach enlightenment than necessary and because of that I was very hard on myself.  That’s a natural response but of course knowing that doesn’t make it any easier to take although it did help me to lighten the blame I sometimes placed on myself.

If there is something you’re having a difficult time with, don’t judge yourself too harshly, allow yourself the time you need to learn and the time you need to heal when you experience a setback.  If something has you down for too long do what is necessary to prevent yourself from staying in a perpetual state of unhappiness.  We are all here for a reason and I believe it is to live the best life we can.

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My favorite and most inspiring teacher/mentor is Dr. Wayne Dyer, I have learned so many new ways of thought process from him and just the other day his PBS Special “Wishes Fulfilled” was on and even though I have seen it, I watched it again.  One of the many things that he spoke of during this special was something that everyone can try tonight and every night before you go to sleep that will improve your quality of life going forward.  I have quoted some dialogue from his special below:

Job 33-15-16

“In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falls upon men while slumbering in their beds, then He opens the ears of men and seals their instruction.”

Your subconscious mind is most comfortable when you are unconscious.  You are unconscious when you are in your sleep state and in your sleep state your subconscious state is busy at work and it’s the last 5 minutes of your day that are so important.  When you are in that state between being awake and getting drowsy and going to sleep and you are going to marinate for the next 8 hours in your unconscious subconscious mind.  When you’re preparing your marinade, the question is “how do you want to prepare yourself for having your instructions sealed?”  Most people use the last 5 minutes of their day to review all the things that they don’t like, and all of the things that didn’t work, and all of the people that hurt their feelings, and all of the stuff that is going on in their life that they wish weren’t happening, this is their worry time.  This is the time when you fill your mind with all of the stuff and then you go off into sleep and he opens your ears and seals your instructions while you are slumbering. What you want to do is reverse this practice because your subconscious mind is listening to how you are asking the universe to provide for you what it is that you would like to attract or manifest into your life and if you fill your subconscious mind with all the things you don’t want, don’t like, that make you unhappy, that make you depressed, that make you worry.  Then your subconscious mind, which is impersonal, and can’t make a distinction between what it is that you are feeling as a result of what you place into your mind or what is actually happening in your life.  It doesn’t distinguish one from the other, it is just open to suggestion, and here you are suggesting to your subconscious mind all the things you don’t want.  What would you rather have sealed before you drift off to sleep “I am unhappy” or “I am happy”?

It was amazing to me the first time I saw this special and this particular piece was such an eye-opener to me.  I’ve done this before falling asleep, reviewed my day, thought about the things that bothered me in depth and then fallen asleep with those thoughts.  I hadn’t realized that one little adjustment to that could make such a huge difference in aligning me with a happier and healthier state of mind and being.

So tonight when you are in those moments before you are drifting off to sleep, let your imagination of hopes and dreams have the chance to run free.  Think about all the beautiful and positive things you dreamed of as a child for what you wished for in your life and let that marinate overnight.  I think you will have a different sense of self-direction and state of mind the next morning.

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Posted by on December 4, 2012 in Blog

 

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Every Journey Has a Purpose

Are You on the Right Path?

We have all been given what we need to help us get through the challenges we are meant to face.  That help is available to you all the time because it is within you but sometimes it’s difficult to tap into it, especially when negativity has you in its grip.  If you are feeling low, unworthy or disappointed within any area of your life, you have the power to change it.  The big question is “are you going to” or is it easier to place blame and say that’s why it’s not going to change.  Regardless of whether or not you have found your purpose or feel that there is a purpose for you in this life, Pastor Joel Osteen has the real deal on this, his quote below:

If you are breathing, God has a purpose for you.  As long as you have breath, somebody needs what you have, somebody needs your gifts, somebody needs your time, somebody needs your love.

His words are very true, we are all here to learn, teach and grow from every experience and obviously if we grow positively, that is ideal.  It’s not about that fact that you stumbled or fell, it’s how you got up and what you did to move forward while maintaining a little grace and dignity along the way.

If you haven’t found your purpose or passion yet it’s doesn’t mean you don’t have one, it just means you haven’t come to the place in your life yet where all that needs to be aligned for it to occur is fully aligned yet.  With every challenge or lesson I experience I always know that there is a greater purpose for it and even though I don’t know what the greater purpose is yet I know that I have enough faith to believe that it will work out as it is meant to and in the right time.  I know it can be really difficult to wait it out but I am not on my own clock for my intended lessons, it is the universe that will decide when the time is right so there is no point in my stressing about it or resisting.  One of your biggest assets in times like these is having faith and trusting in that faith.

Changing the conversations and internal dialogue that you have with yourself is another one of your assets.  It’s amazing how different your life can be if you start to believe in yourself, others will follow and believe in you too.  Instead of feeding the voice of negativity, the one that tells you that you aren’t worthy, intelligent, beautiful, abundant and so on, feed the voice of the positive.  The Universe responds to whatever you are telling yourself whether that is negative or positive.  Start telling yourself how lucky and blessed you are, live, breathe and feel the emotions attached to those statements and you will find that you will start to see great things develop in your life.

The biggest hurdle you will have is at the beginning because it starts with acknowledgement and awareness and changing and expanding those two require a lot of discipline.  If you’ve had significant difficulties in your life so far, the first thing you can acknowledge is that regardless of how challenging or disheartening they may have been, you made it through it.  That’s a huge accomplishment and not one that should be ignored or pushed aside.  Don’t put the emphasis on how awful it was, put the emphasis on how impressive it is that you came out with more wisdom then you went in with.  My other favorite quote is from Wayne Dyer:

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

This is a great example of how changing your focus can put the right emphasis on the challenges you’ve had so far and when you do that it will also de-emphasize the severity of the negative thoughts that you may be replaying in your mind.  It will also reinforce your feelings of empowerment, pride and self-respect and that is the beginning of the new and improved path.

Your internal dialogue is the most prominent voice in your life, whether it is subconsciously or consciously fueling your thoughts of self-worth.  The best change you can make in your life is to use this internal dialogue in a positive and productive way for yourself so that you can live your best life.

One of the biggest changes I’ve made that always turns out to be the best decision is stepping out of my comfort zone and choosing the road I am scared to travel.  I think sometimes we need to take risks and scare ourselves, it is within those risks that we experience the most personal growth and achievement, at least it has been for me.

 
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Posted by on November 27, 2012 in Blog

 

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Things Aren’t Always What You Think

Are your Signs Getting Through?

Sometimes the signs aren’t always what we expect, or even how we expect them to materialize in front of us.  Sometimes the strangest occurrence is what makes the most sense later and I’ve always found that to be so odd when it happens to me. 

Some of the biggest challenges I’ve had seemed so senseless at the beginning but have turned out to be the most valuable lessons and not one of them materialized in the form even close to what I had envisioned.  I believe the signs we receive are much like the old tale that everyone repeats about finding love.  It comes when you least expect it and it’s not at all what you had in your mind.

I think that sometimes the signs are repeated through various forms until we recognize them for what they are supposed to signify to us.  I’ve recognized that when it finally clicks for me in that moment and the sign (whichever way it came in this time) finally made it through to that part of me that says “aha!”.  I then realize and remember the previous times it came through and I didn’t catch it because it was either too subtle for me or I wasn’t open to receiving it in that way.

I think the biggest sign is the “pay attention now” sign that the universe supplies to us when we don’t listen or just can’t seem to get it.  It’s like a slap upside the head (metaphorically) that is meant to jerk you back to reality.  Depending where you are at in that moment could determine the severity of this sign but I believe it comes at a time when you are about to make a very bad decision that could be either severely disastrous or fatal.  Hopefully at that point you realize what has been staring you in the face all along because if you don’t this will continue to happen and that slap gets stronger and stronger until you become aware.  It’s better to notice much sooner than later, I’ve had a lesson repeat and it’s not fun, second time around was much more difficult than if I’d learned it right the first time.  Given the extent of the downtime for experiencing the lesson a second time around, I’m so glad I didn’t head for the third. 

If you are running into a same issue or difficulty on a repeated basis within your life then you may be in this cycle.  Experiencing the same thing over was a big eye opener for me that ignoring something doesn’t make it go away quietly, it just hides it for a while, only to resurface until you find resolution and/or closure.  The outcome of that resolution or closure is something that will be a personal and reflective process specific to each of us and I believe we all go through it at one time or another in our life.

I do believe that “everything happens for a reason” and if I was meant to go through a specific lesson more than once then I believe it’s because it was necessary to my personal growth and development and would aid me later in life, that is my faith and what helps me to look at these lessons in a more positive and productive light.

I don’t have an “aha” moment every day but I’ve had more than one in my life so far and they are such monumental moments that I view them as blessings.  Blessings I hope for, look forward to, welcome openly and appreciate.

 
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Posted by on August 7, 2012 in Blog

 

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The Road Ahead

Navigating Through Life

How has your road trip been so far?  Have you been able to negotiate the twists and turns?

I’ve heard the comparison of a road map as a reference to our own lives and I can relate.

These are my analogies to travelling the road of life:

–          Construction Zones (A Reminder of Patience – Don’t sweat the small stuff)

–          Soft Shoulders (Sugar Coating Communications – Tell them how you really feel)

–          Yield ( Respecting other’s Opinions & Feelings – We are unique, we all don’t think alike) 

–          Do Not Enter (Crossing Boundaries – know when to walk away)

–          One Way Street (Negative Thinking – Not every obstacle is as big as it seems)

–          Fork in the Road ( Making a Decision – choosing the path that’s right for You)

–          Gravel or Dirt Road (A New Lesson to Learn – Could be a long or short distance, depends on You)

–          Wrong Turn (You’ve Stepped Off your Path – A mistake)

–          Gridlock (Unable to Find Compromise – Only time will reveal)

–          Bridge is Out (Forgive and Forget – Not all mistakes can be repaired, time to move forward)

–          The Runaway Lane (Not Learning a Lesson – Our ego thinking it knows better)

–          Rest Stops (Regaining your Strength – Finding your personal power)

–          Hitchhikers (The People We Allow Into our Life – Positive or Negative)

–          Detours (A New Direction Not Considered – Relying on your gut instincts)

–          The High Road (Don’t Compromise your Integrity – Don’t lower yourself to someone else’s level)

–          All Green Lights (Positive Thinking, natural flow of the Universe)

Some of the various roadblocks that come up in our lives are there for a reason, some are a result of choices made (good or bad), some are there to teach us so we can learn and grow, some are there to serve solely as a “déjà vu” reminder to keep us from straying too far from the main road.

Most of these turns, bumps and challenges are in place to keep us on the straight and narrow, although sometimes we get off course, take a wrong turn and end up on the wrong end of a one-way street. 

  • Sometimes we get ourselves so far off course that our GPS is continually “re-calculating”.
  • Sometimes you end up having to make a complete U-Turn and go back to where you started.
  • Sometimes, you just can’t get there from here!

Not every road leads to a better life but all roads provide us with an opportunity for personal growth.  Along the way we can find great friends, love, passion, purpose and a greater understanding for how impactful positive thinking can be.

The Universe knows where we should be going but we have our own free will to ultimately decide.

 
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Posted by on July 24, 2012 in Blog

 

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